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writes:I am a 44 year old female. I just got a new job about 4 months ago. Through my job I have met a 31 year old female who has shared much her life story with me, things she said she hasn't even told her best friend. She told me she was bi-sexual but did in fact prefer females. She is married but has since told her husband their marrage has been a lie and she wants out. She told me that I was part of the reason she wanted out of her marriage. We have gone out a few times and she has come to my home. I have told her that I was attracted to her and felt I had a crush on her. She told me that she has told her mother all about me and how cute she thinks I am. She did tell me she was attracted to me. She also told me that one day at work when she saw me she wanted me to jump into her arms. She has a lot of problems with family issues. I really need to know how she feels about me and where we should go from here. She say's one thing but her actions seem to be another thing. She doesn't call me or anything on the phone but when we go out she is very open. Sometimes though she appears to ignore me. She seems to do things like that. It's almost like she is scared to get any closer. She has told me she wants to get to know me better and it would take about a year. She has suggested that we do things together like golf, fishing and suggested that we even do a fondue together. I don't know what to make of that. She told me how she felt but now seems to be backing away. What am I to think and what should I do now? Kelsi
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reader, ourhearttoheart +, writes (26 May 2005):
Kelsi, Take it real slow and smooth. If she is serious, give her time and space to clear up some of her issues. Especially still being married. See where she plans on going with her life. Kelsi, think of yourself here. If your feeling uncomfortable about certain traits of hers, give "Time" for yourself, first, to know her. See if she is the kind of person that will give you happiness. Relationships are about giving and receiving. Sometimes the receiving part is overlooked, by giving people. and you sound like a giving person....
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reader, fechon +, writes (26 May 2005):
Are you naturally attracted to drama queens? Or just out for an easy lay? Obviously she's juggling a bunch of balls and you are not one of her first, top priority. If you're just in it for some action, then play her game and do the hot and cold as she's doing to you. But if you're looking for something serious, then drop her like a hot potato.
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