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writes:ok I met my cousin for the first time last weekend, and the moment i saw him i have been obsesed with him. i think its wrong by law but i cannot help it. he was so nice when i met him and has been everseen (on facebook) but he lives miles away and i wont see him again for a few years. i have done nothing but think about him he is perfect in every way but the thoughts are now sexual. i am 15 him 19, he isnt gay but very camp and i dont know if i should act on it or not.thanks for the constructive comments
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reader, joshmk94 +, writes (29 June 2010):
joshmk94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank all of you for the help and also that i got NO rude or insulting comments. i havent resolved the situation but he is coming to stay with us for a while so i will tell him then.
thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Coming out to him may be a good idea. Itll show how accepting of you for that he is... and if he is, and is gay, maybe he will confess back to you.
If he doesn't take it well that you are gay... then maybe your feelings for him will subside...
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reader, joshmk94 +, writes (15 June 2010):
joshmk94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe doesnt know im gay, but i was going to tell him this weekend, but not sure any more. Any time i come close to making any progress i panic and stop
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (15 June 2010):
If it were me, infatuated with a cousin I just met, and I thought he MIGHT be at least BI I would foster a good friendship with him first. Even if he's straight and I really like him... I might befriend him.
Really you should get to know him much better before making any rash decisions to come out to him - unless he either knows already.
At some later point you'll then be able to judge whether or not to express any feelings that you might have for him.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): I'm saying, avoid the situation completely. At least for now- until he comes out to you and says he is gay. There is really no point...
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reader, joshmk94 +, writes (15 June 2010):
joshmk94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso Luna what ur saying is tell him suttely, as to avoid any weird situations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Honestly... this isn't even about the fact you two are cousins. I think there are other factors that will lead you to heartbreak if you decide to talk to him about this. You could be misconstruing his behavior because 1. you idolize him so much 2. he realizes this and takes a special interest in you and 3. the age different, he feels older, authoritive, guidence/older brother figure to you.
Does he know your gay? How does he react to that? If he says he is straight, then I would trust his word for it. I'm sure when he decides to come out, if he is gay, he will let you know. Then maybe, only maybe, then you can discuss your feelings for him.
Otherwise, you could be leading yourself into a situation where you permanently destroy your newly found friendship/bond with your cousin. Time tells all.
For the record, to a 19 year old, 15 is young and not exactly in bounds of their dating perspective.
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reader, kristianna +, writes (14 June 2010):
Well, tell him how you feel just say hey I have to tell you something but I dont know how you would take it? see his reaction he'll probably really want to know so you tell him exactly how you feel and tell him you know its wrong but you cant help it. I hope all goes well for you
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KRiiSTii--ANNA
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): ok so im going to be completely honest. Its not illegal to be with your cousin. In some states is is illegal to marry, but not all. I actually just went through something kinda similar. About a year ago, me and my cousin got really drunk and we ended up sleeping together. I ended up getting pregnant and now we have a family and love eachother very much. I think its up to you. My family is handing it really well. It just depends on the risk that your willing to take. Let me know how things end up or if you have any more questions about the cousin thing. Trust me i have done my research! lol
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reader, ChloeeJaiiX +, writes (14 June 2010):
 i havee a cousin who is Gawjushh! and hee was coming onto me one time but hes my second cousin and related to me by blood but my family and his dont class areselfs as family really evan thou i fink they know we aree but callum didnt he sed he had a idea and i had to tell him because it felt wrong,but soo right hes a year younger than me and hes been out with my bestmate and now we say were cousins and i like that he says that but i dont at the say time, i just learn too forget and get someone else x
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