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writes:Hello. I just started dating ds guy who has been my friend for seven years and has been asking me out all those seven years. I love him fearly, God knows I do. But right now, I feel very alone and I'm wondering if I've not made a mistake. I've always known he loved to talk about politics but now its getting annoying cos he does it so much he forfets about me. He cud see a friend off now while I'm at his house and tell me he wud be back and I wudnt see him in d next one hour cos he's wandered off somewhere to talk politics with someone. And all ds tym ild be waitin for him. He loves his phone and laptop, he's always doing some sorta work on them and he gives them more tym than he gives me. Ild stay awake to listen to him but he can't sacrifixe his sleep for me, no matter how little. Just recently, I was cold $ I told him so ( we were both in d room), I just needed to cuddle with him to get warm really coupled with the fact that it was a free day for us both so I was thinkinkin we cud have some tym togeda. I told him I wanted a bear hug $ he wasn't even listening, instead while I was talkn he said he needed to go out. He eventually gave me a kiss $ a hug which I had to go get myself but I was terribly hurt by that. He went out,far from his house aftrwards though I thought he was only goin somwhere close by,he didn't tell me he was goin far, I only found out wen he got back dt he had gone dt far. And wen he came back, I cudnt talk with him again cos I ws thinkin of so much. I'm hurt, really hurt. I don't want to complain cos we just started, I dnt want to seem lik a nag cos recently iv corrected him on a few things but very mildly. I'm just tryn to be careful. Crazy thing is I know he loves me(now I'm thinkin its in his own way) and he's d most faithful man I've known but I feel I'll always come second place to a lot...do help Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyMacassar  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 I have known a man exactly like this, and nothing changed him not even marriage and a baby. His wife got tired of him always being busy; even when he is home, she is alone. She is quite unhappy in this marriage because she is always 2nd, 3rd, 4th to SOMETHING. Just when he seems to get free time, he starts another project. An alternative is to always be busy, yourself, but it still hampers bonding time.
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