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writes:I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good church in his town and so he sometimes comes to the church in my town. We went to Sunday School together and know each other from when we were little. I never really noticed him until this year though when he started coming to my school, because his town doesn’t have a good high school, ether. We are both in grade nine now. We have nearly all the same classes together and sit beside each other in every class. We tease each other often. One thing he says to me is, “Frickin Corey!” as if I’ve done something wrong, but I know he is only joking. Lots of times I will be at my locker and he will come up, open his locker, and start talking to me. He always asks me to borrow a pencil, and hits the side of my desk or turns around and smiles goofily at me randomly. He plays hockey and always asks me if I am going to his games. Whenever I don’t go he asks why I didn’t. We talk a lot during class and even sometimes during tests, though we both know we shouldn’t. Sometimes I’ll be with a group of friends and he’ll call only me over to show or tell me something. He also likes to make funny faces at me and imitate me sometimes. A couple times he asked to be my partner or pulled my desk over to his so we can work together. When we are in gym class playing basketball and I shoot more baskets than him, he’ll try and beat me even though he knows I’ve already won. In band class we both play the piano well and we’ll sit down and start playing songs in front of each other. When I don’t have all the answers on an assignment and he does, he’ll ask me where I am and then give me the answers. A few times he asked me if I trusted him and then he’d do something like ask me to fall backwards and he’d catch me. However, this all occurs inside school. About two months ago Aiden started dating this girl. He is naturally a very talkative person, but last week he was really quiet and kept glancing at me. When I looked at him, he’d look away. The same day I noticed he was acting weird, he asked me and a couple of my girl friends to give him advice on how to break up with the girl he was dating. Since he’s broken up with his girlfriend he’s been acting different around me. We don’t talk as much, but once he started to ask me who I was partners with for heritage fair. I wasn’t sure if he wanted to be partners with me or was just wondering who I was going with, because he trailed off quietly. I heard the entire question, though, but pretended I hadn’t and asked him what he said. He told me, “Never mind,” and then looked away, seemingly uncomfortable. But he has also been talking to another girl from my class, Crystal, a lot lately. In front of me, he asked her if she was going to the hockey game this weekend. I know that Crystal likes Aiden, but she has had lots of boyfriends before and seems to move on to a new one each week. Since Crystal suspects I like Aiden, and she is right although I haven’t told her, she has been really mean to me lately and tries to force me away from Aiden every chance she gets. She follows him everywhere and he thinks she is annoying, but I am not sure if he is joking or if he really means it. One day after school, Aiden was waiting for a ride home and asked if me and Crystal would hang out with him until he mom came. When he called his mom and she said she was going to be late, he said that we didn’t have to stay if we didn’t want to, but both of us decided to stay. As soon as Aiden’s mom came and Aiden left, Crystal ignored me and was being mean again. Unfortunately, we live only a block away from each other so we had to walk together. When I went to the hockey game this weekend, I heard Crystal talking mean about me to another girl in my class, named Jade, and I confronted them while they were talking about me. They pretended they hadn’t done anything wrong. I went back to watch the game by myself. Whenever Aiden switched off the ice with another player, I caught him staring at me. Whenever I looked at him, he would look away. After the game I saw him walking towards the doors and right as he was about to pass me, he changed his course and without warning started walking towards me. As he was walking right towards me, I called his name and asked if he was staying for the next game. He said he wasn’t and then without saying goodbye both of us turned and walked away from each other. Also, I don’t have many girlfriends because our town is so small and the only girls my age follow Crystal. Aiden sometimes sticks up for me whenever they say something mean to me, but he doesn’t do it often because he knows I can take care of myself. So instead of hanging out with the girls, I hang out with the guys. Specifically Aiden and another guy named Brian. Brian and I are like best friends, but some people say that Brian likes me. I’m not sure if that’s true, but I am afraid that Aiden might think I like Brian, since he is who I’m going with for heritage fair, too, and that might be why he is afraid to ask me out. I don’t know how to deal with any of this. I don’t know why Aiden is suddenly talking to Crystal more and me less. Is he trying to make me jealous? And how should I go about in school Monday when there are only three of us girls in my class: Crystal, Jade and me? I’ve never really been friends with Crystal and Jade, but I don’t want any of this to come between me and Aiden. Can someone please give me some advice?
