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writes: I went to a party with some friends, and through my one friend i was introduced to another of their friend with who i found alot in common, and that we are practally neighbours and our parents come from the same place. We exchanged numbers and emails. And the next day my friend told me that she finds me hot.I'm not looking for a relationship, but would like to get to know her and become friends, she hasn't sent me a text message, but nor have i. She asked for my mobile number first. I'd like to send a text, but not look like im persuing anything, or should i wait for her to send something?am i playing cat and mouse? what should i do to start a FRIENDSHIP.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (23 March 2006):
 Hi there - that is a tough one.
It is hard for guys and girls to start a friendship in this kind of way - most guy friends I have came from part time jobs when I was at school or after school activities or college etc.
I think that perhaps you should organise a group thing again with the mutual friends - something really casual and talk to her there. That will give you a chance to get to know her but its not really like a date.
I know its hard but I think you should pursue the friendship through the mutual friends but keep it in mind that she may be looking for more and be sensitive to that - don't say or do things which lead her on (too much touching etc).
If she ever approaches you for more, tell her the truth and help her feel comfortable and that you are flattered but not interested in anything more than friendship.
Its a tough line to walk but as long as you remain sensitive to her hopes, you should be right.
I figure, the friendship is worth a go.
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