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I am a single 38 year old blond blueeyed female who works in the medical profession. I live in New York City. I enjoy interacting with people and animals. I just recently discovered this website and I truly enjoy reading the questions. Very special thank yous to everyone who responds to my questions. I appreciate hearing from you. I have had wonderful relationships with men but only recently learned how to love someone unconditionally and it was that experience that led me to this website.

How can I reduce my sex-drive? I want to f*** every woman I meet!

Q.   i have high sex drive how can i reduce it i want to have sex with every woman who i meet ...

A.   7 October 2007: Nothing wrong in having a high sex drive. Be glad. Many guys your age start to lose it. Be choosy with your partners and find women who appreciate it. You may find that one of them may stop your wondering eye.... (read in full...)

Could I have gotten an STD from just genital contact not intercourse?

Q.   Could I have gotten an STD from just genital contact not intercourse?...

A.   7 October 2007: Unfortunately yes. Herpes, syphilus, genital warts can be transmitted this way. ... (read in full...)

Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!

Q.   I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...

A.   8 July 2007: Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you have tormented yourself with this act. Sure he is curious, who would not be? What would you do if you received at text message from a secret admirer? It's flattering and that's the bottom line. At this point you have two ... (read in full...)

Husband has no sex drive and we make love 3 times a year (max)... now I find he's been calling adult contact lines!

Q.   Hello, I really dont know what I should please help and be as honest as possible. I have been married for almost 8 years we are in our very late 30's and have a lovely 3yr old. My husband and I love each other but he has completely lo...

A.   4 July 2007: I am so sorry to hear this. There nothing anyone can say to take the feelings of betrayal, rejection and hurt away. This issue should be discussed between you too. He may resist or deny it. Be patient, let him know you love him and that the tru... (read in full...)

My wife is do I help her?

Q.   My wife's mother died; she is falling apart and won't accept aid from me and the kids. Now I'm a doctor and busy ALL the time, now I love my kids but I cant earn a living and look after 4 kids and try to help my wife--I love her with all my heart ...

A.   4 July 2007: What type of doctor are you? PhD, M.D., D.O.? With my medical training grief for 6 months after a loss can be natural. However, during that time antidepressants may help although I have less confidence in them than I used to. There are so many of ... (read in full...)

I am so scared I will lose him forever if I don't keep seeing him, what should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend, and best friend, of 8 years finished with me and is seeing someone else. I still have deep feelings for him and we see each other regularly as friends. However, it is killing me. I want more than friendship, but he says he cannot ...

A.   4 July 2007: Wise answers everyone. I understand your pain and it is a truly is as if someone has reached in your chest and ripped your heart out. I am feeling it now also. I have shaken with fear, prayed, weeped buckets and lost 8 pounds. This has been two ... (read in full...)

Our mothers have conflicting views on our sex life

Q.   A small problem.. my girlfriend and i have been going out for around 6 months and her mum actually wants us to take our relationship further. We are both virgins and we havent explored each others body fully. However my mum doesn't want us to do ...

A.   4 July 2007: If you want to have sex right now at this age, you as the male should run, not walk, to the store and buy condoms. Your girlfriend should run, not walk, to the doctor and discuss and walk out with a form of contraception. What are you risking?... (read in full...)

She experimented with her ex but doesn't want to with me

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and live together with her son from a previous relationship and my daughter with her who's 4 months. Lately I found pictures of her with an ex and a sketch she drew of another one naked and thes...

A.   4 July 2007: You have made a few statements that I believe answered your question. She participated in these acts with people she did not love. Love changes everything. Sex will never be the same between you if you share it with someone else. She knows this and ... (read in full...)

I fear we're getting married just to fill a void in our lives

Q.   i'm in a really good relationship, but the thing is i'm scared stiff! i was in a bad relationship, it ended sour a few month before we were to get married. now im due to get married to my new partner and we've both had a bad couple of years. his mum ...

A.   4 July 2007: Reread your first sentence. You are in a good relationship. I believe that when the person is the right one then it is the right time. It is normal to feel scared before making such a commitment but you should a certainty that this man is the one ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend isn't sure he loves me...what do I do now?

Q.   What do you do when your boyfriend of 2 years isn't sure if he loves you or wants to be with you anymore? I'm heartbroken, but I'm still holding on to him, to a future we promised together. He says he just needs time to find himself, but I have a ...

A.   1 July 2007: Hi You are young. Enjoy it. Make a promise to not marry till 25 years of age. When your are 25, reasses your life. You may find that you may not want to get married till you are 30. By the way, if he isn't sure after 2 years, he doesn't love you... (read in full...)

I'm trying to hide who I really am to keep him while everything else seems hopeless

Q.   I have abandonment issues which Im worried will eventually destroy my relationship..oh and I dont understand men. Ive just started seeing someone I adore, hes beautiful, so handsome sometimes Im shy to look at him. Hes kind, gentle and alway...

A.   1 July 2007: Hi You are not alone. You are never alone. Do not hurt yourself anymore. So you think have abandoment issues? Stop thinking that way and let me tell you why. Why do you think so many women your age are married or in abusive relationships? B... (read in full...)

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