A
female
age
30-35,
*rishHeart100
writes:"We are great friends, we have only known each other for a little over a month but we are very close. He started coming over to hang out with my roommate, her girlfriend and I, because they were friends in high school. But now it has become that just me and him have been hanging out all the time. With in the first week we met, we became comfortable with eachother, I am a shy person but I easily became close to him. He is a very friendly guy. When it is just me and him hanging out at night we usually end up wrestling or falling asleep leaning against one another. We went to a friends b-day party, the day before he asked me if "we" were going to the party, even though we are not "together". He has told me some very personal things about his past that is not easy for a person to deal with, and I have told him some personal things." This is what my situation was before now. I really am confused about what to do...If I have to I will "just be friends" with the guy. I am frustrated and confused. The guy that I like just got a new job. Before he got this job we would hang out a lot. We would watch movies, talk, wrestle, and joke around. I was confused about if he liked me before because he is such a friendly guy to everyone, and I didn't know if he liked me or was like that with everyone cause I had only known him for a month or two. Now that he has a job we dont hang out as much, which is understandable because of school and work. He seems to act differently around me now, I dont know if he relized that I like him, and he doesnt have the same feelings, or he likes me but has started to "avoid" me. I tried to give him hints that I like him, but I may have been too strong about how I feel. He still looks into my eyes when we tease eachother, he still sits at the same lunch table with my roommate, her girlfriend and me. He still will text me, and I still will text him. He will try and keep the conversation going sometimes. I invited him to a movie with me and a few friends the other night, he went with us. When I was driving back he jokingly started pulling the e-brake and when I went to stop him, he pulled his hand away kinda quickly when my hand touched his, it was on my part accidental that our hands touched. I dont know if this makes any sense. He is sending me many mixed messages, I really love our friendship, and I dont want it to be strange, if he doesnt feel the same way for me as I do him, which is why I am not saying anything directly about it to him. What I was wondering is whether or not I should let it go for good, or give it up to see if it builds back up to where it used to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): From what you have written he seems to like you alot...as a friend. sorry.
You could try touching his shoulder or back and looking into his eyes and smiling leaning closer to him (obvous I know but we men are simple creatures). But if he doesnt feel that way theres no point in wasting your time.
All the best
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