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I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 6 October 2007: Realize she is a different person than your prior gf. Flying off the handle is a good way to start her thinking of someone better. Treat her like you would want to be treated. Each time you feel jealous, think what is the cause. Then if it is ... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 16 September 2007: You spend too much time dwelling. I think you need to make a point of occupying your mind with different thoughts. I find reading and watching comidies works for me.... (read in full...)
Do you think my teacher might have the hots for me?
Q. I'm not really sure if my teacher is interested in me and I really need to find out. I'm going to say right now that I do NOT have a crush on him, i'm just wondering if I need to back away or not. For staters, he talks to me for as long as he can. ...
A. 15 September 2007: He seems to have a weak pesonality. His duty is to resist temptation of schoolgirls like you. You are leading him into a situation that may destoy his life.... (read in full...)
The guy I like is splitting from his girlfriend. Should I ask him if he likes me?
Q. Hola people. I need a little adivce. My friend(that I like) has a girlfriend but everone says he's gonna break up with her soon.I really like him and want to go out with him.SHould I ask him if he likes me while he has a girlfriend or should I wait ...
A. 15 September 2007: Wait until he breaks up with her, then ask him out to play pool or go bowling.... (read in full...)
I really like my friends brother but I don't know how to be around him?
Q. I really like my best friend's brother. my best friend knows and encourages it, and i've made it pretty clear that i like him to him. the problem is, whenever i see him, i just turn into a coward! and he doesnt help either, because he's one of ...
A. 15 September 2007: Ask him some questions to get him to talk to you. Ask him to play a game of scrabble (or whateve you think he knows). You can get the info from his brother. Always kiss him good night.... (read in full...)
I've just started seeing a girl but I prefer her mate. What can I do?
Q. im going out with this girl for about three weeks but for some reson i like her best frend.but i know if i leave her her frend wont like me.so can someone help me?...
A. 15 September 2007: Turn your girl over to one of you friends, the go out as double date.Works somes if the girl doesn't feel left out.... (read in full...)
I feel like I don't love him anymore..
Q. I cant wait till its my birthday! but theres one thing. i feel that i dont love him anymore. i mean, i dont have that feelinf like i use to. everytime i see him think him as a friend but i dont know how to tell him.somw times i try to tell im but, ...
A. 15 September 2007: Tell him with brutal honesty, then don't do anything that would give him mixed signals. Stay away and date a new guy.... (read in full...)
I don't wanna come out to strong but I want him to know he is on my mind. How should I go about that?
Q. so i got this guy. my guys' amazing! were not boyfriend and girlfriend---yet! but we both really like eachother. we had "the conversation". ya know. what page are we in, stuff like that. turns out, were sooooo on the same page!! it's amazin...
A. 15 September 2007: You need to have many more conversations with him. Praise the things he says. Act interseted and always smile when you're with him. Ask for his advice and follow it. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him. Tell him you love him and will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated when he was drunk. Should I believe that he cant remember it?
Q. my boyfriend cheated on me when he was drunk and he cant remember anything, but she does. he cant remember finishing the deed and he usualy cant, so should i believe that he cant remember anything and cant remember finishing?...
A. 14 September 2007: Why have a boyfriend who drinks so much he can't remember what he does? The evidence says he had sex with her. Time to pick a better boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I have a high sex drive but only get turned on by thoughts of sex with other women, not my wife. Help!
Q. I have a lovely family and I love them very much. However, I don't get turn on by my wife. We made love only once a while and I know this is not pleasing her. The worse is, I have a high sex drive and I always think of having sex with other women. ...
A. 14 September 2007: You have a common wrong headed way of thinking. Some men can't see the mother of their children in a sexual way. This leads to straying and necglect of the wifes needs. It's O.K. to have fantascies during sex and think of the wife as that hot ... (read in full...)
I need some advice about sex with the girl on top..
Q. Hi I really need some advise. I am a female in my 20's and I have never been on top! I was with one boyfriend for several years and this was never a problem as we were very in tune with each others bodies and had great sex anyway. He also said h...
A. 14 September 2007: Experimenting is part of the fun of sex. Finding out what works and what does not is part of the deal. It's not a test that you can fail. In fact, the harder you try the better us guys like it.... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexual relationship and I feel like an amateure compared to him. Advice?
