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*orrie
writes:i have just found out my partner of 3 years has been cheating on me, i found a secret mobile by his side in bed while he was drunk as usual!, it was full of explicit texts to a girl he works with, i couldnt believe wat i was seeing, i know he hasnt been interested in me for a while and never wants to make love to me, we have a 2 year old son who he adores, and he always blames me for all our problems, he sais my weight gain is a turn off and that i have no confidence in myself, we have split up so many times but always get back togeather as i love him, he is also an alcoholic, i feel like my hearts been ripped out! what do i do, i dont like being on my own.
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (13 September 2007):
 I seriously think you need to get out of this now!I know you might not like being on your own, so why not tell him you need a break, get your own life into perspective, pamper yourself, go out with friends, try to live a temperary life of your own to see if you can adapt to it, and do some seriouse hard thinking about where you want to be in the future! you might meet someone else and realise there is someone better who wont treat you like this, this guy your with has no respect for you at all.you deserve better, and if you realise you want to go back to him, make sure its on your terms and put your foot down bacause guarenteed if you tell him your leaving, even if temp, itll scare the heck out of him and might make him realise how much he needs you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Leave him now!! Don't be stupid like me and stay, together 25 yrs, and yes he was an alcoholic and took pills, cheated on me, and like an idiot, I forgave him. He started going to AA, and guess what, he is texting a girl there!! They understand eachother, talks all the time on the phone with her and they text eachother thru out the day!! So being supportive and caring, look what it got me!! Move on, there is somebody out there that will treat you like you want and love your little boy!!
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reader, lorrie +, writes (11 September 2007):
lorrie is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys! i know yr wright but he was so wonderfull when i met him, i loved him so much, its really hard to think about all the good times we had, but i know now he will never change, it was easer to take him back all the other times as i had no evidence of him cheating then, but dont worry i phoned the place he works, ripped shreds out of the girl and then ripped his clothes up!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Hi
Yuk yuk yuk. What a loser! I would kick his ass out, like yesterday! What a dispicable man. How can you possibly prefer being with someone like that than on your own? I just dont get that at all. Im on my own with 2 kids, and its fine. I know everyone is different but we came into this world alone and usually leave alone, you dont make good judgements on people when you aren't confident enough to be on your own and at the moment you are making a bad judgement by thinking this low life is a better option!
If it was me in your situ and i really did prefer this life to being on my own for a while i would go to counselling. They will help you see things for how they really are and get to the bottom of why you have reached the stage of staying with someone like that.
I hope it works out for you and your son.
C xxxxx
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Alright. your partner of three years is a jerk. anyone who calls you fat can go burn in hell. When i was little i was always the fat one. and i have no tolerance for people who poke fun at others who are larger than them. i bet u anything u arent fat at all. And besides. guys prefere women with a bit of beef. Its nice that he cares for your 2 year old son. but what influence is he giving the son that he adores? constantly breaking up with you, coming home drunk, CHEATING! CHEATING is unacceptable at all levels. This sounds all a bit harsh but...there isnt any other way to put it. I think you could go and find someone so wonderful out there, who cares the same if not more for your son and isnt a drunk and doesnt cheat on you, and loves all the shapely curves u possess. The father (partner) can always see the son. You just have to be carefull about custody issues and the like. I think alcohol is bad in that sort of saturation. A father openly drunk infront of a son is NOT the way to win over hearts. why not talk to your son and see how he feels. dont pressure him to say anything. just be like "how would u feel if daddy didnt live with us anymore, but u could still see him?" and if he jumps for joy, u have no problems. dont feel lonely. im sure u have plently of friends and family and other boys who would LOVE to have a chance with u.
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