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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex is a smart person who was always practical and thought about things in a logical way.When we first broke up he asked me to stop texting him as cutting contact will help us recover fast. I respected that, but eventually we got back. He said he realized how much i mean to him and loosing me will make him loose his mind. A month after that we finally decided to break up again for good. Now its been 3 months. The thing is, we still keep contact because he owes me money and delays the payment. I don't get why he delays paying me, he can readily pay me in a flash but he always has an excuse to delay it. Ok so I decided to let go of the money as this chase has exhausted me too much. Then he texts me saying he really will pay. I don't reply anymore and pretend I don't exist but after 5 days he still texts to say he will really pay. So I thought, ok he will pay. But then he says he will pay next time just when I reply to his text.Is he nuts? I thought he believed in the no contact rule? So why doesnt he pay me once and for all so I can disappear from his life as he believed I should? When I let go of the money, he chases me back with a promise to pay. I dont even contact him anymore as he is the one contacting me about it.If he belives in the no contact rule, shouldn't he be practising it himself and pay me once and for all?
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (18 August 2009):
Well, the moment you reply, he gets a chance to play with your mind again or probably to keep touch with you for longer. If it was me, I would send him one text saying: I do not want the money.goodluck with your life. and then not reply to any of the text msgs related to money matters. If he really wants to talk about something else or means some other thing by trying to keep contact , he will come out clear once you ignore him totally.
You should just practice the no ontact rule too. Forget about the money.
I hope something good comes out of whatever you choose to do.
I shall pray for the best of you
take care
god bless
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