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writes:I'm 16 and I'm going to greece with my twin sister and my friend. My boyfriends really worried because he thinks they are going to infuence me to drink and cheat on him.I've told him that i would never do that and i promised i wouldn't drink or go clubbing. I don't do this at home so i don't know why he's so worried because he knows i'm not like that.Also he's depressed which makes him more paranoid and worried.I really love him and would never do anything to hurt him. He says he thinks this will ruin our relationship. What can I say to him to show him how much I care about him and that I would never cheat on him? Please can somebody help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks
I saw him yesturday so i didn't get time to read this message but i told him i really love him.
I think he feels better about it and i'll try to talk to him loads.
I've already read up about depression but i forget what it says.
I think everythings sorted now.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 June 2007):
 As a suffer from depression too I can completely understand where the feelings and emotions are coming from here. But its not really fair of your boyfriend to expect you not to go on this holiday just because he says so. I had this kind of relationship with one of my exs and he made me loose a lot of friends and I spent all my time with him and in the end it destroyed the relationship.
Sit down and talk to your boyfriend and explain that you wont cheat on the holiday and you'll send lots of postcards etc. If there is no trust there at all then the relationship wont survive as that is one of the basics of a relationship.
Hope that helped!
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reader, Skeez +, writes (19 June 2007):
 I am diagnosed with depression too and im in a relationship so I can realate to how your boyfriend is feeling. I feel my boyfriend will cheat on me when he goes out with his friends, but you have to realise that its not his fault he feels like this.
Sit him down and tell him that you love him very very much. Tell him all the good things you love about him, tell him the reason why you fell in love with him and etc. Make him feel more reasured that you only want him and noone else. I understand he is going to feel awkward when you are gone for a while, but calling him every other day will make him feel better. Tell him on the phone what you did in the day, and mention that you love him. He may be very dependant on you. I feel as though my boyfriend is the only good thing in my life and everything else is dull and bleak. He may be sad that your leaving him for a while. Ask him this. Maybe read up on Depression to understand more about it and how people feel when they have it.
Good luck you hun and Im sure evrything will be fine
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