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I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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16 next week and worried my girlfriend wants to have sex... how can I say no gently!?
Q. Hi Me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and its my 16th birthday next week. I am really worrid that she wants to have sex however I dont. She has been hinting at this for a while and I have been joking it off. how can i turn h...
A. 3 July 2007: Only do what you want to do. You don't have to do anything. There are things you can do that don't involve intercourse- oral sex for example. But make sure you are ready for that aswell. :)
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 28 June 2007: Am in London at the moment :D
I'll be bringing a blow up hammer to protect myself from you dr pete :p
hehe
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 23 June 2007: Talk to her over the phone or over instant messenger.
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Does this boy with a girlfriend fancy me?
Q. Hi i really like this boy but he has a gf i am in all his lessons and he always stares at me and smiles and we really get on and i don't wanna hurt my friend is he trying tell me sumthing plz help ...
A. 22 June 2007: He might be but while he's with his girlfriend you should just be his friend. If he continues to stare at you have a quiet word and ask why.
Good Luck!
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Will he ever overcome his fear of being hurt?
Q. Big problem, complicated situation. The wonderful man I was seeing for 5 months has been hurt by two girls in the past, he was engaged and almost married to both. When i came along, I had gotten divorced and been away from my ex for 1 1/2 years. He ...
A. 21 June 2007: Give him some space and wait and see what he says. He may be petrified of getting close to you because of his past and he needs time to maybe realise that you aren't like his exs. If you feel he is taking too much time then ask him to come and talk ... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop spending, despite our debts
Q. hey everybody i have a question why are men so difficult? my husband wont stop spending money! hes overseas and we have all these bills that he had before we got married and i now have bills because i got behind on some of my things tryin to pay his ...
A. 21 June 2007: You cover your own debts and leave him with his. If he can't see he's spending too much money then maybe being refused some because he's reached his limit or something will make him see sense. It's a tough situation as you dont want to sit and watch ... (read in full...)
She tell her Mum everything that we get up to!! What can I do?
Q. Hi me and my girlfreind have been going out for 4 months now and I really do love her. However when we sleep together or talk on the phone she tells her mum eveything. She even tells her what we do and i cant look at her mum the same way now. Can ...
A. 21 June 2007: Sit down with your girlfriend and explain to her that her telling her mum everything you two do makes you a little uncomfortable. I don't see any harm in her being close to her mum but there maybe should be a limit to what she shares.
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A guy who pressurised me into sex never used a condom with his other partners... Now I feel a burning sensation... What should I do?
Q. Im 14 and Ive lost my virginity to a lad who made me feel pressured into having sex with him..He wasnt a virgin and has never used a condom with any of his sexual partners.. He hit me alot and had sex with my friends when i wudnt have sex with ...
A. 21 June 2007: Definetly go see your gp straight away. Your GP will probably give you antibiotics to clear up anything you may have got Also talk to someone about what you are going through like your mum, sister or a close friend. I wouldn't class any of the girls ... (read in full...)
He's 10 years older than me-should i see how it goes with him or find someone I am truly attracted too?
Q. i normally choose guys the same age as me, that i am attracted to and can make me laugh.... these never seem to work out too well as they dont really care deep down....... i have now met a guy 10 yrs older, he's kinda my type, but cant really make ...
A. 21 June 2007: We can't help sometimes who we fall for and at 18+ I don't see anything wrong with you being interested in someone 10 years older than you.
Go on a few dates with him and see how you feel.
Good Luck
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I am 16 and I am in love with a 23 year old guy...but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. i am 16 and i am in love with a 23 year old guy, he is perfect in every single way but he already has a girlfriend, what should i do? i can't get him out of my head and whenever we see each other we always have a really good chat. help! what should ...
A. 21 June 2007: I'd forget about him and move on. He has a girlfriend and to make a move on will be unfair to her. Plus he may see you as just a freind because of the age gap. It is hard when you fancy someone who is taken and there isn't really much you can do ... (read in full...)
What is this discharge? I'm only 13 and really worried!!
Q. Okay. I'm 13 years old, and I started my period when I was 12. A few months ago, I noticed a strange, clumpy, whit substance in my panties. I wasn't aware of it until I saw it, and it is sometimes accompanied by a thick, whitish liquid. I'm ...
A. 21 June 2007: Is there not an older female you can chat to about this? I know you siad you don't get along with you mum. Have you got any sisters.
It is completely normal to have a discharge. Its your girly bits cleaning its self.
If this still concerns y... (read in full...)
I've like this guy for a while. Do I have a shot?
