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writes: Ok, well hello. I'm a married women who appears to have developed some sort of crush on another woman? Is this normal? I have only been married for a year and I love my husband. Recently I have been flirting with a friend of mine. Whenever we see eachother we are so happy. I was helping her do something on her phone the other day, she kept hold in her hand and I put my hand on hers and started pushing the buttons, I moved it away but then went with it and left it there. Litle did she know she was pushing my buttons! She makes me smile more and I end up doing random things to be with her. What should I do?
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reader, matron +, writes (3 June 2006):
 Hi,Who needs labels? There are some people in this world who are obvious lesbians or gays, there are others who look straight and claim to be lesbian/gay but the way i look at it is that we cant help who we fall for and gender doesn't come into it. You married your husband because you loved him, obviously something has changed within that relationship for you to find you have feelings for someone else or perhaps the love you feel for your husband is not the IN LOVE feeling, either way you need to decide whether you want to stay with your husband and make a go of it or leave. You cant carry on the way you are because someone is going to get hurt. Try to sort out what it is you want, dont complicate things, look to the future, could you be happy without your husband? could you be happy with this woman, does she know how you feel? base your next move on the answers to your questions. Dont do anything you may regret be strong and decide which way you are going to go. good luck x
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (13 May 2006):
 For you to be having a flirtation or crush on somebody else this early on in your marriage means there is something drastically wrong in your relationship. It doesn't matter whether it is a man or a woman you are messing about with, regardless of the sex of the other person - what you are doing still constitues at least borderline adultery. Please think about whether you want to give up on your marriage so soon. Think about who you are going to hurt if you don't rein yourself in.
It could be your are bisexual and didn't know it - this is completely normal. But the issue is are you going to be unfaithful to your husband or not? Or will you give your marriage all the attention it so obviously needs.
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reader, bonym +, writes (13 May 2006):
 No my friend this is not normal behaviour. How come you are married to a man as it seems you are confused about yur sexuality. You need to decide if you want to remain with your husband because you cant go on like this. xXx
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