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Been a member of the site for quite some time now. However, I had to leave due to other priorities. I'm now back and ready to answer as many questions as possible.

I'm quite a fan of being an agony uncle and have been since school (6 years ago - I'm getting old these days) so I hope you/others will trust my answers etc.

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I LOVE music and reading - I'll listen to anything from classical to loud, angry death metal and read anything from biography to crime to the history of sex to Greek epic poetry (Homer, Virgil, Plato etc). Also play electric guitar, bass, samples, ukulele, harmonica and edited vocals.

Just finished a year of Access to HE (2009 - 2010) at college and will be going to uni in September.

Other than that I'm just a 22 year old who likes to have fun whether it's reading in the park or visiting friends.

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I really like this girl but she won't respond back to me!

Q.   Hi! A friend recently gave me the number of the girl i liked an i explained to her who i was but after that every time i said something to her she would say don't text me and don't talk to me. I really truly love her. What are my options?...

A.   26 August 2015: Sending the first text is always very hard, and being told not to text again is just as painful, but the best thing you can do is respect her wishes and not reply. Sometimes the best way yo show someone you're interested in them is to let them go ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my boyfriend if he is uncomfortable with my male friend being around so much?

Q.   I have a question for Males out there. I have been dating this guy for 5 months, and I completely felt in love with him over the past few months. I recently bought a house and a Male friend is helping with the renovation. My current boyfriend has ...

A.   26 August 2015: If your boyfriend hasn't brought the subject up at any time I don't think there is any need to bring it up yourself. There's a chance that he might just be upset that he can't spend this time with you and your best friend is "compens... (read in full...)

What are some good revision strategies?

Q.   I really want to take my education seriously now. I want to revise a lot more maths but I always find myself getting distracted or bored and I end up just sitting there staring at the book or something! I NEED to stop doing that! Does anyone know ...

A.   25 August 2015: Before beginning your revision, make sure you have a drink and some snacks near you and don't go in with an empty stomach. Keep away from the energy and fizzy/sugary drinks here, as they'll make you need the toilet a lot and you'll begin flagging, ... (read in full...)

How can I be confident and talk to people I don't know?

Q.   I find it really hard to go up to people I don't know well and talk to them. I feel like everytime I say something somebody will judge me or say something nasty about me when I turn my back. How can I become confident enough to talk to people I ...

A.   25 August 2015: I think everybody, even the most confident of people, feel this at some point in their life, whether social or career-based. I'm a fairly confident person, but walking up to someone and striking up instant conversation is something I find... (read in full...)

Is there something wrong with ruling someone out if you don't feel instant chemistry?

Q.   I met a genuinely nice guy on an online dating site and we've gone on two dates. I had to psyche myself up for both of these dates because a) I haven't been on a date in a while and b) I didn't feel any attraction when I looked at his profile ...

A.   25 August 2015: Obviously this is your life, and you shouldn't allow what others say about your feelings to determine what happens. Being able to have long conversations is, of course, very important, but you should only enter a relationship if you feel a conne... (read in full...)

Do I wait and offer him loving support?

Q.   My Ex and I broke up after a year around 6 weeks ago - it was mutual and based on a breakdown in communication - we both agree we threw in the towel too early due to fears of rejection on both our parts. He contacted me 2 weeks ago we had a long ...

A.   23 July 2010: He's obviously having a hard time at the moment and in big need a mutual support so without being in a relationship the best thing you can do is off support when he needs it and, if need be, offer him a shoulder to cry on. However, it's best to ... (read in full...)

How do I help her with trust issues?

Q.   hi. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and everything is unreal and perfect. we love eachother very much, except she has trust issues. For some reason i lied to her about having a cold sore because i was scared of her reaction ...

A.   23 July 2010: Although cold sores are generally associated with herpes, it's not necessarily true that you have kissed another girl. Girls do tend to be jealous at the best of times so, although it'll be hard, you want to sit down with her a discuss things. ... (read in full...)

Will sex hurt as much as using a tampon?

Q.   i'm a 14 year old girl. i have a boyfriend, we've been dating for a long time. we're starting to talk about sex. i'm a virgin, he isn't tho. my ex and i dated for 2 years, but i never wanted to have sex, but we attempted oral, but he wasn't into it. ...