Q. Hi everyone reading this, I would like to ask your advice on something. I have recently (6 months ago) been out of a 5 year relationship and I have had a very rough time goingh through that. The reason for him breaking up with me was another girl...
A. 21 June 2007: See how things go when you get there. Maybe he's waiting for you to move to the school he goes to so he can see you more. If you are still unsure sit down with him and tell him how you feel or ask him out.
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I broke up with my bf 4 months ago but I still love him. He says he misses me. What do I do next?
Q. i have been split up from my ex now for 4 motnhs. But i finsihed it and regret it. I stil love him loads and no one can take his place. i texted him an asked him did he miss me? he repleied and said ye i do miss you abit.? wot do i do next? it makes ...
A. 21 June 2007: Texy him again and ask him to meet up for a chat. Then tell him how you feel when you meet up. He may feel the same especially since he's admitted he misses you too.
Good luck!
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How do I gain back his trust after cheating?
Q. how do you prove to someone that you're loyal to them now after cheating on them at one point? it's like i wasn't loyal but our relationship grew instead of ended and i fell in love and i became loyal, i'd do anything for him... how do i prove that ...
A. 21 June 2007: All you can do is give him time and his trust in you will grow. You can't just suddenly trust someone, especially if they have done something to loose the trust in you they had. If you two are meant to be together then the trust he has for you will ... (read in full...)
Should I meet my sister who I've never met before even though it would affect my family?
Q. olla again! i need people advice! say u have a sister some where in the world ypu've never met but want to, should u? even though to will destroy or strengthen family life? help me...
A. 21 June 2007: If you really want to meet her then I say go for it.
My dad was adopted and has for the last few years been fascinated in where he came from and has he got any bothers/sisters or nieces/nephews. I support what he is doing as he's been talking ... (read in full...)
Lots of things make me think my boyfriend may be cheating... such as his secret myspace pages!
Q. I have been with someone for almost two years. We are moving in together in 2 weeks. Whats mine is his and vice versa. I love him dearly but I have trust issues with him. I have never caught him cheating on me but here are a few examples of what ...
A. 21 June 2007: Ask him straight out what's going on. If he tells you there is nothing going then it's down to you whether you believe in him or not. It does sound suspicious what he is doing, but it doesn't make him a cheat. A relationship needs trust to survive ... (read in full...)
Should I start all over or just let him go?
Q. Alright I had a baby girl about 2 and a half months ago and the other day I told my boyfriend (not real father) That I was giving cusody to my parent's until I finsh school ect. But he didnt know he thought I was just giving up on my daughter which ...
A. 21 June 2007: Congratulations on the baby!
Chat it through with him and get out of him exactly how he is feeling. Explain you aren't giving up on your daughter just having help while you finish your studies.
He may be feeling a little pushed out from ... (read in full...)
16 next week and worried my girlfriend wants to have sex... how can I say no gently!?
Q. Hi Me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and its my 16th birthday next week. I am really worrid that she wants to have sex however I dont. She has been hinting at this for a while and I have been joking it off. how can i turn h...
A. 21 June 2007: Talk to her about how you feel and how you are not ready. If she truly cares about you she will want you to wait until you are ready. If you talk feelings with her rather then joke it off she may respect you more for being honest with her and ... (read in full...)
How do I make moves on the girls during this summer of love??
Q. Ok, so here's my situation. I'm 18, I haven't gotten any in ages and am fed up to the back teeth of it! Last time was 18 months ago...not that I've been counting or anything. Basically, I'm looking for a bit of advice of picking girls up. I fe...
A. 21 June 2007: If you in a club offer to buy a lady a drink and ask how her evenings going. If she's interested in chatting to you then she will :)
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What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 21 June 2007: Hang in there and see what he says next time he gets in touch. You've apologised and held out an olive branch. Its up to him now to grab hold of it.
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 21 June 2007: Tell her you like her. Ok it does risk loosing her but you will look back and ask yourself what if???
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I just want more from life but he feels I'm leaving him out
Q. Is it wrong to want more in life? I have been in a relationship for about 3 years now. I am completely happy and want nothing more then to be with him. But the problem seems to be that I have all these plans and goals. When I talk about them it ...
A. 21 June 2007: Ask him what he wants from the future and see if you can intertwine both your goals. If he doesn't have any then I can't see what's wrong with you living yours. Try to involve him a little more in your plans.
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: Sounds like quite a good idea :D
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How can I have sex with my boyfriend when I get to high school?
Q. hey, i am 15 years old. after this summer is over i am going to highschool. i want to have sex with my boyfriend in highschool. but i dont really know how. im just scared i wont do it right. any body? ?? ...
