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writes:After half a year of being single and actively NOT looking for a relationship, I find myself involved with a guy again. Unlike most guys my own age, he's smart and has his sh*t together--own car, (stable) real job, etc. Here's the problem: I'm 20 and he's 28. I personally find the age difference to be nothing and see no reason why this can't work. But I also figure I'm going to have to do the whole "meet-the-parents" thing here at some point...with both my parents and his. I know mine will say he's too old for me. I don't know what, if anything, his parents might have to say about him dating someone eight years younger. (I'm assuming the age-difference hang-ups probably go both ways, and they'll wonder why he's with someone so much younger.) I'd like us as a couple to make a good impression on both sets of family, so any advice is appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Wait... you're 20 and still worry about what your arents think?
You were supposed to have stopped doing that like five years ago.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (20 September 2008):
 An Eight Year difference is no big deal. In fact I think that it is perfect, because men are supposedly 7 years less mature than women. (Sorry guys, I read that somewhere a long time ago.) I always went for guys who were older than me.
Anyhow, don't worry about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): If I was your father I'd be delighted to welcome a solvent, hard working, decent sort of bloke if my daughter brought one home with her. My daughter didn't, she brought home a brawling, drunken, unemployable waster who thought the world owed him a living.
I'm guessing his father at least will think 'well done son!' whilst his mother will probably think you're his choice of partner and good luck to the both of you.
I'm guessing your parents will be happy enough about it. 8 years isn't a massive age gap, and if you're mature for your age there shouldn't be a problem. It's not like in 30 years' time you'll be wanting to be out clubbing while he sits in his favourite armchair with pipe and slippers reading the paper!
I'd suggest getting the whole thing over and done with in one easy move - select an agreeable date to all and invite both sets of parents to a restaurant meal or similar, then everyone can meet everyone else at the same time. Job done.
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