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writes:This is my first break-up ever and neither does my mother, sister or best friend had ever had this experience. What can I expect after a break-up?. I just took an online depression quiz and it seems I might have a mild depression. I'm constantly trying to cheer myself up but I can't help crying myself to sleep every other night. I just want to get over this. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): My doctor has told me to access a website called moodgym, which I think is Australian. It helps train your brain out of depression and is quite fascinating as well as works. I have a tendency to high to severe depression and it has already stopped me having flare-ups. I have given up smoking too. It sounds odd but do take a look.
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reader, skye  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Im really very sorry. I understand that you are feeling down at the moment and it is quite normal to do so for a while after a relationship break down.
Your mum, sister and best friend have all been exceptionally lucky in their lives never to have experienced the myriad of emotions that you face right now, but they can still be of great help to you. Do things you all enjoy together. Go to the cinema, have a girly day out shopping, or plan a trip to the beauty spa and all get mini-makeovers. You will have fun doing this together and it can help lift your spirits.
Yes, you are sad for now but that will not last. I promise! Im not surprised that your online quiz concluded you are suffering from mild depression, for the emotion following a break up can be described as grief. However, I would not put too much emphasis on this quiz, they are far too general and only a qualified doctor can diagnois depression properly. What you are feeling now is completely normal and very similar to what most people in your situation go through.
Try to keep yourself busy in the mean time until these feelings begin to subside. Decorate your home, clear out the attic or garage, tidy your garden, learn a language or join a cookery couse at your local college in the evenings. Do something you enjoy or that you have never found time to do before, that will help take your mind of this current situation.
Find a family member or a neighbour who needs a helping hand and offer your services. Many elderly people need help with some shopping or household tasks. It doesnt have take too much time; even half an hour a week would be of help to someone in need. They would be so greatful and the feeling of acomplishment for you will be beneficial.
Go for walks in the park with your dog, or offer to walk a friends dog. The dog will love it and excerise has been proven to create positive emotions which can only be of help to you. It will also keep you fit.
After a while you will realise that you havent felt this saddness for an hour or so and soon after, you will find that you have gone all day without feeling grief for your break up.
Realising that you can use your current saddness to a positive end will automatically lift your spirits. To know that you can get some tasks done that you have been putting off for ages and be of help to those around you in need will help you heal your broken heart.
Im sorry that you are feeling this way right now and I promise that given some time you will feel much better.
Take care,
Skye
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