A.   23 July 2010: I'd say give it at least two years. If you have to ask these questions you're clearly not prepared or ready for sex. Besides, if you're found out you're boyfriend could be disciplined for statutory rape and I doubt either of you would want that. ... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   22 April 2009: I just figured a few things but it's all fine really. Thanks for your help.... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   20 April 2009: I think we'll just remain friends but it's cool. plenty more fish in the sea.... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   3 April 2009: I live in a busy town. The cemetery we have is absolutely massive and it's nice and quiet and it has a sort of 'gothic' look to it. It's the sort of stuff we're into so it's all good really.... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   31 March 2009: I've got Friday planned out and what I'm going to do: See if she wants to go to the cemetery and hang out then just go from there. Thanks for the help.... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   30 March 2009: Thanks for the answers :) We've been rather close to kissing on more than one occasion too :)... (read in full...)

Am I falling in love here or is it just attraction?

Q.   Hi all, I'm kinda confused here. I recently met a girl down the pub and I think I'm falling in love with her. On Friday we ended up hanging out and talking in the cemetery, we went for a walk together and got some food and then spent the res...

A.   30 March 2009: I plan to take it slow as with all relationships but I really do like this girl and I think we connect on so many levels. I was thinking of asking her if she wants to grab a coffee or something on Saturday and go on from there. Does that sound safe?... (read in full...)

What's this lump on my face and how to get rid of it fast?

Q.   hi all, This is kind of embarrassing but bear with me. I have this kind of spot that keeps appearing beside my nose. It's rather large and easily visible. Sometimes when I squeeze it, it goes like a normal spot would but other times it doesn't...

A.   4 March 2009: thanks for the replies. Since leaving it alone after asking this question the inflammation has gone right down. I did some research and it turns out I have a nodule. Thanks for the help :) ... (read in full...)

How to give my man a mind blowing experience with me on top, all answers will be appreciated!

Q.   Hey im a 17 and ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. We both lost our virginty to each other and i was the first person he had ever done anything sexually with. Heres the part that will most probally shock alot of ...

A.   9 January 2009: I'm taking a guess that you do it missionary position? Correct me if I'm wrong... Anyway, if you are doing it that style then I think you could maybe push your groin up and down in the rhythm of his thrusts and kiss him long and deep. Maybe ... (read in full...)

Engaged, but confused and unhappy and crying over this situation!

Q.   Good Morning I am a 28yr old female. I have been married once before and was cheated on in my last marriage. I also have been cheated on in all of my past relationships. I have been with my current man for 2 years and we just recently got engaged so ...

A.   9 January 2009: I think for now you should put the marriage on hold and get things sorted out and the trust back up. Keep telling him the truth that you do love him and in time things will start falling back into place. Trust is a hard thing to give back once it's ... (read in full...)

Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?

Q.   hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...

A.   9 January 2009: 2 words: Break up. She'll only continue to do it again and again. You deserve better.... (read in full...)

What's the difference in between making love and just plain sex?

Q.   is there a difference between making love and just plain sex? if so what is the difference?...

A.   4 November 2008: Generally sex and making love are the same thing but sex can be any place anytime and completely crazy and making love is more passionate.... (read in full...)

Is it good for the relationship if they hang out every day?

Q.   should a boyfriend and a girlfriend hang out everyday is it good for there replashionship????...

A.   4 September 2008: No problem with it. Some boyfriends and girlfriends live together and have to see each other every day and it's fine. It's about what suits you best.... (read in full...)

I am attracted to my aunt and I want to have sex with her! What do you think?

Q.   My aunt is 42 and she's hot and very beautiful. We have a good relationship. We have never been totally alone, but we talk all the time when we see each other. I have noticed 2 times when she looks at me, she looks at me with a sexy-look, and w...

A.   24 August 2008: You should do nothing. If you do anything it'll be incest which is illegal. Just stay how you're meant to be - Nephew and aunt.... (read in full...)

I have a problem with my lips turning white, when I kiss my girlfriend, could wearing chapstick have anything to do with it, any way to prevent this?