Q. i am in a sexual relationship and although the age difference isn't that big he has been in more relationships wich make him more experianced im not saying its a bad thing the sex is amazing but i feel inadequate to him and ive asked him what he ...
A. 14 September 2007: Most guys prefer that their girl is not "too" experienced.... (read in full...)
I was drunk and had sex with my neighbor, I am not sure if it was rape. What should I do?
Q. ok, not too long ago, i was home alone and my family was out on vacation. well one night, i got drunk by myself and then i heard the doorbell, i opened it thinkin it was one of my friends came to visit me. but it was my neighbor, my 58 year old ...
A. 14 September 2007: Maybe you were raped and maybe you weren't. Could depend on how drunk you were and the laws of your locale. You can remember him asking and you said yes. How is he supposed to know exactly how drunk you were. You weren't so drunk that you couldn't ... (read in full...)
My partner who has a terminal illness doesn't want to get it on!
Q. My partner who is 34 suffers from a terminal illness he has also been diagnosed with depression he is always happy an jus gets on wit it!now he wont have sex he doesnt mind me givin him oral but wont do anything to me he says its not me and he has ...
A. 14 September 2007: Try a vibrator and fantascy.... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to like sex? It's an invasion of privacy for me!
Q. Is it normal to not like sex? i mean i know its not normal in that most people DO enjoy sex but is it anything to be worried about that i really dont like it? It feels far too intimate and like it is a complete invasion of my privacy. i'm 22, ...
A. 14 September 2007: I suggest you try to figure out why you have these abnormal thoughts. You may need the help of a therapist. In the meantime fake it.... (read in full...)
Some tips to help me orgasm from penetratiev sex?
Q. Hi, I need tips to help me orgasm from penatrive sex. I have never had an orgasm. My boyfriends penis size is fine, we have plenty of fore play too. I always orgasm during cunnilingus, am I too used to the thrill of oral sex maybe? Can you sugg...
A. 14 September 2007: After you're fully aroused have him move up on you so that the top side of his penis rubs on your clitoris.... (read in full...)
How can I build my tolerance so I don't go so quickly?
Q. I cant really control myself while having sex. I dont last long while having sex and i feel embarrased and ashamed because i cant really please a girl that well. Any advice on what i can do to help build my tolerance so i dont go so quickly?...
A. 14 September 2007: After the first time wait a little while and then start again. I find that by the third or fourth thim you will be lasting much longer.... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant when only the pull-out method is used?
Q. Hey guys...=) Well basicly last night I had unprotected sex...i know it was stupid...I definatly wont be taking risks again... i know the guy/his history etc so STI'S isn't an issue... but I'm worried there could be a possibility of getting pregn...
A. 14 September 2007: Buy a pregnacy test as soon as possible. The pull out method usually works, so odds are you're not pregnant.... (read in full...)
I can't tell him that I'm unsure of our relationship b/c his best friend just died - I can't hurt him anymore!
Q. Im so unsure what to do i have been seeing my current boyfriend for a month and its very long distance and ive only seen him a few times in that time. And im going through alot of things this year including the sudden passing of my grandad and i ...
A. 14 September 2007: It's O.K. to continue to see him, but you should make it clear you like him as a friend and you're not ready to fall in love.... (read in full...)
My daughter's boyfriend is treating her like crap and it's driving me crazy!!
Q. I am the mother of a very attractive, smart, outgoing 17 year old. She has alot going for her. She has been dating a guy for two years (they started seeing each other in high school) they are two grades apart but only a year and a few months age ...
A. 14 September 2007: Does she have good self-esteem? Does she do well in school? Is she proud of her accomplishments or does she always find fault with herself? Does she think she doesn't deserve better from a boyfriend? How does her boyfriend do in school? What are ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance of him liking me? I'm shy, so what should I do?
Q. Okay so i have a big crush on my friend that i have known since we were 3. He is a month younger than me so he got put into the year below me and he has just come to my secondary school. We dont hardly talk now but sometimes i feel him staring at ...
A. 14 September 2007: Talk to him about anything. Ask him questions as conversation starters. Remind him of old good times you had. You don't ask him whether he likes you better than other girls.... (read in full...)
Since getting a bf, she's started ignoring me! How can I get her to like me, or even just be my friend again?
