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I'm having a hard time understanding his intentions....should I be worried?

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Question - (30 November 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 December 2008)
A female Canada age 30-35, *ubblygirl writes:

Im having a hard time understanding his intentions

This guy I had a past with but found out to be a player, is back in my life. Over the summer, he liked 2 girls but ended up dating one of them and then cheating on her after she moved away for school in less than a week. At that time, he wanted nothing to do with me. However, during the start of school, he kept contact with me but moreso when he was cheating on his girlfriend. Now, months later, he talks to me everyday. He initiates it all by either texts or online conversation. I've also hung out with him a few times.

What I dont understand is why he is doing this. He doesnt touch me as much he did his girlfriend, but he also cheated on her which leads me to believe he didnt really care about her or respect her truly. He talks provactively with me and also subtly touches me, but I dont think he wants to be with me

Why is he talking to me and doing all these things if he hasnt asked me to be in a relationship? I feel inferior to how he treated his last girlfriend, but should I?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008):

I went through something very similar to this.

Do not allow this guy to get into your head. Chances are, if he's played in the past, he's going to do it again. If he touches you, tell him to leave you alone. Players like the sound of their own voice and they like to see how far they can drive people.

Also, if he tries to talk to you provocatively, ignore him and change the subject. He will realize that you're not interested.

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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (30 November 2008):

yum yum agony auntThere is a possibility that he could fancy you and is scared to ask you out because he does not want to be rejected. He could also be just flirting with you

but does not want to get into a relationship. You should hang out with him more and find out what he really wants.

If you like him, I then suggest that you make some suggesstive advances to him and see what happens, however you should take into account that he is maybe still a player but maybe he will not play around with you because he may have some real feelings for you. Good luck!

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A female reader, petina1 United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

petina1 agony auntHe sounds like he is a player. He probably is treating every girl in his presence like this. Sounds like he fancies himself. Just be careful. He could be just a bit confused and trying to find himself. Maybe he thinks y ou werent such a bad girlfriend after all, now he's tried a few more. I suppose at the end of the day, if youre not interested then push him away, and if you are, be careful. hope this helps.

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