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writes:hi my 15 year old daughter has but social servies on me, she is saying that i don't love her and that she don't wont to come back home to me. she had run away alot of time but not done this before. to try and help i asked my family to let her stay there until we can talk this though but she will not talk to me. i just don't know how to help my daughter. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): social service taking her away might make her grow up, teenagers go through silly times...part of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): "Well your daughter wouldn't of done this for no reason"
That could NOT be further from the truth. I have sacrificed everything for my children and I have one daughter who has turned me into social services because i will not allow her to date before 16 (or obviously, reasonably responsible). She has known the family rules since she was 10. I had grounded her after I found out that her overnight sleepovers with her "best friend" was actually to have sex in a lesbian situation - which I was lied to about. She turned me into social services in order to hurt me. She lies for absolutely no reason. I have always talked to all of my children openly and honestly about everything under the sun and always encouraged them to come to me and their father - we would always love them no matter what. Just because I grounded her for lying to me and breaking our family trust - she made up lies and now has social services coming into our home - and based on what she said - they sent me a letter that they "substantiated NEGLECT" against me????? Oh my Dear Lord - we have sacrificed and given everything to these children and THIS is how we are treated. It is so utterly heartbreaking and unbelievable. Even now, when I look at her, I see my beautiful little girl - all smiles and love and hugs and "I love you mommy" pictures that I still have. Now all I get is a seething, glaring, icy shell that looks like my daughter - but is boiling from it's own vile poison - whatever that is and wherever it came from we have no idea. Our hearts are in the depths of dispair - it could only be worse if she were taken from us by death. We don't know what to do or what will happen, but I'm praying for her every day that somehow, somewhere, the Lord will reach her and return her to us in mind and spirit. I pray for you too.
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reader, sammy29 +, writes (23 September 2007):
sammy29 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thing is i have told both my children that i love them, and that i will help them with anything they need. i do understand that 15 is a hard age as it was hard for me, i have been talking to her but she just dose not wont to no, so i am giving her more time, but social servies wont this sorted out by wednesday so i hope we can thanx for the help, i will give her all the time i can
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Well your daughter wouldn't of done this for no reason
She might have felt that she didn't belong @ home, maybe you treated other siblings better than her? Or you never told her you loved her? Or moaned @ her for petty things? These are reasons why i nearly ran away. But now my sister has moved out its all fine. Your daughter will eventually talk to you in her own time, just don't push her, she's 15, @ that age we are going through so much and think no one understands, which they don't. Juts wait, no one can really help your daughter apart from her.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (23 September 2007):
 there needs to be a reason for her to take such drastic messures? and i am not in any way accusing you of doing anything but in a teenagers mind, something must have happened. she's done it before, so maybe its attention she's craving, just going about it the wrong way.
if you have nothing to hide, the social services will see this and your daughter will come round eventually, and see that this is not an adult approach to the situation.
give her space and time but make sure she knows your thinking about her.
best of luck
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