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writes:I have been together with my bf for 3 years. He is stable and nice guy. Few days back, he told me that he wants to become a monk when he is 55 years old and that was his goal in his life. I was totally speechless, besides tears i really dont know what can I say. He is a strong buddhist. I still cannot believe and accept the fact! Please guide me..Terribly hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 A lot of things change in 30 years (judging by your age). The truth is he could die the day before his 54 birthday... I know, bad cynical joke. But my point is a lot of things change over the years including ones point of views in a lot of stuff. You get married, you have kids and next thing you know he wants to retire in Florida!
We plan something for us and then life happens. Talk to him about this decision, try to understand where this urge of becoming a monk comes from, see if you can share some of his feelings and, if so, stick to him. Maybe at 55 you'll want to be a Buddhist monk too! Good luck!
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Wow! thats a big problem for you isnt it?. Have you asked him where this will leave you, and your future together. Of course there is always the chance that he might change his mind over time. But if he is adamant, you need to think if there a future with him. You dont want to spend to-many years with a guy that basically is going to leave you (you might even have children then), to run off and be a monk.
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (20 May 2008):
 How old is your boyfriend now, and why does he want to become a monk at 55? If he's no where near that age now what does he want to do with his life in the meantime?
It's hard to give advise to you not knowing the time frame maybe you could give us some idea how long it will be till he is 55.
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