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writes:My boyfriend in the last 3 months has stopped e-mailing me regularly, using the excuse that he's in a remote area with no signal or his e-mail expired---10 days to have it validated,and he doesn't seem to want to answer much of what I ask, what should I think is going on?? Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (30 January 2007):
 Hi Zena,
Before jumping to any conclusions, maybe just trust what he says. Where is he and what is he doing there? Does he have a job that requires him to travel to remote areas? I have coworkers who sometimes have trouble keeping in contact when they go to some places, especially over in the middle east. If he's out of the area because of work, he might be really busy, too, and maybe doesn't have time to respond to emails. And if he only has good reception in an office type of environment, then it's unerstandable that he wouldn't want to get into personal issues around collegues.
But either way, since his behavior is really bothering you and making you question the relationship, tell him that he needs to find a good time to call you where he can spend a while talking about important issues that have come up in your relationship. I would tell him that you're rather upset at the state of things and would feel a lot better if the both of you could talk, even if he has something on his mind that would hurt you. Because knowing is better than being confused - even if it's bad news. If he gives you another line like "I don't know when I can call" or something where you think something's up then I think you need to figure out whether you'd be happy waiting around for someone who's supposed to be there for you and obviously is not going to be.
BTW - is your guy supposed to be back in town any time soon or does he actually live in this remote area? If he lives there and all of a sudden it's become hard for him to contact you, I don't think this is a very good sign.
But like I said in the beginning, since I don't know where your bf is and for what purpose, I guess I can't really answer your question too well, but I hope that I've helped out some. You can write back with more detail if you like - you might be able to get more helpful answers this way. :)
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007): It sounds like he is not interested - sorry...
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (30 January 2007):
 I suggest if you can't get in touch with him by email or telephone then you write him a letter and ask him exactly that! WHAT IS GOING ON? Three months is not a long time to be together. Is this a long distance relationship? Have you actually met him?
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