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writes: Around this same time last year, I was with my ex-fiancee who was verbally abusive and who I eventually broke up with. I find myself getting nervous with my new bf and almost getting paranoid, anticipating something bad to happen. I think it's because I'm remmebring what a mess I was, and how horrible things were last time and I'm worried it might happen again.Should I tell my bf this or keep it to myself? I mean, he knows I was engaged before and it didn't turn out good, but do you think I should tell him about my current fear? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): I think its best to be as open and honest about how you feel with every partner that you consider yourself eventually having a good relationship with. That way if you react in a certain way, or say certain things during a period of your anxiety then he knows where you are coming from. Hope this helps! I've been in a similar situation where i've worried things will end badly...etc and i'm glad i let my partners know about how I react to certain things. You may find it brings you closer to each other, opening up about feelings and emotions. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): It's only natural that you are nervous, and it will be a while before you calm down. As long as you're current boyfriend knows why you are nervous and understands, you'll be fine. Everyone is slightly anxious when they get a new partner, you just have to be yourself, get to know them, and when you feel comfortable around him (which will take time) you'll know everything is normal again. Remember, your feelings are totally normal, and you are not the only woman in the world having these feelings.
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