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (2 March 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry, I forgot to add that this kid from grade 8, who happens to be Crystal's cousin, put up a pole on facebook about me saying, "Have you kissed Corey Kress?" I don't know if that has anything to do with the rumors or anything, but me and this kid NEVER hang out or anything. I barely even KNOW him! So I was just worried about why he would put up a pole like that and if it has anything to do with a rumor of me kissing Aiden and these stupid makeout sessions or something. I don't know.
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (2 March 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo…it’s been a few weeks. No, I didn’t see Aiden over holidays and he doesn’t have MSN or a cell phone so I didn’t talk to him. When we got back from break, the beginning of the week was sort of weird and neither me nor Aiden talked to each other. However, Tyler quickly apologized to me for saying all that stuff before break about me liking Aiden and I didn’t hear anything from him or Ryan. Aiden still didn’t talk to me and I found out that he WAS going snowboarding and had lied to me. After Valentines Day, some other guys in our class were joking about Aiden sending me a Valentine Crush Gram, but I wasn’t sure if it was a joke to make fun of me, or to make fun of Aiden. Then – I think it was Wednesday – Aiden looked like he WANTED to say something to me, especially in first period when he actually opened his mouth to say something, then turned and didn’t. He did, though, ask me to spell something for him. Crystal thought he was asking her, so she started to spell it, then he said, “No, not you!” Then he turned to me. “Corey!” I thought, ‘wow…’ He also started teasing me in the hallway. On Thursday Crystal wasn’t at school, so – low and behold –Aiden hung out with me all day! We had PAA in the afternoon and we talked a lot during that class. When we were cutting wood, I didn’t put it in right or something, and the wood suddenly started spinning all over the place and nearly hit me in the face. I sort of freaked out a little bit because I was scared and Aiden started laughing at me. He came over though – without me asking him to – and helped me stop it and set it up right. Then he asked for a new piece of wood and cut it for me and helped me clean up the mess that I had made. It was really sweet! Throughout the rest of the two hour class we goofed around and hung out the whole time. Friday in social, me and Aiden were put in partners to work together. For the whole class, we didn’t even work, we just talked and goofed around and joked and teased each other. Near the end of the class we stopped goofing around and actually started TALKING about our lives and stuff like that. That same day, a girl from our class came over to me and asked if I liked Aiden. When I asked her why she thought that she said that she heard rumors about it. I knew I could trust her so I told her that I did like him and she encouraged me to ask him out but…I said I couldn’t until the time was right. I really thought that the time would be right soon and I really thought that Aiden liked me, but now I don’t. When I was on MSN on the weekend a boy in our class (Jay, who I also knew I could trust) asked me if I liked Aiden. I wrote, “Why does everybody keep asking me that?” Jay said he heard it around and that people said I was really jealous when Aiden was dating his ex-girlfriend. I asked him who he heard it from and he told me this other boy from our class told him at volleyball. Apparently, the entire CLASS has been talking about me liking Nik and rumors have been flying all over the school. And I mean, NOBODY ever talks about me. All this attention is just really strange for me. Anyways, I told Jay that I would tell him Monday at school. Today, Aiden and I hardly talked again and he hung around Crystal lots again almost ignoring me. The one time we did talk, was with him, Crystal and a couple other girls. I asked them if they had seen Jay and when they asked me why I needed to talk to him I said he wanted to ask me something. While the girls discussed that maybe Jay wanted to ask me out (which I knew wasn’t true), Aiden frowned at me as if he was confused why Jay would want to ask me something. Then, with realization, he said, “Oh, I know what he wanted to ask you!” I wanted to find out what Aiden knew, so I played along and tried to convince him to tell me what it was, but he wouldn’t. He said, “It’s personal.” I replied, “If it’s personal, then why do you know?” He became very quiet and didn’t say anything then. After a few seconds of me staring him down, he said, “Okay, I’ll tell you.” Then, as if he was going to whisper something, he made this stupid joke about a fake question that Jay was going to ask me. When the bell rang at the end of school, I walked up to Jay and he jokingly said, “Fess up!” I told him I did like Aiden and then I asked him if he knew who Aiden liked. He said he thought he liked Crystal a little bit. I don’t know how sure that is because I don’t think he and Aiden hang out THAT much, but…I don’t know still. And THEN as me and Jay were walking out of the school and not finished talking yet, Ryan and Tyler ran up beside me and asked me if I was dating Aiden. I denied it and they teased me about having makeout sessions with him and stuff. When I still denied it, Ryan replied, “Well everybody’s saying that! It’s all over the school!” I said, “Just because people are saying it doesn’t make it true.” Then we all walked our separate ways.
