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My 13 year old friend is dating a 19 year old guy is this going to end well?

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Question - (4 May 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2010)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My friend(Girl 13) is dating a 19 year old boy and they have already like planned getting married and she wants to move in with him because she hates life at home.

I don't think it seems like a good idea but they said it was love at first sight.They have planned to get married when she is like legal age and have already thought of having children. There both emo's do you think its ok?


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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010):

well i dont really agree with you people... not every boy wants to just have sex .. some boys actually have very good intentions. i am an 18 year old and my girl friend is 13. and everything is great.. her familly is kool with us being to gether,, not everything is bad as it seems. so yea maybe it is a lil to early to be talking about marriage and children, cause she is young. and thats one thing i havent brought up at all... but if you feeel this guy wants her for the wrong things then maybe you need to discusss this with ur friend, but however if you kno this guy really loves and cares for her then i suggest you let her be happy. she would realize if somthing wasent right.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009):

sometimes you find "the one" of your dreams and they may not be the same age as you or same race but you may be perfect for each other! but as long as they both have the same feelings for each other it should be a-okay for the moment.


a few things you need to be sure of that this boy isnt bad news as in... he isnt sick or dodgey and is tricking your friend into sex and then ditching her.

my real advice is they should take a break for a few years & meet up again when she is a little older then they will see if they are still ment to be together or if it was just a fase. talk to your friend! talk to her about the replys you have got! so she knows exactly what she is getting her self into!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009):

There is no chance of it working out. Likely, the 19-year old is a sex predator, who should atleast be investigated.

I don't like the sound of a 6-year age difference. If they're planning to get married so soon in the relationship, there's another sign that the dude is a sex predator.

If I were you, I would be a good friend and tell your friend's parents about that guy.

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (4 May 2009):

jessica04 agony auntThis is by far the worst idea I have ever heard. No offense to your friend, but don't you think the guy is a little off if he can only find things in common with a 13 yr old girl? There is a reason why he can't find a girl his own age and needs to prey on the insecurities and mindset of a much younger, much less experienced girl like your friend.

Tell her parents about this guy. He is a predator and should be reported to the police. He will ruin her life if he gets her pregnant at such a terribly young age. She obviously has been fed lies and garbage by this man, and thinks he is a savior of sorts. I don't know any teen who loves being at home. You're not supposed to get a long great with your parents at that age. But this is unacceptable behavior.

As her older friend, you owe her her safety to fill her parents in on everything going on. This guy is bad news.

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (4 May 2009):

LazyGuy agony auntNope. Sounds like she is trying to find an escape from her home situation and find love/affection but she is WAY to young to be a lover, she needs the unconditionale love of a care-take, not the sexual love of a horny boy.

The emo stereotype tends to be the kind who wish to be together against the big bad world. Nobody understands them but each other. The more you pull them apart, the more you reinforce that believe.

There really isn't much you can do about this. It is a fase some go through and hopefully she will come out of it. Or become another statistic on the social welfare chart.

Sorry, to old and to experienced to think this is can be helped or is going to end well.

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