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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I was deeply in love with a boy from past 10 years. But now when we were around to marry,he has broken-up with me(9months back) saying that my parents are delaying our marriage and he can't wait for me.(Although they had genuine reasons for delaying this).I really got very alone,upset and shattered.But everytime i see him , i find that he is very happy without me and enjoying his life with other girls and friends. I never saw a feeling of regret on his face even when i was watching him silently without even letting him know that i am around. Seeing this i am feeling very low and cheated. He sometimes calls me over the phone and I marry him,though he has finalized another girl for marriage too. And I pick all his calls and talk politely in front of his friends and relatives.But I do not feel that he deserve this all. Pls suggest how should I behave with him...... I m really dying without him.....unable to stop my tears till now.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Hello,From what I understand of your situation, if he has already agreed to marry another girl you should stop talking to him completely. Get him out of your life and move on. The reason he keeps on calling and contacting you is because he gets an ego boost from it. Don't be the one to boost his ego.And I'm sorry to say, but if he seems fine and happy without you he probably doesn't value you as much as you would like. You need to get over him and the only way to do so is to stop all contact with him. Find someone else who deserves your lvoe and understanding. You NEED to get him OUT of your life or at least MINIMIZE all contact with him. Tell him firmly to leave you alone. This will get better with time, trust me on that. BUT it will only get better if you get him out of your life and move on. Not otherwise.And being an indian too, I believe his excuse of your parents delaying is false. If he really loved you he would not mind waiting. Leave the kanjer, let him go. You focus on yourself.
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