So I still don’t know what to think. It’s like a rollercoaster! One day Aiden seems to like me, next he doesn’t and almost IGNORES me hanging out with Crystal the whole time! And what are all these rumors about? They don’t really BOTHER me, but I’m just curious to find out where they came from. And I know I will probably never find out, but everybody’s talking about it and I’d like to know WHY people thought I was dating Aiden. Did he say something? He’s not the kind of guy who would make up a rumor like that, but maybe one of his friends did? Maybe Aiden said something about liking me and so then people just got the story wrong, twisted stuff, made up stuff…Or maybe Aiden’s saying that he likes Crystal when he really likes me because he is tired of all the jokes or he is embarrassed? And Jay said he thought Aiden liked Crystal a little bit, but Crystal says that she is ‘dating some kid from the city’ but she goes through guys faster than she goes through tissues,…so I don’t know if she likes him a little still or not. Oh, and should I ask Aiden about what he thought Jay was going to ask me or should I leave it alone and say nothing? What do you think?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Well i must say that you do give a very full account of what happened every detail i can really get the picture.
I am sure Aiden likes you but he is finding it difficult to get the words out. Sometimes when you are young your friends try to help you out a bit in these situations and i believe his friends have tried that by asking on his behalf saying that Aiden likes you and trying to quiz you to see how you feel.
Will you not see him at church at all during the holidays or any other time whilst you are having your break as if you got the opportunity you could ask him over hang about a bit. If you have a mobile and have his number you could send him a text it may be a little bit easier doing it that way.
I think eventually he will get around to it but if you can't wait and feel things aren't moving quick enough you are going to have to ask him.
I hope this is of some help,keep me posted i will always try to give you some suggestions.
Take care x
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (17 February 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, so I tried to take your advice, but something happened before I could do it. I was feeling pretty crappy Wednesday morning already and when I went to school for English first period, things didn’t get better. When I walked into English, Crystal and Aiden were acting all nice to me and I was talking to them, too. A few minutes after that, I heard Crystal talking to Aiden and another guy. Crystal was making fun of me and telling them how she had just lied to me about going skiing on our class field trip. She was really going snowboarding and just wanted me to go skiing to get rid of me. Some of the other girls were in on it too and I HAD known about it, but I was upset now because I thought that Aiden was in on it too. Even though I shouldn’t have let it bother me, I walked over to Crystal and with a mean look said, “Thanks a lot!” then turned and left. I avoided them the rest of the class. At break, we all went to our lockers. It just so happens that Crystal’s locker is right beside mine and Aiden’s is a few down from ours. Also coincidentally, it ended up that near the end of the break, me, Aiden and Crystal were the only ones in the hall at our lockers. I didn’t talk to either of them. We had gym next and our classes are split into girls and boys. Aiden asked us “You guys, what are you doing in gym?” (I noticed he asked both of us, not just Crystal like I assumed he would) I didn’t answer, and surprisingly neither did Crystal. Just as Crystal was closing her locker, Aiden asked me, “Corey, what are you doing in gym?” With no emotion, I replied, “I don’t know,” then closed my locker and walked away. When we got back from gym, my face BEAT red from running, we were at our lockers again. Tyler came up to me and said, “Why are you following Aiden around?” I gave him a mean look and said, “My locker is almost right beside his,” then turned and ignored him. Aiden said, “Corey, did you play basketball in gym?” I said, “No,” while stuffing my bag in my locker. Now, I don’t know who was in the hallway, or if Crystal and Tyler and some other people were still there or not, but I thought they were, when Aiden walked over to me and asked, “Corey, what’s wrong?” I wasn’t sure if he was serious or not, because like I said I thought there were a bunch of people in the hallway and I thought he was in on the joke. He might have been asking because my face was all red, but I doubt it. I didn’t want to talk to him about it in front of all these people, so I just said, “Nothing’s wrong!” without the emotionless voice I had been using before. At lunch there were some kids from the town Aiden is from that were coming for PAA and stayed for lunch. I hung out with a couple girls from there instead of with the girls in my class or with Aiden. I did hear another guy from my class laugh and say to Aiden, “So are you still dating Corey?” and he returned the joke and said, “No, some random girl is my woman now!” In PAA we are split into very small groups, and I just happen to be in Aiden’s class. I avoided him throughout the class and he didn’t try to talk to me again. Last period we were all done our work and he talked to Crystal the entire class and I didn’t try to talk to him. He asked me for my pencil though and I said, “Yeah,” that he could borrow it and gave it to him. When he gave it back I didn’t say anything. Near the end of the class though, Crystal left and Aiden was goofing off and I ended up smiling and laughing and making a few comments.
