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writes:help, I got involved with my ex boyfriend after 21yrs, we dated wen i was 16 then split wen i was 20 and he found and contacted me after 21 yrs, after we met he said he was still in love wit me and i felt the same way, but this guy has a lot of baggage we we are 2gether it is sooo good, but in the two years that we met we have split 3 times over petty stuff and then there is a 3mth splitand after that he contacts me and we make up, but while we split he finds silly things to contact me about whats that all about, I keep away cos I feel hurt wen he ends it.we have now split yet again, he has found a job which i helped him find,neva told me, he was roobed recently and the first person he called was me, i have always been there for him wen he had nothing now it seems he has this new job and that he just pushes me aside,it hurts like hell, but after he got robbed he called me everyday for a week, then stopped and then called again to find out something he should have know, whats up with this guy was he using me, does he still love me and are we meant to be together, cos if so I dont want to writed him off just yet, i am soo mad with him that all I want is for him to realise that how he is treating me is wrong and he must come to me,
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reader, Dreamlover +, writes (20 May 2009):
 I AGREE with Gina, communication is key, it seems like you the only one getting hurt love, time to state your case and decide from there
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reader, Lina319  +, writes (20 May 2009):
 It's easier to say I love you, but actions help solidify the fact, and from what you've written he isn't acting the way he should. Splitting up over and over again when fighting over petty things, is petty in of itself.
Although he contacted you after so many years, and has professed his love to you, fact of the matter is maybe you two just aren't compatible anymore, compatibility is more than just what interests you guys have in common, it extends itself even in regard to how you find solutions to problems in everyday situations, the good, and the bad.
I don't want to be rash and say leave him, but splitting up after fights, calling you when he feels like it, and treating you in a not so loving way is just hurting you in the end. Reevaluate your relationship, and decide if this is something you want to put up with the rest of your life.
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