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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for a little more then a year,I adore her, i love everything about her. problem is that we are in a long distance relationship, so we have such trust issues and miss each other dearly. so we were broken up, she said she still wanted to be together but not intil we were face to face again (9 days)So i agreed i told her i would make it up to her and things would be great.But two days ago, i met this boy i'd been talking to for a while. (he's a old friends ex) He dumped his girlfriend, and ask me to be his. I agreed and i felt not one bit a guilt intil i had got home. He is lovely, he kissed me and hugged me. Gave me his jacket we layed in bed watched a movie,I've known him for a year, But i got home and i sat there on my own in guilt, i've been short with my girlfriend calling her a cheat trying to make her hate me. But i didnt do anything other than kiss him. I just feel like i've thrown away my life. I need to know if i should let her go, and be with him. I'm gay, well i normally am. But it just felt nice to be in someones arms, i just wish they were hers.Is it okay to forget it because he's gone, and i wont do it again.Or should i tell her.PLEASSE HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): Hi, I'm a lesbian and also in a long term relationship going on a year and a half. My girlfriend lives on a totally different continent from me, and we are separated by ocean.
First thing first, you're still young and you should explore your possibilities. Allow yourself the chance to grow, emotionally, physically and mind wise.
Yes, it is hard to be in a long distance relationship whether it's with a guy or girl. First of all if you truly love her as in love her then you'll respect her and trust her enough to tell her about it. Honesty is the key to a strong relationship. Let her know your feelings, your thoughts, but at the same time allow her to show her own feelings and thoughts. You have to love her for who she is, not try to change her or mold her into an image of what you want. Communication is very vital in a long distance relationship, as you don't know what that other person is up to on a daily basis. Trust is also another key issue. Trust her. The moment you lose that trust you lose her respect and then everything just falls apart.
To me it seems like it might not be worth it. If it's face to face that she want's it simply means that she's doesn't want to take the chance or willing to make the effort to love you so far away. Love isn't something you can decide whether you want it to be long distance or not. If you really did love eachother you'd work it out no matter what the distance is.
But as I've said before you're still young, explore your possibilities and it might do her some good to.
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Go with the guy, you cheated, sometimes its the natural course of things, dont feelbad, just move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 December 2009):
Kissing him was cheating. But, if he's gone, and you really want to commit to this girl, don't tell her. You need to face your own guilt silently. Telling her would probably make her run a mile. But aso be aware that this might be a sign that she really isn't the person for you. After all, if she really was, you wouldn't have cheated.
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