The next day, Thursday, wasn’t as bad. Aiden asked me for help a couple times in English and I talked to him normally. I wasn’t so sure if he had been in on the joke still or not. I probably just let my temper or imagination or whatever you call it get away with me. At lunch, Tyler was sitting at our table and when I sat down he said, “Why are YOU here, Corey? Are you following Aiden?” I said, “Where else am I supposed to be?” and sat down. Tyler kept bugging me and saying stuff like, “You like Aiden! Why don’t you ask him out?” blah blah blah. I tried to ignore him until, ticked off, I said, slowly and meaningfully at first, “Look: I don’t care what you think, so don’t waste your breath.” Aiden laughed and I smiled as well. Tyler left me alone after that until Ryan came and took his place saying stupid stuff like how I like Aiden. When I left to put my lunch stuff in my locker, I came back and Ryan said, “Corey’s back to follow Aiden around!” I turned and snapped, only half jokingly, “I swear to God, if you don’t shut up I’m going to punch you!” But Aiden was already storming over towards him. He said, “I need to talk to you!” and lightly pushed him out into the hallway. They were talking outside the room for like two minutes before they came back. When Ryan walked in he called, “Corey!” in a sing-song voice. Aiden looked at him warningly and Ryan said, “I’m not supposed to say anything when you’re around!” After that the girls left and me, not wanting to go with them, stayed to help Brian with his math. Aiden and another guy from our class were there, too, and the guy’s pop bottle exploded pop all over us! It soaked all four of us and we stood up screaming and shielding our faces. It was actually really funny. Me and Aiden weren’t soaked very bad so we stayed to clean up the mess while Brian and the other kid left to try and dry off. Taking the opportunity alone with him, I decided to ask him what the other guys were talking about and if what they said was true. He pretended not to know what I meant and I said, “You know exactly what I mean!” As he went to put the paper towels in the garbage he said, “No I don’t!” Then Tyler walked into the room and made a comment about me wanting to be alone with Aiden. Then Aiden said, “Hey, I need to tell you what I told Ryan!” and they left to talk. After that, Aiden went with some of the guys to the library and I stood outside the gym, watching intramurals, to think. Ryan and Tyler walked by and tried to make me ‘confess’ that I liked Aiden, but I ignored them. Then Aiden and Brian walked out of the library and came to stand beside me. We talked a little bit and Aiden asked me if I was going snowboarding or skiing. I said skiing and asked him what he was doing. He imitated going down a hill and I wasn’t sure which one he was doing until Brian said, “Skiing.” He HAD been going snowboarding and was going to have one of the guys teach him, but now he was going skiing? I’m not sure if he was in on the joke now or not, or had found out about it the day before when Crystal had told them what she and the girls were doing and then he felt sorry for me and decided to go skiing with me or what. And throughout both days, I’ve overheard parts of Aiden’s conversations at different times with Ryan and Tyson. Ryan or Tyson would say stuff like, “Just ask her!” or “She likes you!” I’ve heard them say it more than a few times when I’ve been around and once after they said it, I caught Aiden looking at me. Also, I’m REALLY curious about what Aiden was telling Tyler and Ryan when he talked to them individually! We’re on break now so I won’t see Aiden again until school starts next Monday and you probably can’t give me any more advice than you did last time, but I thought I’d better ask for some just incase. Thanks AGAIN for ALL the help!
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reader, didda123 +, writes (11 February 2009):
I replied to this yesterday i don't know why it hasn't been updated.
Anyway i think he is a bit mixed up with his signals you really need to make things clearer to him give him some signs that he can't get wrong.
Just have a word with him and say everyone is being silly keep bringing up things about you both say you really like him and they are saying he likes you is it true and see what he says.
If he denies it maybe he is just not grown up enough for a relationship and i would just move on because you will be wasting time on him but give him the chance to confess his feelings first.
