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My bf stays until late at his best friend's house and he ignores me when she is around. I heard her saying she loves him. Ideas?

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Question - (28 December 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend stays at his best friends house until like 3 a.m. and hes always ignoring me when hes around her. Its like when she around i dont exist. I cant stand him hanging around her 24-7. She one time said i love you baby to him and boy i filled up with tons of emotions. what should i do???

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008):

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A female reader, KT1 Australia +, writes (29 December 2007):

Have to agree with the others. Talk to him - you're his girlfriend and by what you're saying it's not at all unreasonable for you to be upset and ask him for the truth - it does sound like something is up - you poor thing! Make a time where you tell him that you want to sit down and chat because there's something that you need to disucess. Try to be as calm and rational as possible. Obviously you know him, so you're going to have a make a judgement call as to what's truth and what's not.

Tell him for the sake of your relationship that if there is HONESTLY nothing going on and if he loves you that he needs to cut back some of his time with her. But make sure you don't tell him he has to stop seeing her, because if she is his best friend - that won't work or go down well. You may need to put up with her around, but in a sensible context and not where he's with her alone for long periods of time or until crazy hours in the morning (either in public or private places!) - and you may need to indicate this to him.

Good luck - I hope this sorts out for you!! Please let us know how it goes.

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A female reader, Butterflyfly United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2007):

Butterflyfly agony aunttalk to him, see what he says. don;t torment yourself, only judje by what he says and does AFTER he knows how much this issue upsets you.

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A female reader, LouLee United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2007):

LouLee agony auntUntil 3am in the morning? Ignores you? Ok this is not good! Clearly there is something going on, You need to tell him everything you've said in this question...It may be that this best friend of his is more than a best friend....and it's not right if he is with you. If you do not think this and they generally are JUST best friends then you still need to sort out the problem that he's ignoring you...are you not special enough for his attention? best wishes hun

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A male reader, dc.ryan United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2007):

dc.ryan agony auntYou need to confront your boyfriend, sit down and talk about how him seeing her has made you feel quite upset.

Simple as that, you need to talk to your partner!


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