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My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him.

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Question - (17 October 2007) 28 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2010)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Just a quick question. Before having sex once, my boyfriend was fingering me and he slowly guided my hand down and basically told me to sort of rub myself. I've never done that in front of anyone before so I was kinda uncomfortable and didn't. He didn't push it.

He hasn't asked me to do it again since, just that one time. However, he does often joke about it. He brings it up farely often, in a jokey way when were on the phone or something.

He hasn't outright asked me to do it again, but do you think the joking is sort of a hint he wants me to masturbate in front of him?

Ive decided that it would be hot and I want to try I'm just not sure ow really.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010):

every man gets sexualy turned-on, by watching his woman, touching and or playing with herself.It's a big part of sexual-arousual, especialy to enitiate the main event.You want your man, long hard and ready? Then, play a while! Bieleve me,the stimulating event will be quite explosively devistating!

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A female reader, Secretelover's helper12 United States +, writes (20 April 2010):

Personally, If you trust him enough to do it infront of him....then go for it.....in the end, it's up to the emotional bond you two have.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010):

ive had my girlfreind masterbate in front of me its ok to do this its like sex but not

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

If you do it anyway when he's not around, do it in bed with him. He will think it's the hotest thing ever.

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A female reader, Sexysammy United States +, writes (20 January 2009):

I just started doing that infront of my boyfriend and he told me how sexy I look doing that. So that boosted my self esteem a lot. It makes you feel sexy n it brings u closer n comfortable with your man.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008):

hmmm it is a hint. my girlfriend did the same thing to me awswell but at the end we both did it infront of each other because we live each other and got used to it and now we do it more often even over the phone or anywhere

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008):

my bf asked me to do that to i was a bit nervous to begin with but then i thought i love him soo much and it turns me on every time i see him enjoying himself. so what happend was i let him go under the blankerts and watch me finger myself and all i could hear was his horny growning under the blankets and a little wile later i felt his toung licking me down there and man i have to say that would have been 1 of the best sexual experiances of my life so give it a go and see if u like it or not k luv

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008):

Me and my girlfriend have always been open and straight foward with each other. And I was suprised when she said, "sweetie, can I masterbate in front of you? I think it would make our sexual relationship much stronger." And since she did, its a regular thing between us now. So you should do it. It will make you closer as a couple, trust me.

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A male reader, saulgoode18 United States +, writes (9 August 2008):

you can do whatever you want to do, and that will not change how he feels about you. as to whether you should try it my advice would be if you do it, masterbate w/o him having to ask so your in control.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008):

hey ive fingered myself infront of my boy friend many times and just seeing his face light up turns me on even more. I usually start then two mins later i can feel another hand on me its great go for it and if u dont like it well atleast u tried

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008):

I have Masturbated many time in front of my husband, he didnt ask me i just was alone in my room and he came in. Now, twenty years later he will masturbate using his hand in my vagina. I think you should try this.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008):

I THINK U SHOULD. BECAUSE I THINK IT WOULD BE FUN AND NEW

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008):

if he jokes about it, he is trying to hint at it without asking

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008):

You should try it. It will be very HOTTTTTT!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008):

go for it .. i think he wants u too .. + it will turn him on. and tell us what happens later

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008):

i gotta admit, us guys are kinda pushy. if you really dont want to, just dont do it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008):

if i were you i would just go for it! If you think that masturbating is hot by yourself just imagine how hot it would be with your guy around. Just pretend hes not there and do what pleases you. Trust me it will please him 2!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008):

i think that he realy wants you to get of right in front of him if i were you i would do it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008):

This is an great way to have sex it takes sex to a nother level.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007):

It's only like one of the top turn ons for a guy. If you like him you'll do it for him. Rule #1 is; Sex- female: emotional. Male: visual.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007):

Yep, he definetly wants you to masterbate in front of him. I know it may seem embaressing the first time you do it, but if you just pretend that you're on your own it'll be a lot easier. You will both be really turned on by it and the sex will be so much better. You should totally go for it.

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A female reader, lisa21 United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2007):

yep he is hinting, my fiance did the same thing to me, god i was so embarrassed, but i decided to try it and i enjoyed watching him getting all worked up that i wasn't worried about it any more, so now i love doing it for him and for ourselves.

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A male reader, rhino United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2007):

rhino agony aunta lot of guys love seeing a women do this,it is a great turn on,dont be shy,2nd have your thought by watching you do,and how you like,is showing him how he can do it right for you next time,(he could be shy too)a lot of guys brag they can do it right and dont,

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A female reader, angelblueeyes United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2007):

angelblueeyes agony auntHi,

Don't worry about finding the right time or what to do it all comes naturally when the time is right and you will have a wonderful experience together, speaking from experience i was terrified at the thought of doing it i thought that i'd look stupid & he would laugh at me but it soon happened and it was fantastic, in a funny kinda way the sex seems to be better & it makes you closer as a couple.

Once you have got over your shyness & done it he will be begging for more!!

Good luck!!

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (17 October 2007):

Collaroy agony auntHoly cow!, yep, he's hinting alright mate.

If you are into it, dont worry what ever you do he will be incredibly turned on by it. Guys who are comfortable with their partners expressing their sexuality love seeing them pleasure themselves.. .it is one of the greatest things on this planet.

If in doubt just do what you do when he's not there!

Good luck!

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (17 October 2007):

Yes, I think it would turn him on seeing you getting excited. Harmless fun if you really get into it.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (17 October 2007):

Danielepew agony auntI do believe that his mentioning is a hint indeed.

If you do think you'd like to do that, who can tell you it wouldn't?

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A female reader, troyssweetie Australia +, writes (17 October 2007):

troyssweetie agony auntok. i had to answer this one cause my boyfriend loves it. yes he's hinting cause he wants you to do it. he's probably one of those guy's that gets really excited over a womans comfort with her sexuality. don't be nervous or shy about it. trust me. he will love you even more for it. it shows him that you trust him and care about him enough to do things that you would normally do in private. not to mention turns him on like you wouldn't believe. don't think about how to do it. just do it and i bet you the sex is better than ever after it. :)

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