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (10 February 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I went to school today, I hardly talked to Aiden and he hardly talked to me! The only time was when he asked to borrow my eraser and then later when he asked me and some of the girls what we were doing and I told him. That was it! He didn’t really ignore me, but he didn’t pay attention to me either. He hung out with Crystal and Jade the entire lunch hour and wouldn’t even acknowledge that I was there until I talked to him first! I also heard a couple people teasing him about asking Crystal out again. (I’m still not sure if she’s dating that guy or not).At lunch we were all standing in the hallway and another kid from the basketball team, Ryan, who happens to be Tyler’s cousin and is in my grade, yelled out, “Corey, why don’t you ask Aiden out?” I asked, “Why?” Maybe a little bit too mean because I was annoyed with him (Ryan, not Aiden). As Ryan said, “Because you like him!” Aiden stormed over to Ryan as if he was going to punch him. (He wasn’t really going to, it was just a threat). Aiden said something to Ryan that I didn’t hear. I was TOTALLY confused now and surprised by Aiden’s reaction. Ryan (probably not wanting to get in Aiden’s way because he is way smaller than him) didn’t say anything else. I was afraid to say anything too revealing because I knew that Ryan would twist whatever I said when he told Aiden, but I wanted to get this straightened out so I asked Ryan, “What are you talking about?” and he just smiled and didn’t say anything, as if I knew what he was talking about. He tried to run away, but I followed him and demanded he tell me what he was going on. He said, “Well…It’s kind of obvious that you like him. You sit beside him in every class!” (Which, actually, I don’t sit beside him in EVERY class and if I do I’m usually sitting with a couple girls, too. And besides, Ryan is only in two of my classes!) I still pretended that it was a silly thing to think and I said, “No, I don’t!” Probably not the best answer, but then Ryan walked away. I said, “No, wait!” But he ignored me.After that I talked to Aiden even LESS than before, which wasn’t a whole heck of a lot. During the rest of the lunch hour he hung out with Crystal and Jade or went with them or some of the guys somewhere else. He wouldn’t talk to me AT ALL and I didn’t say anything to him. NOW what do you think is going on? Could he be mad at me or trying to avoid me because he might think that I do like him and he might not like me back at all? Or could he like me and he’s just as embarrassed as I am? He might be afraid that I don’t like him, especially after the way I said, “Why?” when asked if I was going to ask him out. Or is this just some big joke between all of them? Please tell me you have some idea!
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reader, didda123 +, writes (10 February 2009):
I think young boys and girls sometimes do this they get their friends to ask on their behalf and i think this is what Aiden has asked Tyler to do.
He has probably being getting a few mixed messages recently what with Crystal and yourself and he is unsure how you actually feel.
Why don't you mention to him what Tyler said to you say that you thought it was lovely if it was true and see what he says although he may be really embarrassed but it could be worth it.
I am sure he does like you if you can't bring yourself to ask him you will just have to make it blatently obvious how you feel by flirting a little bit more with him and then he may get the courage to ask you out himself as the fear of rejection will be less since you have given him plenty of signals.
Good luck keep me updated x
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (10 February 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAllrighty, so I distanced myself from Aiden a little bit for a while. He started to initiate some conversations, but still not as much as before. Things between us are sort of going back to normal, but not quite the same. We talk more and sometimes we are even by ourselves and are talking, like at lunch just him and me eating lunch after everyone else has left or finishing our math, but not very often at all.This weekend Crystal went to the movies with another boy from our class. For some reason she is ignoring me now and won’t talk to me and either will about five of the girls in our class, who are all friends with Crystal or used to be friends with me but for some reason suddenly don’t like me any more…Anyways, I don’t know if Crystal and this guy are dating, but I have a feeling that they are. I’m not so worried about Aiden liking Crystal anymore…here’s why.So today at lunch one of the grade eights, Tyler, who plays basketball with Aiden came up to me and said he had to ask me a question. Tyler wouldn’t ask me in front of any of the girls, so he pulled me aside and asked me if I liked Aiden. I was surprised and said, “Where’d you get that idea?” He just said that Aiden wanted to know if I liked him because Aiden had asked Tyler to ask me out for him. I thought that if Aiden REALLY wanted to ask me out he would have came and asked me out face to face because that’s just the kind of guy he is, so I told Tyler that if Aiden wants to ask me out he can come and ask me himself. Tyler said, “No, just…yes or no?” Again, I repeated the same thing and then he left. After he walked away I glanced back and he was talking to Aiden by himself. Not wanting to look to eager, I waited until the bell rang and then asked Aiden, “What was Tyler talking about at lunch?” Aiden said, “He was just making stuff up,” and he left it at that.I have NO idea if Aiden really likes me or not. I was sure he was the kind of guy who would ask me out face to face. But then again he was too scared to break up with his last girlfriend face to face so he might just be afraid of rejection, like any other guy. But I wasn’t sure if he really DID want to ask me out or not. Tyler is the nosy type of person and had been bugging me about stuff at lunch before that. Now I’m not sure if Tyler was just asking me this because it was obvious I like Aiden (which is a bad thing). Or if Aiden does like me and was talking to Tyler about it, and Tyler took it on his own to ask me without Aiden wanting him to. Or if Aiden was serious and then when I told Tyler to tell Aiden to ask me face to face, he was just worried about what I would say and then didn’t want to ask me out anymore. Please tell me what you think, because I have no clue!
