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writes:My husband is always watching porn. It's gotten so bad he doesn't want to touch me if he can't run to the bathroom to view porn on his phone. He watches it at work. When we are alone. When we have tv time. If I want to have sex with him he tells me he is to wore out from work or his back hurts. He gets mad if I kiss on him trying to turn him on. All I get is a moan. Do I do something wrong? Is he just not turned on by me? I am a mother of 3, I am 5'-5" and about 145lbs. I work hard at looking good for him and turning him on. All he does is push me away. I know he loves me but for some reason he doesn't want me. I have tried to talk to him about it. All he does is promises he won't do it no more. But as soon as I turn my back or he gets to work he's back to the porn. I know this cuz I check his phone sometimes. But he will look me in Tue eye and tell me he's not doing it. Or if he knows I check his phone he takes away things from me. Like I am the one that's messing up our marrage. He even talks to other women. Always talking to them and hiding it from me too. My life is falling apart. And I have a broken heart. I cry my heart out but I can't talk to him cuz he gets so mad at me.. what am I to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThx for all the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): He's crazy! I'm 20 years old and male, I like watching/masturbating to porn as much as the next guy, but if my wife is in the mood and making moves on me I'm all over her. Porn is like a last resort for me, Somthing is wrong with HIM, not you. If he can't get over it ditch him. You deserve better, I wish my wife had a higher sex drive like you. You deserve somone that loves you not some pictures of skanks on a computer.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 October 2010):
 He clearly has an addiction if he's choosing porn over a live person. You can try your hardest to get him to see there's a problem, but in the end if he won't see it, you can't make him see it and you'll have to leave him. Someone who was serious about fixing their addiction would allow a blocking software on their computer and would agree to go to counseling or a sex addicts meeting or something.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Nothing you do or say will make him change if he doesn't want to change, sorry. He may promise he'll stop but he hasn't, has he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to leave him I want to do all I can to work it out that's why I am seeking help..
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reader, xanthic +, writes (19 October 2010):
It sounds like he has a serious porn addiction, which needs to be treated by a professional. It'll take some work, but can definitely be overcome if he's dedicated to it. Unfortunately, until your husband recognizes this is a problem and is willing to seek help, there's not much you can do. For your own sake, if nothing else works, the best thing to do is to leave and file for divorce.
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