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writes:I'm 38 weeks pregnant, 19 years old and my partner has been cheating on me with my 'best mate' he's moving out on monday but I hurt like mad, I know I'm stupid but I still love him, how can I get over him? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): wat a bastard! I'd go after him with a hunting knife and chop his bits off. However ur not me. It'll hurt for a while because they've both hurt u at a time when u needed them both. Wish them the best of luck and try to get as much support as you can off ur real friends and family. If however you do want to hurt him, without geting sent to prison and having ur baby taken away, you can claim half of his wages through a court to help pay for the babys costs. You could make it even worse by denying him access to the child. At the moment tho take it easy and think about stuff like that later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): i know it sounds harsh but you have to get on with your life you have a baby on the way and they come first in every way. For get about him and look forword to your newborn
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): im 18 and my boyfriend cheated on me with my best mate also, so i kinda no how ur feeling, im over it now and it woz only a few weeks ago. i got over it by telling myself that im better than them especially her how lonely and desparate must she of been, if they think they have to do this to you then they are both sad and in need of some help. im still with my boyfriend as he has proved he loves me ect, but i told him last chance and im totally serious about it, i really really hope you come out of this happy about ur new start in life with ur new baby and a stronger belife in your self. im actually quite glad it happened to me as ive never felt more confident in my life, knowing im better than her as you are to, good luck i wish you all the best i really do x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): ok im only 16 and im pregnant. i just found out that my 15 year old boyfriend is cheating on me.The best thing i can tell you is try not to let him know that your hurt because that could be what he really wants to you to do.And most of the time the only reason men cheat when you are pregnant is because they feel insecure and not loved. they feel that you care more about the baby then you do them.Or they dont believe that the babyis theres, but just trust me everythibg will be OK!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): oh sweetheart he's a rat to start with but to be at this stage of your pregnancy is just awful i'm 38 weeks pregnant at the mo and the thought of having to cope with my husband cheating doesn't bare thinking about. You have to think of yourself and your darling baby first i know its not easy to forget about him but as soon as your baby arrives you will have a whole lot more to focus on.I have been through a stage of being cheated on and thought my whole world was going to collapse the way i overcome it was showing i didn't give a damn (even though iwas dying inside) As soon as he realised i was going to push him to one side and get on with it he wanted me back. It might be a totally different situation cos all men are different but i ended up marrying him and put it down to experience i am the happiest i have ever been now. Thats not ot say that you will ever be able to trust him again. Please don't get back with him for the baby's sake tho you have to do it for you, and you have to be sure you are strong enough to build a trust again. i was and my husband knows if he ever did anything like that again i would walk, children or not. First things first you have to focus on your baby and build your bond with him/her THEN see what happens i wsh you the world of luck for the future just remember you are worth a million of him and keep that in mind.
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (25 February 2007):
the mans a heartless coward and your supposed friend is even worse, theyve not only damaged you but left a child without a father. you may still feel for him, but the sooner you move on and stop talking to these two for good, the better your life will be. your young and still have plenty of life to live, you have bigger problems now, your going to be a mother so focus on giving that child a good,loving,stable environment to grow up in and leave those two cheats out of it.youll find someone who loves you, youve got years yet
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Ah sweet heart your only 19 years old you sure this is what you really want life is so hard as it is without being on your own bringing up a little one. He never just cheated on you he cheated on his baby too, Is he moving in with your so called best friend if so he hasn't just cheated on you the once and is really sorry for what he has done. If it was a one off maybe just maybe you could have worked something out but it sounds to me he has made his choice and you now need to make a choice...You can't help who you fall in love with in life but the one person you should love and look after is yourself. She isn't your best friend either because you don't do those things its wrong, they have both hurt your feelings not only are you dealing with the fact that your boyfriend has cheated you have lost in your heart a friend too...You will get strong but for now you have to look after yourself, look in the mirror every morning an tell your self "I love you," everyday because right now you are wondering why? its not your fault its thiers, Good luck honey I wish you all the very very bestxxxx
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