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writes:Me and my boyfriend have always gotten along and have a close bond but theres always been somthing that pisses me off. He's jealous of my best friend who is male and also an ex of mine. I've explained so many times that there's nothing going on and that we are just friends, but this causes so many problems with my boyfriend. They have both met and my mate says my boy's a good guy which is good as he dont really like anyone. I'm not planning on changing my friends just because my boyfriend is jealous but i dont want to split with my boyfriend either. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): if you say to your b.f that theres nothing going on , then he should trust you and live with it. If he gets jealous then i suggest that he goes to therapy to sort that out.
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reader, manaja +, writes (9 November 2009):
You must like your ex boyfriend still a hell of a lot or just enjoy winding up your current boyfriend , if you really do care about your current boyfriend, then get shut of your ex , its like a slap in the face for your current boyfriend, personally speaking I wouldnt give you time of day.
If you've no children together then why do you still need to have him about in your life unless you still have feelings for him which I think you have or you just enjoy the attention !.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (5 November 2009):
well he is just your BF right now but if you see him being more such as your husband at any point having a best friend who is a guy and also your ex will most likely cause problems. Its gonna be hard for him to just all the sudden not be jelous as he is your BF now. I don't know if he has any close female friends but if he does he should at least cut way back on his contact with them if he is with you. My advice is to scale back your hanging out with your best friend at the moment to see if that helps. If you bf is not worth doing this than I would say find a new BF.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 So who ended the relationship between you and your ex/now best friend? I'll take a stab in the dark and guess it was you. And that's why your boyfriend is annoyed by it, because he can see that your ex is still keen on you,(whether the ex admits it or not), and I bet you refuse to acknowledge that. It's one thing having friends who are of the opposite sex, but a "best" friend? If he's so "best" why is he no longer your boyfriend? Trust me, if he wasn't still interested in you he wouldn't be hanging around playing 'Best Friends Forever', he'd be out looking for a new girlfriend, and when he finds one, you can bet that if she doesn't want you hanging around crowding their relationship, he wont hesitate to cool off you.
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reader, RosesAreRed86 +, writes (4 November 2009):
I can completely understand why your boyfriend doesn't want you hanging out with one of your exes. Your boyfriend should be your best friend, not some other guy. To be honest, I really think it is inappropriate of you and disrespectful to your boyfriend for you to be spending a lot of time with another man. Especially since he knows that the two of you have dated and presumably had sex, why wouldn't he feel uncomfortable with this situation? I think you need to decide which man you truly want in your life because it's not fair of you to try to keep both of them. How would you feel if he spent a lot of time hanging out with one of his exes?Seriously, adults who are in relationships should not have a "best friend" of the opposite sex. That's the role their partner should serve.
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