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All this activity I see online. Could he be lying about not having instant messaging?

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Question - (31 July 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

My b/f of more than a year got his first lap top/computer a few months ago. He set up a yahoo account. I know the e-mail. I put it in my buddy list for aol and aim without the address at the end of course--meaning without He dropped me off at 5:15 am or so one morning-- I go online b/c I wasn't tired at that point. About 5:45 or so I see his sn appear on the aol buddy list under the mobile part. Then around 6:15 or so he was online on the regular part of the buddy list-- I write hi, didn't know you used this..and no response.

He signs off a few minutes later. This was like last week.

Then today, I see him online about 5:15 pm or so and I send a message and again no response. I call him--no answer. I call about 15-20 minutes later, while he was still online. No answer.

This person puts an away message on and then signs off shortly after. About 15 minutes later he calls me saying he just go in from working in the yard, ate a little. I asked him if he had instant messenger or aol and he said-- I said I just saw you online and he said no, I don't have aol. Then he said is your e-mail the same as your sn? What would show up if you sent me a message--he said No, I don't have aol.

A third incident:

Then another time is 9:30am. I see this sn online I call him. At the same time this person signs off or gets kicked off, my b/f then says "can you hang that up please" obviously to someone else, and then he said he would call me back. He did and he said he was at the customer's house (his job does not have to do with using a laptop; just wanted to let you know but other stuff).

I guess I could be paranoid to believe that he knew I saw him online and pretended to be at a customer's house...

Do you think it's too big of a coincidence that someone else has that sn from aol or aim, or is my b/f lying about having this instant messenger service that he says he doesn't?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006):

See if you can get on his laptop, even right in front of him. Click on Start, then Programs. If he has any sort of instant messenger program it will appear in the list of programs. Sounds like he does have it and is trying to conceal it, which is an odd thing to lie about. But if he is lying about it, then you know he's on there doing nasty things. If he's not hiding anything from you, he should have no problem letting you get on his laptop to do some research for your "weekend plans". Good Luck

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006):

Any 2 people cant share the same name you can but one person would have to put a variation on their name say like add a few numbers so any 2 people dont have the same name.Good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006):

A way to quickly assess how likely it is that someone has his (or a similar) screen name would be to run a search and see how many people have a name like his. If his is the only one, he's probably lying. If there are a zillion guys named "tacocat" floating around, this may indeed be a case of mistaken identity.

Truthfully though, I can't think of any reason why someone would lie about something like this. If he was really intent on going behind your back, he would have opened a yahoo account and NOT told you about it. Assuming your boyfriend isn't some kind of brazen moron, I think you're probably safe.

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