A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello-Sorry if this is a bit inappropriate but I would like to get some feedback. I have been in a relationship for about a year now, my boyfriend and I have always had a healthy and very active sex life, but now it seems like I am a bit much for him.I like to experiment with everything and he doesn't. I always ask of him to do me while we are shopping or at a club and just recently- at the movies. (it was great)My question is, is it so wrong for me to want to have sex all the time and be different?I am starting to feel like I cannot get enough of it and I need someone who can keep up!
View related questions:
sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 We all have different drives, how much we want, how much we can put up with and frankly where we want to do it.
Sex in public... well I can imagine he is reluctant to do that. You are not going to share a cell with a guy called Bubba who also has a high sex-drive.
Talk with him about it, it might be that he is just not certain how much you want it. Lets face it, the common image is of men as the horn-dogs and women who have to be seduced/tricked into doing it.
Because when you asked to do it at the movies he did so it is not like he doesn't want to meet your needs.
Perhaps in your relationship it just so happens that it is the woman who takes the initiative most of the time. Is that really so bad?
A
female
reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 He just needs to be encouraged a bit, and you need to find out what he particularly likes. Nearly everyone has desires and fantasies that they don't like to mention, and somewhere in the depths of his thoughts there are probably some great ideas!
There are, of course, things that may be attractive to one person and don't appeal at all to another. Your desire for doing things in public places may be a complete turn-off for him, but that doesn't mean you can't find all sorts of interesting, unusual and experimental activities you could do together in private.
Don't worry too much about "wanting it too much". Explore what you can do together, and I'm sure you'll find the right balance that suits both of you.
...............................
A
female
reader, peace-and-love +, writes (23 June 2008):
I'd say that sex drive compatibility is as important as personality. If you're feeling really stifled (and don't worry, wanting sex is not a bad thing!) talk to him about it, and if it doesn't improve then maybe he's not the person for you. Hope it goes okay :)
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): If he's not satisfying you sexually, then he's probably not the right person for you. It's possible that he's comfortable with the sex life whereas you're more daring and would like more. All in all, the relationship has only been for a year. I'd suggest keeping your options open. Cheers!
...............................
|
