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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating this guy for almost a year. He's five years younger than me, and has only dated two other women other than myself. One relationship was 100% online; the other was a live-in gf and that lasted four years. So, here's the thing. He can be very sensitive. Before dating him I dated women exclusively for about eight years and he reminds me of women I've dated. He is not into giving oral sex, though he talks about it. He is into receiving and he has expressed interest in anal, which I have declined. When we are out it seems like he's walking ahead of me...just a little bit. He never holds my hand or embraces me in daylight but if we're in a dark movie he wants to hold hands, rub my leg, kiss, etc. Sex is often but without foreplay and he claims he wants me to initiate it but if I make any aggressive move toward him he gets jumpy. Early in the relationship he told me he let a guy give him a blowjob and he had nude photos of himself that showcased his backside and seemed very 'gay' to me. Also, he has a friend that he hangs out with until late hours and sometimes spends the night with. This is not often, just once a month or so. Any insight you can give would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): To Fader.....Yes I am bisexual and I was 100% open and honest with him about my past. That's not an issue. I did not say he HAD to be the aggressor. I've actually been the aggressor and he shies away from it. I am not having issue with him being bisexual or gay in the way that you seem to imply. I have issue with the possibility of being lied to or exposed to something. You are extremely judgmental and throw around these terms "sexist" and "ignorant" without fair consideration.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Hi Hunny
He may well have thoughts of that nature but is yet to embrace them for fear of being rejected in the world, And then he may just be bisexual and not really no what to do. The only thing hunny as he may be plain straight is to talk with him, Have a real open conversation about everything, You are his partner you have been dating a year now so you need to sort this out for your own peace of mind. From what you have written it sounds like there may be something there but I could never say for sure as I no alot of gay men and also straight that sometimes the straight ones can come across more gay than the actual gay ones and its hard to say sometimes, Some men are naturaly feminine. Your best bet is to have that chat love get it out of the way and hope he opens up to you. This probably hasnt helped at all but I do hope you can sort this out hunny and things are more understandable for you TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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