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reader, didda123 +, writes (30 January 2009):
Well i was really convinced that Aidan liked you but judging by his present actions i would keep a wide berth from him at the moment. I just think that he is beginning to play some kind of game he is stringing you girls along.
Just play it cool and be friendly when he is but just don't come across as too keen to him because i think he is lapping this up.
Maybe he has a soft spot for Crystal now but he is very fickle and i don't think he is worth the bother you are putting in. If he is genuine about you he will show his true colours when you start distancing yourself from him a bit.
Good luck x
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (30 January 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I don't know if this will change things, but I just read your response and something ELSE happened today at school! Me, Crystal, Aiden and a few of the guys were done our work and we were allowed free time to play cards or something. Aiden saw that both me and Crystal were finished, but he asked Crystal to play cards. A few minutes later I walked over to play with them and Aiden said, "Go away Corey!" I wasn't sure if he was REALLY joking and so I just sat down and said, "Shut up!" Later at lunch when I went to go sit at the lunch table, I saw Aiden, Brian and another guy from our class talking. As soon as they saw me they immediately stopped talking stared at me. Brian looked surprised, then shocked/scared. I sat down and asked, "What?" then smiled. Brian looked away and said, "Never mind." I demanded again and he looked embarrassed or something and said, "Just never mind," again. Before I could say anything else, Aiden suddenly changed the subject abruptly by asking me a question. He asked if I'd be partners with this one girl who lives in the same town he does (They come down to our school for PAA) Me, Aiden and Brian are all in the same PAA class and so I told Aiden to tell her that I wasn't sure who I was going with yet. I knew that Brian would ask me, but I was planning on asking Aiden. I don't know if you can give me any advice on this because you can't read minds or anything, but now I don't know what they were talking about and I'm not sure if Aiden was joking or not earlier. Sorry, you're probably getting sick of giving me advice! Lol.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (28 January 2009):
I think you should get him on his own and have a friendly chat just say you are worried about your friendship because you value him as a friend but he seems a bit distant at the moment so you were wondering if anything was bothering him. That may be enough for him to get things out in the open with him.
He probably doesn't appreciate being teased by his friends about the other girl and maybe he is harbouring a grudge that you are very friendly with Brian you will never know unless you approach him and have that chat.
Good luck x
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (28 January 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay so it's been a while, and things have gotten WORSE! We hardly talk at ALL anymore! Some of the guys in my class were bugging Aiden about asking Crystal out. Whenever they did he'd get sort of mad at them. Not mad, but annoyed. I don't know if he wants to ask her out or if it is some sort of joke because they mentioned him asking another girl out, too. But we barely talk at all now and I can't STAND it anymore! Sometimes he looks like he wants to say something but doesn't and sometimes he glances at me, but most of the time he just doesn't talk to me anymore. He's not mean to me, when I talk to him he WILl talk to me, but he never starts talking to me. NOW I don't know WHAT to think! Help please!
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reader, JustSomeoneRandom +, writes (19 January 2009):
JustSomeoneRandom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice! I guess I'm going with Brian because we've been friends longer and he asked me first, whereas Aiden was already going with someone. I'll see what happens tomorrow! Thanks again. This really helped me.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (19 January 2009):
Well in my opinion i think Aiden really likes you but maybe because you are a good friend of his he does not know whether to risk your friendship by asking you to be his girlfriend.
Why are you going to Heritage Fair with Brian when you clearly would prefer to be going with Aiden that will definately give Aiden the wrong message, unless you make it clear Brian is just a good friend.
Why don't you make his day and ask Aiden to go with you i'm certain you won't be disappointed.
Let me know what happens and good luck x
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