A. 21 June 2007: This is a very common fear about your first time. Why not share your concerns with your boyfriend before you do it as it may help relax you. Your boyfriend may also be nervous if it is his first time. He may also still be nervous as it is his first ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and now the guy I cheated with wants to meet up with me again.
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for the past 2 years and were planning on moving in together for college, i love him but i cheated on him about a month ago.. the lad i done it with is texting me and wants to meet up with me again and i really ...
A. 21 June 2007: Before you meet up with this guy have a serious think about who you want to be with. Meeting up with this guy again while still with your boyfriend is unfair on him. If you decide to stay with your boyfriend it may be a good idea to cease any ... (read in full...)
She says she isn't having sex until she's 16, and I'm fine with that, but she also said that until then we could just like, fool around. But the thing is we don't EVER.
Q. I'm 15. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 months now, and everything is great, except there's no sexual side to our relationship. I know most of you will probably say we're too young, but seriously, it's been 4 months and we haven't done ...
A. 21 June 2007: Maybe she's shy when she's around you to initiate something. Maybe she's saying she wants to but doesn't really. I would sit down and chat with her about it and see what she says.
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How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
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How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 21 June 2007: Do you want us all to lie then and say yes you can make yourself straight?! The truth hurts sometimes. You are who you are. We all have quirks about us we don't like and can't change.
You may find as you grow up your sexual orientation levels o... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 21 June 2007: Do you want us all to lie then and say yes you can make yourself straight?! The truth hurts sometimes. You are who you are. We all have quirks about us we don't like and can't change.
You may find as you grow up your sexual orientation levels o... (read in full...)
I'm scared of the affects the abuse I suffered as a child is having on my life now. Please help!
Q. I'm scared of the affects the abuse I suffered as a child is having on my life now. I was sexually abused when I was little. It wasn't the most serious case but obviously had an effect on my life and personality. However, what scares me now is...
A. 20 June 2007: You didn't want it to happen to you. I was abused as a child/teenager and one thing that sickened me at the time and sickens me now is how I did get enjoyment out of it. Not the same as with my partner. I was told it was because whether I wanted my ... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy likes me?
Q. what does it mean if every day a boy stares at you all day for about 6 months and never says a word to you, also if he goes up to your friend and asks about you???...
A. 20 June 2007: It may mean he's interested in you. Why don't you go over to him and start up a conversation. He might be very shy and be not sure on how to approach you!
Good Luck!
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My boyfriend wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with.
Q. Okay... My boyfriend just popped this thing on me. He wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with. We will use protection and we will both know that we are more important than the side people. ...
A. 20 June 2007: It's down to you at the end of the day hunni. I would be dropping my partner if he suggested sleeping with someone else. I see that as having the best of both worlds- a relationship and a bit on the side and it's a little bit greedy in my eyes. If ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend 2 months I think I'm falling in love with him but I don't think he feels the same
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 months I think I'm falling in love with him but I don't think he feels the same he said he hurts me? which i dont understand what that means and im hurting because he really wants me to tell him i love you because it ...
A. 20 June 2007: Talk to him about it and ask why he thinks he is hurting you. Maybe he thinks he's hurting you by not being ready to say I love you back, but you wont know until you ask him. Tell him how you feel and you may find he does feel the same way but is ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet up on Friday again, should I go? What should I wear? How should I act?
Q. Okay basically I have been going out with this guy for 8 months, we split up last year over stupidness and this year he broke up with me cos of a text from one of my exes. Everyone is saying he does not deserve me and stuff buh, I know how he reall...
A. 20 June 2007: I would go, dress casually and ask him what he wants from your relationship as the picking up and dropping cant carry on. You either get together, just be friends or he leaves you alone. He cant continue to play with your emotions like he's been ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me tips on how to make our sex more exciting and fun again?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for over 8 months and I can tell he's getting bored with my routine, mostly because he's been saying its not exciting anymore. But anyway, can anyone give me tips on how to make our sex more ...
A. 20 June 2007: How about dressing up for him in some sexy underwear or outfits? My other half loves that. Also invest in a few toys to spice things up a little more.
Also try a different position each time you have sex. Buy a karma sutra book and work through ... (read in full...)
I'll never see the guy I love again... Should I kiss him on the last day?
Q. Help me please! I've liked this kid since pre-k, and i have never kissed him. Friday is my last day of school, and I really want to, to get it off my chest. He's sweet but I'm not too sure if he likes me back. Should I go for it and give him a kiss, ...
A. 20 June 2007: You have nothing to loose if you are never going to see him again so kiss him! You don't want to look back and ask yourself what if or what ever.
