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writes: I keep seeing really pretty girls walking down the streets of New York City. Often we make eye contact and sometimes they smile at me. Is there any point to stop and introduce myself and talk to them or are women not receptive to meeting people in that context? I think I'm considered attractive. I used to model for Calvin Klein, The Gap and A and F. I've been really successful in real estate and even wrote and Illustrated a childrens story which is being published in a couple of months. At parties and bars I meet people easily (I know I probably sound cocky right now but I don't think I come off that way) but I feel that I'm missing out by not trying to connect with these people. If I don't say hello then, I may never see them again and might miss out on something special. So what do I do? Try to start a conversation right then and there or walk on by? Mama always said don't talk to strangers. Reply to this Question
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reader, Candleman +, writes (26 September 2009):
 When I've visited cities, coming from a small town, I always talk to people. I don't know how many times I've gotten the comment, "You're not from the city are you?" People in cities are less likely to be open to talking to strangers, but there are still enough of them that are. Dude, you sound like a woman's freaking dream and/or fantasy so by all means instigate the conversations. What woman wouldn't be inticed if some hot man who came up to her and said, 'Excuse me, I find you very attractive. Here is my card, contact me sometime if you would like to get together.' You're gonna have more luck on a subway or some other place where you can talk more, but shit man, what does it hurt to try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): You can walk up to a girl and ask her for an information (bar, restaurant,..). I wouldn't recommend you to say you are lost because it's not very masculine. If you do it on a smooth way and a with a big smile, the girl might be receptive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): It's probably easier said than done but I think you should try talking to them. There's nothing to lose and plenty to gain and the more you do it the more confident and smooth you'll become. Pick up artists like Neil Strauss and Mystery have written whole books on the concept. It'll be interesting to see a female perspective though.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Well it all depends on how smoothly you do this. But I suppose in the Big Apple, if you're nice and say "Good morning" or smile and ask if a girl is lost, or maybe ask and claim you're lost; well its an ice-breaker.
You might score a phone number to a real phone line or cell, maybe 1 out of 200 times. But hey, its the Big Apple! If you can make it there, you can make it anywhere.
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