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writes:Ok, my marriage to my ex ended in horrors. There were signs which i ignored thinking that I was the one with the problem, or I was just being too "investigative". First off, my ex used to hang out with gay men when we were in college, one of them used to stay over at his house which my ex's mother bragged how "strange" the friend was. She said it in a very disgusted way. I later find out there was a previous friend who i saw and looked gay which also had a stay-over at my ex's house. At that time my ex and i were not living together, we were just getting to know each other. Within that time, he jokes around about this gay guy who would visit his job and send love letters. Later, he confess that he was molested by a male cousin when he five years old. Before we had sex, he was all about getting an hiv test because he had a one-night-stand with this "girl" he met in a club. All this time I asked if he was gay or had something going on. He would strictly deny it and get offended by it. Years later, we got married, it was hell. He got to a point where he would make his own bed in the living room and leave me alone in the bedroom. One night I tried to get into the sofa with him and he pushed me away. One day I caught him masturbating, breathing loudly in the sofa by himself. I began to feel less than a woman. I thought that he might have someone else because when we were dating sex was great. I loved him with all my heart. He divorced me not even close to a year of our marriage. He abandoned me and his child. Years later, we see each other again. It turns out he has a new fling. When I confronted her and told her that he was seeing me again, she became furious. Yet, on another conversation, she called me and said that they were in an "on-and-off" relationship. So I guess he wasn't as dedicated to her as I thought. Previously, during sex he would loose erection right on the act. Knowing the story, is this normal on a man? What the HECK was going on? Was I right? Or am I just speculating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh let me add that one time I called his house. It was late at night. I started to worry because no one answered. Later, like around two in the morning, he calls from his "male" friend's cell phone to say he was alright. The next day he started praising his friend and how he was given a cologne as a gift. Huh? confused.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): It may work both ways for him but he may prefer gay sex over regular sex and gay lovers over women.
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