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- am coming from a paradise like country (at least for me)
- am 25 years old.
- am studying ecology for master degree.
- am an amateur bantam weight female boxer (not so active anymore now, because of my study).
- am married to a super-nice-man 5 years ago and currently living in said superman's country as a LEGAL!!! Immigrant.
It's a nice country, just like superman's metropolis city.
What makes me TICK? (heh!)
As a matter of fact, I often get ticks bite whenever I go to the research field. Those ticks really love to wait for their hosts under ferns in a shadowy area where humidity level is quite high.
Why I am in this site at all:
Because I want to help people.
I do not sugar coating my advice, because I do not want to make people who need help to feel better. I want to HELP, and that is what I do, even if I'll get 100% poor rating because of that.
PS: That's my traditional clothing for women in my tribe in the pic. Lovely dress, isn't it?
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How much patience do you dole out in a relationship before you become a doormat?
Q. I'm hoping folks can give me some perspective on my current relationship. I feel like I'm at a cross roads personally, and I don't know what to do. If I was to reduce it to a question, it would be: "Do I invest more energy in this relationship, or ...
A. 3 August 2010: Hi Bibliophile,
I can only tell you about my own experience. Maybe you can get something out of that.
Prior to marriage, my husband and I were having this “between two continents” type of relationship too. Both of us were virgins too at t... (read in full...)
How much patience do you dole out in a relationship before you become a doormat?
Q. I'm hoping folks can give me some perspective on my current relationship. I feel like I'm at a cross roads personally, and I don't know what to do. If I was to reduce it to a question, it would be: "Do I invest more energy in this relationship, or ...
A. 3 August 2010: Hi Bibliophile, I can only tell you about my own experience. Maybe you can get something out of that. Prior to marriage, my husband and I were having this “between two continents” type of relationship too. Both of us were virgins too at that t... (read in full...)
What age do most people lose their virginity?
Q. Hello, I am curious as to what age most people lose their virginity. All my friends have had sex, and I was wondering what age most people began having sex....
A. 3 August 2010: I'd say around 20-25 years old, but many of my older friends are still virgin too. They treat virginity as a gift they'll bestow upon their soul mate, and I think the idea is kind of sweet. What do you think?
Say…some of your friends are not virg... (read in full...)
How can I unleash her libido?
Q. Hi,i m sad and need your help.I just found a new girl friend who turns out to be a sex guru..She does lots of sexy things to me during a blow job wish gives me satisfaction.She hates using protections and i love her for that,i intend f****** the ...
A. 31 July 2010: This is kinda tricky, because different woman prefers to be touched/pleasured in different ways. You are one lucky man to meet this sex guru, and it is very sweet of you, for wanting to return her the favour. From what I’ve ever read on so... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 31 July 2010: Both men and women have problems.
Suicide rate for male citizen in some countries are twice or thrice those of women.
One of my friend who works as a shrink ever told me that most of her patients are females, but many of her hardest cases (usual... (read in full...)
Landing strips for men???
Q. Ok so i got bored this morning and when i was in the shower i gave myself a landing strip... I feel a little weird since its usually girls that get them. Is it ok for a guy to have one? Will people think I'm gay or something, will girls laugh at me ...
A. 31 July 2010: I'd say it looks unique but nothing is wrong with that.
However, it is your body, if you feel uncomfortable with it, you can alawys wait for the hair to grow back right? or shave it clean.
No body will think that you are gay just because of ... (read in full...)
Did it happen or not? How do I explain this one to my gf?
Q. Hi. Bear with me I feel you need to know all the details to make a judgement. 5 weeks into my relationship I went out to a club/pub without my girlfriend, and this girl with a bf approached me to initiate conversation, I bluntly told her to f***...
A. 31 July 2010: I would suggest you to tell your girlfriend as honest as you can about what you can remember, even the blurry part, and the “not so sure” part. Don’t let what people told you confuse your mind. You were drunk at that time, so you can’t be 10... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship, he flirts with me and another girl at work! What is going on here?
Q. I'm in love with my co-worker who is twice my age; he's smart, sexy, funny and we have a lot in common. Problem is he's involved in a relationship, he also seems to favour one of the other girls at work a bit more than me. I'm just so terribly ...
A. 31 July 2010: Waaaahhh...he's in a relationship, no chance, no chance at all!!!
Lady, trust me, if he's single I'll give all my support for you to try to get his attention, but he's not.
You will not want to have anything to do at all with a man that has bee... (read in full...)
I need advice about sex...How to be safe, and satisfying
Q. i want to make a safe sex with my girl friend. We are realy sincere with each other therefore we want to make sexual relation between us. . ! Please give me tips by which we make our sex long at night and i don't want her pregnant. Help me s0on. . ! ...
A. 31 July 2010: Chirigirl nailed it all with her advice, her advice is very excellent, read her advice carefully and follow it.
Please do not do something that can get both or any of you in trouble.
The best is to wait, since if you guys love each other, both... (read in full...)
I want my children to finish College/ University and I want them to have a good upbringing too but how can I have these both without risking my work and children?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I am married with 3 children, ages 15, 10 and 5. Since 2007, I left my children and work abroad since my husband couldn't help me financially, I would rather say, he is very irresponsible and wouldn't like to work. He take...
