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*azed & Confused
writes:I had been dating a boy for about 3 years and we recently broke up for the second time about 4 months ago. He constantly calls me and emails me and when I respond with a casual answer, he turns around and insults me. He tells me to leave him alone when he's the one who approaches me first! I never contact him and I wanted him to leave me alone as well, so I changed my phone number. But he STILL keeps emailing me. He's already in a relationship but keeps writing to me to tell me how much he hates me. What is his deal; is he not over me? You would think that if someone hated you, they try to avoid you as much as possible, right?
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reader, Dazed & Confused +, writes (19 May 2007):
Dazed & Confused is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do plan to avoid him at all costs. It will be best for the both of us, since I don't think I'm completely over him either.Thanks!!
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reader, penta +, writes (18 May 2007):
 The opposite of love is not hate; it's indifferenc. The 'passion' is still there, but it's turned ugly. You need to cut yourself off from this caustic person.
Changing your phone number was a good start. If you can get someone to help you make his e-mails bounce, I recommend it. Don't respond to him at all. He's getting some kind of sick pleasure baiting you into response, then sticking it to you. Don't feed the beast. You're much better off without him.
BTW, just in case: print out some of the e-mails and keep them in a 'potential stalker' file. You probably won't need them, but just in case you have the proof. Good luck.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (18 May 2007):
 His feelings for at the moment are swinging widly between hating you and still loving you. When you are hurt by someone you love it is hard to seperate the emotions that run through your head.
He is only looking to get a reaction from you rather than hurt you, that i dont think is his intention. You never really want to hurt the person you have loved...
The best thing you can do is give him the space so he can start to go about building his life again.. Please dont hate for this as love and hate go hand in hand and im sure it is just his love for which is fuelling his anger.. Give him the time and space by not replying to any of his e-mail/texts and overtime he will probably regret the things he has said and done...
Best wishes
R
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reader, Trev +, writes (18 May 2007):
 Unless your wanting to get back together with him, do yourself a favor and ignore all emails and calls and dont respond. He is angry he has lost what he had with you. He is recentful and still in love with you.
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