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*vnslttleangel
writes:Hi. On November 1st, 2010 I met a man who is currently in Iraq in the Army. We met because I am a volunteer through a website (send care packages, cards, etc to soldiers who don't normally get anything). He was requesting books so I wrote to find out what type of books, did a short introduction of myself. And he said he didn't normally respond to emails but something was telling him to with me. We had an instant connection. Hard to put into words but a strong connection like we've never known before. We wrote every day several times a day,have so much in common from loving the outdoors, cooking, right down to the type of house we want in the future, then we started talking on yahoo, and skype. He is so amazing, sweet, caring, tells me how he thinks I am beautiful, writes me poetry, etc. I do the same for him. On March 16th, 2011 he left on leave to go back to Ft. Hood TX, he called when he landed, and wrote the next day, then I didn't hear from him til the following Wednesday and now nothing at all. (it's now the 29th) He won't write me back, call, nothing. I've got so many things going through my mind, questions, assuming. Plus people keep putting things in my head about him meeting someone else, etc. I don't want to believe that especially since things were so great between us in Iraq. He said he would write and call. I know there is a huge change. He has a laptop, Ipod, wireless internet, my phone number. I do not have a number for him. Is this type of thing common? Am I worrying too much? Anyone who could offer me some advice would be great. I'm hurting so much, missing him so bad, he is my soulmate I believe and he said the same of me. I do understand we fell fast and hard for each other. But also know it can work. I'm worried, hurting, so many things. Any help/advice would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.
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reader, Hvnslttleangel +, writes (30 March 2011):
Hvnslttleangel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your honesty Angel. I have thought of these things as well. He is to return to Iraq I believe this coming up weekend. He does have a 17 yo son, and filed divorce papers, but cannot get it finalized til he gets back in September. So I do understand some of it. Just am worried about him because it's not like him to not contact me at all. But then again he may not be divorced yet, I only know what he has told me. He did ask me to be his girlfriend. I do not mind him having other girls as friends. Im not the jealous type. You are right I do not know him in person and he may be completely different in person. We wanted to meet in Dallas but I was unable to get there on the day he was to land there. Im thinking it's one of them things you hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I really do appreciate your honesty, even if some of it is not what I want to hear. :o)
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 hi
so he is still at home on leave? maybe you are reading more into the relationship than he is. maybe he just sees you as someone who can keep him company and keep his spirits up when he is in Iraq, but now he is at home he does not need this to comfort him. and i am not saying he is using you, just maybe he thinks that he does not need this unless he is away and he is assuming that this is cool with you. have you told him how you feel about this?
he is probably spending all his time with family and friends that he has been missing while he was away, and yes unfortunately this may include girls.
when is he due to go back to Iraq? maybe he will want to resume contact with you when he goes back. the fact is that you don't really know him do you? he may be just full of sweet talk and he may have other women that contact him and send him stuff for all you know. i am not trying to be harsh, just realistic. so yes, keep him as a friend if you wish but i would not pin your future hopes on him really. maybe you would be better finding someone who you can date and really get to know if you are looking for real love
xx
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