Q. Ok im 16 and have this really good friend who i have been really good friends with for about 2 years. She got a boyfriend about a month ago that she really likes, and nothings been the same since. Ive liked her ever since we've been friends and i ...
A. 14 September 2007: What's happening is normal. Don't take it personal. She probably still considers you a friend.... (read in full...)
My bf has to have a beard b/c of his religion, but I hate beards! I want him to cut it!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much, but he's got a beard and long hair, he has to have it this way because of his religion, but the thing is im not a fan of beards, but he can't cut it. I really hate beards ! It just makes him look older and my friends ...
A. 14 September 2007: You don't respect him. You would rather force him to violate his religion to satify your whim. I hope has the sense to ditch you.... (read in full...)
We broke up b/c of arguments about his ex! What do I do?
Q. My boy friend is 13 Years older than me, he has 2 kids from his wife that he is getting a divorce with that he was with for 16 years, I love him to bits but, I always seem to feel threatened by her even though he left her after she cheated 3 times. ...
A. 14 September 2007: What are the little things you argue with him about? Why would you carry on an argument over little things. He may have decided that he wants a more sumbissive girl. Possibly to avoid his bad past experience.... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 14 September 2007: What I mean is the girl you describe uses her good looks to get what she wants. She enjoys the power she has and has no sympathy for those she preys on. Stay away, sociopaths don't often change.... (read in full...)
She never wants to talk or even say please...
Q. I dont think I have ever really been happy in a realitionship.The one im with right now we were happy in the bigining but now she would rather watch tv then even sit and talk with me.Sometime I feel like im her bitch.Like She never asks me please or ...
A. 14 September 2007: Without a job she doesn't respect you. I question whether you really can't find a job or are now freeloading. I suggest you find a new job and a new girlfriend. You have destroyed this relationship. Learn from your mistakes and do better the next ... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 14 September 2007: People like putting other people down because it make them feel superior. It's a demostration of their power and/or control.... (read in full...)
He says I make a huge deal about me not wanting him to have friends. I say he receives flirtatious texts from "friends."
Q. 15 months ago I found the love of my life in a chatroom...or so I thought...He lives 250 miles away...and he came to see me several times... Everything was perfect....sensitive...caring....talked every morning on the phone and every night...Chatted ...
A. 14 September 2007: You win by being interesting and loving. If you drink, golf, fish, play tennis, scrabble, darts, judo, pool, or whatever he might like. Do thes things with him so he won't have the time to deal with them. Learn what he likes from a lover and polish ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 14 September 2007: What are the benefits?... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 14 September 2007: It's a fact that good looking people get treated better and become to expect it. Now two takers and no givers makes for an doomed partnership. There are always exceptions,the say you can tell by how they treat waitresses, valets, doormen and other ... (read in full...)
Does it make me a bad person to do something for myself for once?
Q. What are peoples reactions to thinking of number one. I have spent my whole life making others happy over myself, being walked all over, let down, used and a human punchbag (verbally) for peoples problems. Does it make me a bad person to do so...
A. 14 September 2007: A good balance is doing 60% for "them" and 40% for yourself. For complainors point to the things you do for them. The pursuit of happiness is your right.... (read in full...)
I want an open relationship! Any experienced people, please let me know how you got on?
Q. Hi I have been with my guy 4 years I was with my ex 17 years Im now in my 30s with 3 children. My guy always likes the women to instagate sex ,make the first move and dress up stocking etc which I didnt mind at first but I get fed up with the havi...
A. 14 September 2007: Most guys are used to the idea that they must iniate sex. It is special to them to have the woman make the first move. Then it seems like she wanter it rather than just accommodating him. I suggest you go after him so much that he has to ask you to ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my ex sleeping with another guy?
Q. I want to know how to get over the fear and pain of your ex-girlfriend having sex with another guy?...
A. 14 September 2007: Since she is an ex you have to expect it. You need to get to the point of not being interested in what she does.... (read in full...)
I left my bf of over 7 years after finding out he was member of a sex chat and hsi net profiles were stated single. Overreacting?
Q. Im 23. I left my boyfriend of 7 years just 3 weeks ago, because i found out he was looking at porn, was a member of a sex chat site (1 that i know of), and he was chatting to many girls and his profiles were stated SINGLE. I only found out due to...
A. 14 September 2007: Only you know him well enough to tell whether he was really looking or just playing games.... (read in full...)