Q.   hi, Random question here, Every time I kiss my girlfriend my lips end up turning white in areas. I've figured it's only either dead skin or bacteria being killed(similar as to what happens when drinking vodka and the tongue turns white). ...

A.   21 August 2008: And thanks to lexilou too. ... (read in full...)

I have a problem with my lips turning white, when I kiss my girlfriend, could wearing chapstick have anything to do with it, any way to prevent this?

Q.   hi, Random question here, Every time I kiss my girlfriend my lips end up turning white in areas. I've figured it's only either dead skin or bacteria being killed(similar as to what happens when drinking vodka and the tongue turns white). ...

A.   21 August 2008: Thanks for the answer. I'll try your techniques. I thought it might be something as simple as that but thought I should ask. thanks again... (read in full...)

A rhetorical question, in the UK, if two people under 16 consent to sex, is it legal?

Q.   This is just a quick question. I know that in the UK the legal age for sex is 16. Does this mean that if 2 people under 16 consent to sex is it legal? I mean, I know that it's illegal when a person above the age of 16 has sex with somebody below th...

A.   20 August 2008: In a word, no. It is still illegal for anyone to have sex under the age of consent. The older one, if under 16, won't be arrested but will be in a rather large bit of trouble and could be kicked out of school, put into a boot camp and his or ... (read in full...)

How can I get over being depressed about not being in love?

Q.   why is it so hard to get over a love for somone that will never happen. everytime i see people kissing or holding hands it feels like my heart is splitting in two. i know ill never see him again because he lives abroad and he likes my friend. ...

A.   20 August 2008: I've been in exactly the same position as you. I'd been single since November last year until about 4 months ago. At the time of meeting my now-girlfriend I wasn't even looking much. I wanted a partner but when I looked, it never happened then wh... (read in full...)

These girls say no to EVERYONE. How can I be the one to get one of them to go on at least one date?

Q.   I want to know what I have to do to turn a bunch of Catholic School 7th grade Girls that refuse to have boyfriends into girls that will even go on at least one date, I mean all the grades ahead of us had girlfriends in 5th grade and alll the boys in ...

A.   20 July 2008: I'm afraid it's impossible to change the way a girl chooses to go. They're all 11 or 12 years of age - they've only just begun high school. Only they can choose when they want a relationship. It'll come to them when it happens. ... (read in full...)

Can I love him even though it's over the internet and he's older?

Q.   I pretty sure I'm in love with an amazing guy I know from the internet, he is three years older then me, and I always have to reasure him it doesn't matter how old he is because three years is nothing really. The question is, can I love him? Id it ...

A.   19 July 2008: I'm with RFD on this one - be careful with people on the internet. You don't know who you're talking to even if they insist they're this "fit" 18 year old who works out 5 days a week. Just be cautious and don't tell him any personal details ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is cheating - what should I do?

Q.   Hi - my gf cheated on me twice with the same guy an I'm worried she has feelings for him. She says she doesn't but I'm not sure I forgave her the first time. I just found out she has done it again. I don't want to lose her because I love her so m...

A.   19 July 2008: 2 words: Dump her. I'm sorry but if she's going to cheat on you twice then she'll do it again most likely. I'm one to go with the line "Once a cheat, Always a cheat" You may love her but her feelings are obviously somewhere else I'm afrai... (read in full...)

Any hope for ex's getting together and staying that way?

Q.   Is there any hope for Ex’s getting together and not having it strained or end up completely broken? I have recently had my heart hurt by my EX and while I still love and care for her I like to say I want to be with her in the future, however ...

A.   19 July 2008: I think ex's can get back together but the "spark" won't be as bright as it was before because, back then, it was fresh love and you didn't think such a thing would happen but it did and when you get back with your ex you worry about it happening ... (read in full...)

My husband left after I cheated - Help me get him back!

Q.   My husband of thirteen years left me about two months ago. I cheated on him about a year ago and he said that he will never forgive me. Since he has been gone, I have acted like a nut case. following him, calling him at all hours of the night, ...

