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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i just broke up. He was the guy i lost my virginity to, and I only had sex with him because he made me feel comfortable and didnt pressure me to do it. This was a while ago when i was younger, now i'm in college where the only thing guys think about is sex and i'm scared that every guy i meet is going to pressure me into doing it instead of taking it slow like i want him to. I want to have sex agian, I am just not the kind of girl who has sex right away in a relationship. Is it impossible for me to find another guy who will take it slow?
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Try to avoid the rowdy crowd where the guys have something to prove to their friends. Try look for guys who are a little more serious and are more comfortable being alone and not part if the group. Check out the library!!!! I'm not saying you will meet a guy not into sex only, but you can reason more with a loner than someone who gets sloshed with his friends every weekend and is under peer pressure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): If you are going to be too scared to find out, you will never know. I know for a fact thought that it's not true that "the only thing guys think about is sex". That's generalizing and not fair to all those sweet guys out there who know what really matters. However keep in mind that all people are different, also remember that in college many guys aren't that mature yet. But do not let some immature boys ruin the reputation for those mature men on campus.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Well good for you for having standards. Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys out there who just want sex at your age. However, it's not impossible to find someone who will actually want to get to know you. You just really have to get to know them, and you have to spend time letting them get to know you. A guy who wants you just for sex will get bored quickly and move on, so you just have to make it clear you want to take it slow if it looks like you've met someone who you want to be with. Your man will be out there, just take your time and you'll find him.
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