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writes:My husband, Does mean he is gay or bi?Been married for a few years and have kids together. He often watches porn and masturbates. I know he likes to watch 2 girls or threesomes. He really loves going down and swears he is a p...y man. But lately he has watched porno that involves 2 man and a girl. I walked in on him when he was watching on line a guy going down on a girl while he was getting done from behind by a guy. He turned the screen off right away when he saw me. I was really disappointed and hurt. My head is been wondering about his sexuality. Specially since a while back we thought of spicing up our sex life and experimented by playing with toys anally and noticed he enjoys getting pleasure that way. Now I feel bad, and wish i would have never agreed to it.What do you think. Is he probably thinking of taking this a step forward?
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reader, smiley0164 +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Well sweetie, Maybe you should be worried or maybe not, I'm a single gay man, I have slept with many married men that will never tell the rest of the world. Be thankful you know all about him. It can be great fun doing role play in the bedroom with him.Good luck. let me know the out come...
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I'm really open minded when It come to sex and I like to experience new things when it come to it too.
Luckily I was with a girl who liked to experienced to, and I did experience things anally which I enjoyed. I read on the internet that we, guys, actually have a sensual spot in our rectum that help to give a different orgasm.
Am I gay for doing so? Nope
Do I care if others think that I'm gay? Nope
Will I continue to experiment? Yep
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 No it most definitely doesn't mean he is gay.
It simply means that he has an interest in exploring sexuality that goes a little further than "conventional" sex - and you already know that from the recent experiments you say you have tried recently. It also doesn't mean that he wants to explore it with anyone other than you.
If his interests are expanding and/or exploring, then explore with him. There are all sorts of possibilities sexually, sensually, that the two of you can enjoy. If he wants to go into areas you aren't happy with then you can always decline and find something else you can do together.
It's possible that he has bisexual tendencies - but that doesn't have to be bad. Being bisexual doesn't give anyone the right or even the inclination to have partners from both sexes at the same time, or to move on to a partner of the other sex either. He's with you, and it's highly unlikely that he is even remotely considering doing anything with anyone else of either sex. If his urges include a bisexual side, then maybe you can "play" it with him. Do I need to draw a picture? I'm sure I don't. Use your imagination, and enjoy it. A bit of bedroom role play and/or role reversal can do wonders for a relationship.
Encourage him to share his interests and show you the fantasies that he finds arousing. Then play them. And explore yours too - most people have a lot more in them, hidden away in some dusty corner of their minds, than they ever admit to their partner. Dig them out and bring them to life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Hey honey, calm down and dont worry so much about this!
First off, your husband is married to you and you obviously have a good sex life (hey I know married couples in their 20s who dont even barely have sex any more!). You have kids together and are obviously into eachother.
Secondly, a mans G-spot is about 2 inched up his bum, its the back of his prostate gland (sometimes its called a
P-spot because of that). Just think how good a Gspot orgasm feels, or even better a clit and g spot together... having his bum played with like that is the same as you cuming from having his c**k in you and your clit played with! It doesnt mean he's gay, it just means hes a sexual person who isnt soo terrified of gay (homophobic) sex that he cant enjoy the natural pleasure that his body can give him.
Thirdly, a persons porn preferences dont reflect their sexuality. Im totally straight and in love with my boy but if we are watching porn, i always watch the girl cuz i can identif with that and imagine its beign done to me, even if its girl on girl, i still like it better than watching guys,m theyre jsut too aggressive and not sexy in porn! Maybe its some reverse similar thing for your husband!
And last of all, even if he is the tiniest bit bisexual, (loads of people are and decide not to act on it) wouldnt you rather he watches some porn and gets it out of his system then went and experimented with a man? :-D
Ok that ws long winded but i hope it helped, if you want to chat, message me, hope you feel better! :-D Hugs!
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