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My friend's getting a reputation, how can I make her step back and take a look at herself?
Q. hello dont really know where to start with this, but here goes, i have a really special friend of mine(just friends) i,ve known her for quite a number of years now, what it is shes married, n shes been sleeping around with a few lately, one was just ...
A. 20 June 2007: I agree with flowergirl- as you've told her there isn't much else you can do apart from be there for her.
Not only is she making herself look bad but she is running the risk of destroying her marriage but she is the only one that can stop doing wh... (read in full...)
After three weeks, he said he wanted time apart b/c he loves my close friend! Should I just move on?
Q. Hello. This is long, I'm afraid. I'm 14. I finished with a guy today, who's 15. We'd been going out for 3 weeks. I finished with him because he said he loved someone else, yesterday. And that he wanted "time apart". At first, I accepted thi...
A. 20 June 2007: It's not your friend's fault and she didn't screw the relationship up.
I think you should walk away. It'll be hard hunni but it does get easier and you will meet someone else.
We all want to feel loved and find it hard when someone turns th... (read in full...)
There are so many obstacles in our way but I feel there is still a chance for us; should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago my long distance b/f and I decided that our relationanship was not going to work. Everything is against us being together: distance, money, culture. But we still love each other. I was going to go and visit him but we both decided it ...
A. 20 June 2007: I've been in a long distance relationship for three years and it is hard. You cant just walk up the street to hang out and stuff like that. I think you should write to him and tell him how you feel. It may not have him come running back to be with ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should tell him I like him--before I go abroad!
Q. I really like this guy, met him when he was in a relationship with his ex and was there for him when they broke up. I was working with him offshore for 4 weeks, living and working together. nothing happened then coz i was also in a relationship. w...
A. 20 June 2007: Send him a postcard telling him how you feel. Or sit him down before you go. He may want to wait for you to come back, but then he may not. If you don't tell him you'll just kick yourself for not doing it!
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Should I try to pursue a friendship? What does his odd behavior mean?
Q. I started dating this guy and things were going well for a while, but then he asked me not to leave him. The problem is that I knew that I was going to move, and I didn't want to not tell him. I felt that that would be too deceitful. We broke up ...
A. 20 June 2007: Give him some time. By asking you not to leave shows me he may be a little insecure. I think you should and be friends with him if that is what you both want!
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I'm in love with a guy who messes me around--please help!
Q. Im in love with this guy who keeps messing me around. I told him it was over last week and he kept calling me then one night he came over late--we had sex. I called 2 days later and we arranged to meet then he stood me up and wouldnt answer ...
A. 20 June 2007: End it with him then get his number blocked on your phone. Don't answer when he calls, just ignore him. He's the one messing you around and you need to get him out of your head for your own sanity.
If he comes round just tell him you don't wa... (read in full...)
How can I stop my masturbation habit? It feels like I'm cheating on the girl I love!
Q. I am in great problem.. please someone help me get out of this crap.. i am not able to have a firm control on my mind.. I love a girl a lot. and she too loves me a lot.. now a days because of some problem at her place, we are not able to be in to...
A. 20 June 2007: Heya,
If you really think porn sites are an issue why not as a close friend or somebody close to you to put a password on the age restriction internet settings that stops you logging in to mature sites. Or try going for a walk when you feel the... (read in full...)
After the morning after pill, I got my normal period...but now it's late! What's going on?
Q. I had sex about 6 weeks ago and took the morning after pill the day later. Then a week after that, I had what look liked my normal period. Now it's been four weeks and i was due on my period 5 days ago and still havent come on. I'm confused about ...
A. 20 June 2007: Periods at your age can not always be on time. I was never regular as a teen and still miss the odd one now, and i'm loving the brak from them while i'm pregnant. If you are that concerned talk things through with your mum or with your doctor and ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 19 June 2007: You cant "make" yourself straight again if you find guys attractive. When I was in my early teen sI began to find other girls and female celebs attractive. Later in my teens I did have some fun with other girls and I think you could class me as ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 18 June 2007: Ouch.
I'm really sorry its so tough for you.
I can understand you being nervous about ringing him, but living with the emotions you are at the moment are hurting you to. Isn't it better to know for sure than not know at all?
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What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 16 June 2007: Give him some time. You've let him know where he can find you. He may just be a little scared about moving to where you live. I know my partner was before he bite the bullet and decided to move in with me. If you don't hear from him then he ... (read in full...)
I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 13 June 2007: Explain to her that you do like her, and not play games, but tell her that your friendship you have with her is important to you and you dont want to loose her as a friend. You just had to be honest about your feelings.
Good luck
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