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writes: hey my name is debby and i want to ask a question iv known this guy 8 years and i have been with him for 2 years but the problem is he is married i know he loves me deeply like i love him but he is scared to death of leaving his wife as he thinks she will not let him see his kids and also he is in debt he said he would lose everything so now im confused what do you think i should do get rid of him and carry on with my life or stand by him thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): i've got a few stepz for you to test him whether he leaves or not:
give him a ultimatum be nice say look i love you dearly but i want you to move in or something - if he rejects you offer end it there, give him about 2 - 3 months so he still is in grief and give him a chance then he'll know what it's like to live without you, yourlife is ahead of you with this guy, and as for his debts seek financial advice tell him go bankrupt for a year and write off his debts love to know what his desicion with you will be then, also the children give him the reassureance that he will see the children via courts when they get a divorce
its awesome and very complicated but i hope u get therein the end
i'll let you know about what's up with my lover is well,
same story as you excepet i was in there in 2003
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): look i tell u my story then decide:
i liked this guy for years since 1999, and then finally i expressed how i felt after flirting luvvy duvvy and so on in 2003, he told his wife something and she came to my education instution and beat me up, he just stood there, from then he is going past my home, shop near my home, and that same guy has just had a newborn fuck know what's the sex of the child but he recenetly had one with her,
i promised myself i will get him, although what he has done, but please not i haven't slept not kiseed nor holded hands with him or anyone in the years...
so i know in my hearts of hearts i am faithful and i will wait for him...
anyway the point is i back from the scene and got my qualifications, training, and that bitch is a tramp, she thinks driving a crysler pt cruiser makes her posh, but i'm training to be a doctor while she is trying to have babies to make him stay, so i've made a future for myself and have loads of support he is the right one for me, so it took so much to find, and i will get him, soon...
i think he also realsieses the world without me...
and will think i'm independant with or without him, either way i will live my life, i will not take nuisance .
so please do the same
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): m8 leave the guy alone. if he did love you then he would've decided if he wanted to marry you. marriage isn't about a person you can live with, it's about person who you can't live without.. keep teasing him like you are and you'll lose yur friendship, stakes are up to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): ask urself this, do u love being the other women? do u want to be a homerecker? dont want to be mean but ur involved in one of the greatest sins. but i understand that i takes two to ruin a marriage and he is a bum. he obviously cares for u but darling he is not going to leave his wife for u, he has to much to loose. and u are just giving him the best of two worlds. leave the bastard and his wife, get some therapy if u need it, and find a mad u urself will not have to worry about cheating on u with another women. because if he is capable of cheating on his wife whome he has kids with what makes u think he isnt going to be cheating on u. he may already have another woman. respect urself more, just imagine if u were the wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): No, he doesn't love you deeply. He has a wife and children and isn't going to leave them for you.
You have known him for eight years and been involved with him two years - that's two years too many. Why did you choose a man who isn't free to have a real relationship with you anyway?
Get rid of him now, and put an end to something which is wrong (he's cheating on his wife) and which has no future!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 You are very wrong. He doesn't love you deeply, he is using as bit on the side. He has brought you down to the lowest level...the other woman. You can only retrieve your dignity by dumping the loser and vowing to never again get involved with a married man. Do it today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2006): Ok, there was a similar question posted by another woman you may want to read that post...Let's see your guy is unavailable for 8 years that you have known him because he is married and has children that depend on him for support. If he leaves his wife he will lose everything because he is in debt. And you do not know what to do? What part of this is positive for you? What is positive about leaving his wife for him except he will be destitute with you?
Please go get some therapy to deal with your self esteem issues, and your fear of intimacy. You have been living a fantasy with a married man that has given you an unrealistic view of what a real love relationship entails . If he cheats on her he will eventually cheat on you, he has issues around intimacy, and is very irresponsible and narcissitic...if he was any kind of a man and did not want to be maried, he would seperate from his wife before carrying on with you, so that she could be free of him and the pain of having you in the middle of her marriage....you are a direct threat to her family and you need to get out now.
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