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writes:So I posted on here awhile ago - about a year and a half - about this girl I met in class and she had a boyfriend but we got really close. Long story short, we hooked up a few times, her boyfriend didn't know, we talked about being together and now we are very close friends.She finally broke up with her boyfriend after being cheated on - this was 5-6 months ago. I figured we would casually get back into things and eventually start dating. Now, we are closer than ever, basically tell each other everything and are the closest person in each of our lives. We've talked about being together, I am ready to commit to the relationship but she isn't. What she says is that shes not in the place for a relationship right now and that she has to be happy with her life before she can focus on me. She told me that she needs to find happiness with her life now and not just with me. We still have sleep overs a couple times a week, cuddle but no hooking up or kissing. There have been times when I would kiss her neck and body, where I know she likes and can't resist. She says that it wouldn't benefit if we hooked up once in awhile because she wouldn't be able to focus on her life. She also told me that if we started dating now, she wouldn't want there to be a chance that she would mess it up or lose me as a friend.She talks about me everywhere she goes and to her close friends. I know I am the number one person in her life, but I just have no idea at this point anymore about our status. I care about her more than anyone and we both love each other. I wouldn't say that we are "in love" just because we've never really experience the whole package together, care free; but I can see it in the future.I've gotten to the point where I feel comfortable waiting for her to be ready and get her life together mentally. When other girls talk to me and hang out with me, they'll try to make a move or they will be really into me, but I just have no interest. I probably would have interest if I hadn't met this one girl; I just know that what I have is something worth holding onto and waiting for. I find myself always thinking about her and this whole situation.What do you think of the whole situation? I would love to hear some feedback? Maybe some ways of dealing with this.
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