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writes: My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. We dated for 5 years before we got married. We were having some problems because he always wanted to go out with his friends drinking instead of spending some quality time together. We are both 28, he works nights plays a sport for a club, and I work part time and go to school. We are both very busy. He just recently told me that."he is not in love with me anymore" after an argument. Just 2 weeks ago we were dancing a romantic song, he look straight at my eyes and kissed me during the song and he massaged my feet after I told him they were hurting. He also told me that he still likes me and that he is still very attracted to me. I told him I still love him very much "although I don't have the butterflies in my stomach anymore" ....Is it over?I am really concern... Reply to this Question
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reader, Starr +, writes (7 April 2007):
I understand where you are coming from.You don't know what to do because you love him and don't want to loose him.What you need to do is sit down one more time and talk to him.Ask him again about his feelings for you if he tells you he has fallen out of love with you,you need to seperate for a while.Not to end the marriage but to give each other some time apart so that each could be missed.If after that has been done he still says the same,you need to move on with your life.I know it's easier said than done but you are a woman and you should know your worth.Don't hold on to something that will continue to hurt your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): Hi, I know how you feel, because my husband and I are in the same kind of situation. We have been married for 14 yrs and it does get a bit dull sometimes.See,I feel as though he loves me but is not inlove with me anymore, and sometimes, the feeling is mutual.Now, we have a happy marriage and he is a good provider, and a really nice guy but sometimes , I am bored out of my mind. I think that what both of you should do, is talk about your feelings a lot and both of you should try to do romatic things together as when you were dating. My husband and I are doing this and it is working for us, I feel the spark coming back.Sometimes, when people are angry, they say things, maybe he felt like that but in reality, he does love you but may not realise it. See, you guys got so comfortable with each other that, you are not aware of how much you really love each other. Ask him if he really fell out of love for you.Ask him if he could live separtely from you. Try to find out what he is feeling and I just have a gut feeling that both of you do love each other. You just need to spend more time together. Both of you work long hours and crazy shifts, off course you both are tired and stressed.If it is possible, take a weekend and just spend it together like a second honeymoon.I hope that this works for you, it worked for me.
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