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writes: Hi. My bf and i have been together for about a year and we love each other very much. Yesterday though, he told me that during our first month of dating he kissed a girl that he worked with and he kissed her again about a month later. The second time he kissed her occured the night we were hanging out. He had to be at work really early and had to leave my house early for that reason. But he told me he went over to her house for a bit before work and that's where he kissed her. He also revealed to me that over the course of our dating (in the first few months) that another girl who he had been friends with emailed him and told him that she thought she wanted to be with him, even though she knew he had a gf (me). He never acknowledged her letter and put her off about it, but he eventually went to visit her with a couple of friends and he told her that he might have feelings for her. This was about 3-4 months into our dating now, and she got angry at him for waiting for so long to respond to him and that was it. They exchanged emails or letters up until august and then he stopped contacting her. I am so hurt by all of this and i didn't know how to respond to him. I trusted him 100% althoughout our dating and never doubted him once. I feel so played and so disappointed in him. He says that he did it because he was stupid and didn't realize that one day he would fall in love with me and that i would be the one for him. He also says that he was confused because i'm a conservative girl and was a virgin that he wansn't used to this and didn't know how to deal with it. He is really sorry for what he did and i know he's sorry too. I believe that he wouldn't do it again, but I can't seem to forget how much pain he's causing me. He says i'm the only one for him and that i'm the one he's been really waiting for and that i've had such a positive impact on his life and made him a better person for it. I don't know if i should stay with him or leave him. I do love him, but i'm so confused and i feel like he's a different person to me now. Does anyone have any advice please?
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reader, poison_0250 +, writes (2 January 2007):
 oh so hurt badly..! but if you really love your guy,why don't you try to love him more.. the important to this situation is he revealed what happened,because there are a lots of boys who keep this things secretly, thank him for what he had said,and make an agreement that if he continues this things,you better decide for whats next.. The best of luck always.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 I think that you should stay together with him. He stated that he was stupid and he didn't know if you and him loved each other. He wants to be with you...so i think that you should stay. A kiss is meerly nothing compared to having sex...which never occured.
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