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writes:Hi all, here's the situation. I have been friends with a guy online for 10 years from Morrocco, Recently I have come to notice that he has feelings for me. I tried very hard to let him down nicely but firmly, and let him know that I am involved with a man that I am very much in love with. He won't talk to me for a couple of months, then he pops up and asks what's new, then asks if I am single again yet, and tries to talk me into going to Morrocco to see him rather than going to England to be with my man. How can I make him see that I don't want him as anything more than a friend, without hurting more than necessary. I do value his friendship, and don't want to lose it if possible, but I can't keep going on like this. Thanks guys. Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Hey. Well personally i would be abit offeneded if one of my close friends on or not on the internet stop talking to me for a couple of months simply because i turned them down. He should respect your decision that you want to be with your man and that you are in love and surely if he was a good enough friend depite his feelings he would want you to be happy ? From what i have heard it sounds like the only thing he is intrested in now is a relotionship with you, and i think you should be very firm with him and tell him you don't want to lose him as a friend but your with someone else and you do not want to be with him. If he accepts that and continues to speak to you as a friend then well you got your perfect outcome. If he stops talkking to you for months just because your not intrested in a relotionship with him, even if he does get back in touch just to see if your now single i wouldnt waste the time speaking to him. But hey thats just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno I have not ever met him in person and I really don't want to! I just don't like to hurt people and if I have to hurt someone I try to do it in the nicest possible way, I guess this time I can't, I was just hoping that I could find a nice way to tell reject him. Thankyou for your answer I appreciate your help.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Have you ever met this guy from Morroco in person?
You tried the nice approach. That apparently didn't work. Now just be straight with him. Next time he brings it up, say "i'm not single now, and probably won't be for a while..."
If he continues to pressure you, just give him the silent treatment for a bit.
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