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How can I cheer up?

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Question - (30 November 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 13 December 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *emmahardy writes:

i feel so stressed out its un believable, i just feel so annoyed and under pressure with school and stuff. I also feel so useless, and like nothings ever going right it feels like if im not here it will be better :/

please help on how i can cheer up :(


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):


i know exactly how you feel.

im going through pretty much the same thing (at age 13-15).

now, im no psychiatrist but this is what i do to cheer up:

usually, i call an emergency sleepover with all my girlfriends and, all night, we talk, cry, and eat ice cream. at first you would think that that would make you even more sad...but it doesnt. believe me. it works.

another thing i usually do is(if its not a night of an emergency sleepover) go to bed reeeally early. like, 7:45. you may be one of those people who absolutely cant go to sleep till, like, 9:00, and if so, then get in bed early and read, write, listen to music, or just lay there and think.

i hope this was helpful

good luck =)

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (1 December 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntI've been through similar things and it sucks. It sucks a lot.

Psychiatrist to be has a great idea: Playing an instrument feels so wonderful. If you've never done it, you just try it and you'll understand how we feel.

I would like to add my two cents. I think that you should talk to someone: a counselor, or pastor or priest.

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A male reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

Phsyciatrist-to-be agony auntAs I dont know the best way to cheer up you personally, here's a list of what I do:

Listen to music: personally, I prefer George Gershwin's Rhapsodie in Blue... but you might be more inclined to some modern stuff, lol

Juggle: not only is it a great party trick, I find it a fantastic stress reliever. There are plenty of tutorial videos on youtube to help you get started if you want.

Read: It's not permenant, but plunging yourself into a world of fiction is a brilliant way of taking a break and calming down.

PLAY music: I dont know if you play any instruments or not, but for me, there are few things better than just sitting in front a piano and playing your favourite tune.

TV: find a good film, sit down and watch. I find comedies extremely effective here, and it works even better when you've got your mates round.

Draw, or write: depends on your preferance. I like to find a pen and some paper, sit down, and let my mind wander... Sometimes, it only takes minutes before I'm scribbling away at some ridiculous plotline. I here this works just as well with drawing, if that's what you prefer.

Get some homework done!: yeah, it sounds stupid, but it's so much easier to concentrate on that piece of maths that needs to be in next week than it is to concentrate on all your emotional stuff. It's a good way to clear your head, and when you're finished it gives you a wonderful feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Take a bath: BlondBabe's suggestion is a good one. The warm water will infuse a sense of peace and tranquility in your brain (ie, you become very relaxed).

Play a game: Games console's don't really get enough credit for this. I find that blowing things up in cyberspace is much more satisfying than pouring over the worlds problems and your own issues. Or, if you're into board games rather than the Xbox, sit the family down and get everyone to play a nice, fun game of snakes and ladders, or Scrabble, or something. Monopoly you should avoid; it can get tedious, especially when you're broke and your younger brother seems to have about 10 hotels on every property...

Got for a walk: get the blood flowing around your body. Get some fresh air into your lungs. When you get back, providing ou wrapped up warm at this time of year, your head will feel much clearer.

and lastly...

Sleep!: A good night's sleep can go a long way. Wake up feeling refreshed and ready, bursting with energy. It works, it really does!

Hope I helped in some way, and that everything turns out ok: good luck!

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A female reader, screenstar South Africa +, writes (30 November 2008):

here are some jokes

A man staggers into an emergency room with a concussion, multiple bruises, two black eyes and a five iron wrapped tightly around his throat. Naturally, the doctor asks him what happened.

“Well, it was like this,” said the man. “I was having a quiet round of golf with my wife, when at a difficult hole, we both sliced our balls into a pasture of cows. We went to look for them, and while I was rooting around, noticed one of the cows had something white at its rear end. I walked over and lifted up the tail, and sure enough, there was a golf ball with my wife’s monogram on it– stuck right in the middle of the cow’s butt.” “That’s when I made my big mistake.” “What did you do?” asks the doctor.

“Well, I lifted the cow’s tail again and yelled to my wife, “Hey, this looks like yours!” “I don’t remember much after that!”

An elderly lady goes into the doctor and tells him - “Doctor, I don’t know what the problem is, but I’ve been farting all the time. It’s not really a problem socially because they don’t make any noise and don’t smell. I just can’t stop farting all the time. In fact, since I’ve been standing here I must have farted at least 20 times.”

“No kidding…” says the doctor with a bit of an upturned nose. The doc says “I’ve got just the stuff.” and gives her some pills. “Here take these for 10 days, then return for a followup appointment.”

So she takes the pills and returns 10 later as instructed. Infuriated, she confronted the doctor. “What kind of medicine is this? I’m still farting just as much! They still don’t make any noise, but now they stink terribly!”

The doctor nodded, “Great, now that your sinuses are cleared up, we’ll work on your hearing next!”

Submitted by Dr. Susan Steinberg

One day I told a wife that her husband had died of a massive myocardial infarct. Not more than five minutes later, I heard her reporting to the rest of the family that he had died of a ‘massive internal fart.’

A young sailor was sitting in a bar having a few drinks when he looks over and sees a pirate. The pirate has a wooden peg-leg, a hook for a hand, and patch over his eye. Unable to resist, the sailor asks “How’d you end up with a peg-leg?”

“I was swept overboard during a fierce storm,” says the pirate. “and a bloody shark bit off me whole darn leg!”

“Holy cow!” said the sailor. “What about the hook, how’d you get that?”

“Me crew and I were boarding an enemy ship, a fierce sword battle ensued. One of them cut me darn arm!”

“Absolutely incredible!” gasped the sailor. “And the eye patch, tell me how you got that?”

“A bloody seagull dropping fell into me eye,” replied the pirate.

“Umm, you lost your eye to a seagull dropping?” asked the sailor, admonished.

Embarassed, the pirate answered “It was me first day with the hook.”

school is a very pressurised situation, practically speaking it may help if you work out a schedule for yourself, and break up all that you need to do for school in smaller dosis

as you complete each small task and tick them off your schedule you will feel as if you have achieved your goals

breal your schedule up into weeks days and hours and plan ahead

it may also help if you pencil in some ideas for fun and distraction expecially when you have completed a task or a project or some difficult homework. think about what it is that you enjoy doing, playing with the dog, going for a walk, going to the gym, visit a friend, play some sport, take up a hobby

why dont you watch a comedy, make yourself laugh, and remind yourself that each day you wake up is an opportunity to start new

get in touch with your feelings, write down exactly what it is that is making you feel so sad, ask some questions and attempt to answer them

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008):

Everyone has different ways of cheering themselves up, I think the below advice is good. I also personally would suggest concentrating on thinking of what you have to be thankful for in your life.

Presumably you have a family who love you? friends? you have free education, you're not in poverty, you're not growing up in a war zone and you live in a free and democratic country where you will won't get tortured of beaten to death for saying the wrong thing. School might seem difficult now, but ultimately you have the opportunity to pretty become anything you want in life.

We all feel depressed every now and again, that's normal, but we also have so, so, many things to be thankful for in life and it is good to remember that too.

Concentrate on those things and when you think of the suffering that other people endure on this planet, your own problems will pale in significance.

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A female reader, BlondeBabe x United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

BlondeBabe x agony auntThink positively about stuff and try not to get put down by all the little things.

Try taking a nice long relaxing bath and thinking about nothing at all, or pamper yourself and make yourself feel good and whole lot better.

Have a good nights sleep and remember what happend in the past can not be changed so if it was bad make the future better!

Good Luck x

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