A. 31 July 2010:
Dear Angela Sam,
As a woman who has the similar cultural background with you, I can truly understand what you’ve been through.
If you are from other culture, I’d firmly say: “divorce this man right away”, because he’s chipping at your sou... (read in full...)
Erection issues...need advice!
Q. hey friends,, I am a 19 yrs old guy, well virgin guy, and I'm facing lot of problems these days. Firstly, i keep getting an erection all day, also at night, its so much more than normal, i believe. whenever i see a hot girl or without any ...
A. 31 July 2010: You are completely normal for a healthy man of your age, you needn’t to worry about anything.
It is your hormone that do havoc on you.
Masturbation seems the only way out for now, since I am supporting the idea of saving yourself until y... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 31 July 2010: There is no other advice I can give you except to go to a doctor.
I am very afraid of destist, so I think I can understand a bit of your fear.
When you finally get the appointment, you can go there together with one of your bestfriend. That... (read in full...)
Should I fake an affair to teach my cheating husband a lesson?
Q. should i fake an affair to teach my cheating husband a lesson? my husband for last years has been constantly cheating on me. i have caught me several times and everytime he begs for my forgiveness telling me that he has really changed this time. i ...
A. 31 July 2010: It is not wise, I am sorry.
I know that you are very angry and your husband is really out of line. But telling him lies will not help your condition one bit.
What if your husband believes your story and he got angry and demands to meet your sig... (read in full...)
How to help a shy man...
Q. i've been trying to find a girlfriend for my very shy friend. But they won't go out with him just because he is shy. He thinks women don't like shy men that they want confident men. He thinks he wasting his time trying because he is shy....
A. 31 July 2010: Hmm...
That is rather difficult indeed. Some women feel more comfortable if the man started the conversation first.
How about if you train your friend to be more confident? There are some self help books out there for shy men to give them mor... (read in full...)
Had sex twice, but did not feel anything physically, why??
Q. Hi. Well this is pretty embarrassing to talk about but I'd like to know if this is an issue so here goes... I had never had sex until I was with a prostitute a year ago. The second time was with a prostitue also, earlier this year. I guess I ...
A. 31 July 2010: Hi there, You need not to feel ashamed for going out with prostitutes. It’s your right; you have no GF, Fiancée, or Wife, you are an available young man. You did not hurt anyone; instead you give two working girls income. So once again... (read in full...)
Tips for more attractive breasts?
Q. i am 5.2 height and 34b breast....how can i make them tight....appealing and beautiful....need some exercises and massage advices ..my husbend is crazy for hight and big boobs.....how can i walk sexy...?plz reply soon...
A. 31 July 2010: Hi there,
I suggest you to do push ups. It trains the upper side muscles on your chest.
Do as much as you can, don't force yourself.
Don't worry, it won't make your upper arms very muscular or something like that.
You'll feel tha... (read in full...)
Anxious about meeting my boyfriend again after a 3 month seperation (distance)
Q. I will be heading back to meet my boyfriend after 3 months of long-distance separation. I am feeling with anxiety as to what should i do? How can I face him? I suddenly feel so far away from him... How can i control my fear? I heard that when ...
A. 31 July 2010:
Hi sista,
I was in a Long Distance Relationship for 10 months with my husband. So I definitely know what you're talking about.
Those strange-almost compulsive feeling to check your cell phone every single minute, the giddy feeling of che... (read in full...)
Your honest opinion but being open minded?
Q. OP's own title. Hi this may be some what long and may not happen often but I have to ask you guys how do you feel about the situation im going to talk about. First of I got married to my childhood love at the age of 18. He was my world and had drea...
A. 31 July 2010: Let your husband go.
He seems lose interest on his family already, and there is nothing you can do to get him back.
I can only imagine the tremendous stress you’ve been through, taking care of kids alone and trying to heal the heartache.
Yo... (read in full...)
Ugly curse... or beautiful blessing?
Q. How do I even begin? Well, I just feel the need to express my thoughts and get things off my chest because I am in a complicated situation that is leading me to lack of sleep because my brain won't stop thinking and debating. I am sixteen years ol...
A. 31 July 2010: Hmm...beautiful blessing that probably HAS to wait.
If you guys really love each other, then he'll wait until you're on the legal age. And then continue with the relationship.
Just put it on hold for the moment. Don't worry, time goes by so ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hits me I need help and advice please!!
Q. I'm 20 years old, Basically i have been with my bf for a year and 4 months into the relationship he started getting violent. it began by him punching things around his like a wall or the car dashboard, then when he got more angry he started to ...
A. 31 July 2010: Hi sista,
I am glad that you want to leave this man. Don't worry, the decision you've made is absolutely correct.
One important thing though:
Ask your boyfriend to join a BOXING/MARTIAL ARTS club. I am serious. He hits you because he NEVE... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of what might happen next after the police caught us talking to 2 underage girls, but all we did was talk!
Q. This is probably the worse place to ask for advice on this topic (No offense I appreciate all the help I've received over the years) but I don't know where else to turn. My best friend and I have two female friends (ONLY friends) that are 13 and 14. ...
A. 31 July 2010: Arrrghh....stop with the Pedo-phobia culture already.
We MUST protect our kids, but absolutely not by barring them to hang out with adults.
You will NOT get into trouble. You just talked and did nothing more, so just relax.
My childhood ho... (read in full...)
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