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writes:what does it mean when your girlfrend of 1 year says she hates me but, then when things r going her wayshe likes spending time with me Reply to this Question
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reader, AJ/Andrew +, writes (25 July 2010):
AJ/Andrew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks much to everyone who put forth their brain power for me!!! good lookin!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 It means she's compulsive and has difficulty controlling her emotions. When she's mad, she hates your guts and obviously tells you so. When you've made up, she's all smiles and hugs, expecting you to forget her harsh words. Some people have extreme emotions and the inability to control their tongues when their emotions are running high. My b/f is the same way and it's always hard for me because I came from the school of, 'never say something you can't take back'. Telling someone you hate them, is hard to take back when things blow over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): In the times when she says she hates you, she has unresolved issues to workout within herself in life, and she actually hates herself in some ways. She takes it out on you, and sometimes slips and takes it out on others she feels she can get away with treating that way(friends, parents, etc.), because she doesn't know how to work on herself. Therefore, she wishes to make it look like others, such as you, have issues and start fights, so she can deflect her feelings and actions on you and others. If you're in a close relationship with her, she most likely treats you the worst, by far, and convinces others that she's innocent of any wrong doing.
This won't change until she agrees she has issues that need to be worked out through counselling or other professional help. That's the only way she'll even think of admitting there's something wrong with her. Otherwise, you won't be able to stop her wrath. The closest you'll get to peace is quarrelling, ironically, because that's when she'll feel the most satisfaction, is when she creates the most tension. Just like Oregongrl1 said, she's a manipulator, and those types of people don't change, unless they come to an admittance stage and try as hard as possible to find help for their behavior.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (25 July 2010):
I know alot of women like that! if things arent going there way they will start a fight w/ you so you will give in and they get their way. they are called manipulaters! am i wrong?
they pout they will say things like you are mean to me so you will feel bad and they will start fights if they have plans that you don't know yet! so then they can start a fight w/ you so they can leave and make you feel like it's your fault. so they agin get away w/ it and their way!!
Good Luck!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 She's a user. She wants her cake and wants to eat it to. Kick her to the curb and find someone who is worthy of your love.
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