Did I have an orgasm?
Q. Did i have an orgasm?! How can you tell for sure if you did? :S . . He was fingering me and on top of me and kissing me and i went really hot and shaking a little and breathing very fast and couldn't stay still because it was like an unbearabl...
A. 14 September 2007: Yes you had one.... (read in full...)
I had sex, but the condom broke and he came ouside me and onto my stomach, should I be worried?
Q. Last Friday I had sex, but the condom broke and he came ouside me and onto my stomach, should I be worried? I'm not experienced with sex and I didn't think anything of it until my boyfriend said he was kind of freaked out. I was at my most fertile ...
A. 14 September 2007: Get an early pregnancy test and follow the directions. Speculation is a waste of time, but yes you could be pregnant. Depending on your morals you might want to see a doctor about an "after" pill.... (read in full...)
Can a 17 year old be jailed for impregnating a 14 year old?
Q. can a 17 year old male get put in jail for getting a 14 year old female pregnant...
A. 14 September 2007: Yes depending on the local law and the attitude of the authorities.... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 14 September 2007: I think the both of you are in termoil. You should stop making long term plans in your head until 6 months following her divorce becoming final.... (read in full...)
I'm missing him sooo much, so much so that when me and my partner do the deed it's as if I'm cheating on this other guy and I cry afterwards!
Q. Hi 4 years ago my partner and I met another couple (I was 18 and my partner 24) and the other couple (male 37 and female 28). At first I did not have feelings for the male of the couple but he soon started to make it clear that he had feelin...
A. 14 September 2007: I feel so sorry for your partner. Where is your commitment. I guess yo are what they call the "me" generation. I suggest you get this other guy out of your mind by concentrating on your partner and your children.... (read in full...)
Our financial situation is getting in the way big time!!!
Q. I love my boyfriend sooo much and he loves me a lot we have been together for 7 years and we just click so well but I sometimes think that we need to go our seperate ways. Our financial situation is getting in the way big time!!! please give me ...
A. 14 September 2007: I assume you don't think he makes enough steady money. Are you the old fashioned type of girl who wants to be supported? I see many girls on Judge Judy who work full time while the guy sits around drinking or playing video games. You need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just dumped me, he says he can't handle a long term relationship; what do I do now?
Q. ok..me and my boyfriend juss broke up 20 minutes ago..he said it was cus he couldnt stand long term relationships....he said he was like this with all his exes..nd now im one of them..so wut do i do?...
A. 14 September 2007: Consider yourself lucky you didn't waste more of your time on him. Think about the kind of guy that will make you happy in the long run.... (read in full...)
He's so interesting it makes me feel boring...
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me. I found an old classmate who used to go to college with me on facebook and we sent messages back and forth and found we had a lot in common.He is so interesting, incredibly well-read and intelligent, and is pretty ...
A. 14 September 2007: Some guys never tire of a girl who looks at them in awe. There are many things that you can do that are not intelectual that will interest him. Look at all the doctors that marry a nurse. A good pair comes with complimentary skills.... (read in full...)
She never wants to talk or even say please...
Q. I dont think I have ever really been happy in a realitionship.The one im with right now we were happy in the bigining but now she would rather watch tv then even sit and talk with me.Sometime I feel like im her bitch.Like She never asks me please or ...
A. 14 September 2007: Obviously your selection process is flawed. There are plenty of appreciative girls out there. You should be able to tell after a couple of dates. I think you may only look for outside beauty.... (read in full...)
He says I make a huge deal about me not wanting him to have friends. I say he receives flirtatious texts from "friends."
Q. 15 months ago I found the love of my life in a chatroom...or so I thought...He lives 250 miles away...and he came to see me several times... Everything was perfect....sensitive...caring....talked every morning on the phone and every night...Chatted ...
A. 13 September 2007: Hey, you're not the only woman in his life. A guy like him has to be won. Get what attention from him you can and if after awhile he doesn't give up his other women you'll have a decision to make.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated when he was drunk. Should I believe that he cant remember it?
Q. my boyfriend cheated on me when he was drunk and he cant remember anything, but she does. he cant remember finishing the deed and he usualy cant, so should i believe that he cant remember anything and cant remember finishing?...
A. 10 September 2007: Dump him because he's a drunk. What he did while he was drunk is the least of your problems.... (read in full...)
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