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writes:Situation: my friend and i are really really close. by the way we are both lesbians. we share common things: music, food, places, hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc. i met her sophomore year in high school. but we got closer during senior year. we tell each other's problems, thoughts, ideas, and feelings. we always have each others back. we always enjoy being with each other. during senior year i already had feelings for her, up to this moment in college. its been a year that im hiding my strong feelings for her. but im still stuck in being her closest, good, and true friend. she is currently talking to a girl but she felt she was played by that girl. i just want to let her realize that if ever i will be her girlfriend,i never wanted to hurt her like those other girls who hurt her emotionally. Question: my question is:Is there a chance that we can be more than very good friends and take our friendship into a different level? How will i let her know that i wanna be the girl that will make her happy?when is the right time to open up to her? what are the chances that will she accept me as more than a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): ~BRUTAL HONESTY~How do you think you stand even a micron of a chance, when she doesn't have a heart to give you?I'm just giving it to you straight as someone who is in the same "head and heart matter" as your friend.Sweetie, your friend's ex owns your friend's head and heart right now...SO...your odds are O in INFINITY right now...and...do ya think the ex is going to give this to you?...NOT!So...I recommend that you simply remain her platonic friend...and more importantly...do not...I repeat do not...even slow the slightest inkling of romantic interest in her...or...that will make her resent you...and is that what you want?And...even if she did put her foot down and walk away as soon as tonight...your friend, well that will just be her beginning to a lonnnnnnnnng healing process...Pressure her...and guess what? You will be a rebound...and...possibly an ex friend in the end.Respect and support your friend's head and heart.
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