A.   19 July 2008: I'm sorry to say it but I'm afraid it is too late. You've acted like a stalker to him and on the edge of being psychopathic and he has a right to not want to be with you. You've annoyed and upset him to the point or him filing a restrain... (read in full...)

Did my sister and mum overreact to my jokey comment?...

Q.   i have a problem with my sister .. well before two days i was eating dinner with my friend then my sister walked in and said yay i want some i winked to my friend and said to my sister there is a little you can't eat -i was kidding- then she got mad ...

A.   18 July 2008: Is your sister overweight and/or worried about her weight/size? If so then you may have offended her and, in a way, called her fat. You'll need to just have a quiet word with either your mum or your sister or both. I'd say it's best to tell you... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents don't want us to go out, how do I approach them?

Q.   help my boyfriends parents told him yesturday that we could go out but today he rang me up and told me that they have decided we cant any more i dont no why but me and him are really upset over this they rule his life. They told him that they di...

A.   17 July 2008: I'm guessing your boyfriend is the same age as you? If so then his parents will be like that as he isn't even past school yet and is technically a child. They're only pretecting him like they should. When you're both 16 it'll be better becaus... (read in full...)

What pet names can you call a guy?

Q.   A guy calls you 'baby, huni, sexy.' But what can you call a guy? ...

A.   15 July 2008: You can call him anything you want (nice of course) but if it's going to be 'sweet' names, don't embarrass him by using them in public. Be creative and think of something you've never heard before... (read in full...)

My mate has cut contact with me completely since he has a new girlfriend, should I give up contacting him?

Q.   Right, this is probably gonna be a long one I'm afraid so bear with me. I met my "mate" at the end of 2006 on a 12 wk course I took and we found became close to best friends. We were both into the same music, played guitar etc and we'd hang out tw...

A.   15 July 2008: Thanks for the help. I'll send one more text at the end of this week and then give up. Like you said - if he's a good friend he'll reply. Thanks again... (read in full...)

Should I moan? Or should I try not to moan?

Q.   Okay. So, I just gota ask. When my boyfriend fingers me, and I moan just a little quite moan..Does he like it? Or should I try not to? Help!! ...

A.   14 July 2008: You should moan like you do when you do it yourself because that way your fella will think he's done well and given you one of those orgasm things. You'll make him feel happy and he'll want to do it more. But don't be all mega loud and exagerat... (read in full...)

I love them both for different reasons and don't know who I should be with!

Q.   I am 26, engaged to a my bf of 8 years, when i entered my first job at 25 i started to see someone else from the office who had many qualities that i felt were missing from my bf,currently i am techincally with them both becuase i dotn know who i ...

A.   14 July 2008: when you get in a relationship you make a commitment to stay loyal to that one person and that persopn only. You should break it off with the one you're not engaged to.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to have sex five times in two days?

Q.   The only time I get to spend with my boyfriend is on the weekend. We live far away and we work on the weekdays. We’re both in our late 20s so we are not little kids. Is it normal to have sex 5 times over 2 days? It feels like we’re making ...

A.   14 July 2008: Yep. perfectly healthy and good for you. Sex is the best exercise - fun, hot and pleasurable. ... (read in full...)

I feel like my boyfriend only wants me for sexual stuff!

Q.   I'm 14 and my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month and I started too really like him. A couple weeks ago he asked for head and I gave it to him but yesterday he asked me again and he asked to see my boobs. I said no but I feel like thi...

A.   14 July 2008: If he's in it for just the sex then you shouldn't be with him because he is breaking the law and is performing statutory rape: sex with a minor. Any form of sex with a minor is illegal and he could end up behind bars for it. If your parents fou... (read in full...)

Is this a big age gap??

Q.   im 13 and there's this boy that i really like but he's 16. We hang out alot and we always enjoy each other's company. but i want to know is it a big age difference? and should we stay friends and don't be more than that?...

A.   8 July 2008: 3 years isn't a massive age gap but at 13 you're still too young for anything sexually and as has been said before - he may get sexually frustrated and move on. If you are the good 2 then it'll be worth waiting until you're legal although... (read in full...)

I woke up to find him having sex with me. Am I still a virgin?

Q.   i need to know if im still a virgin!! i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he stopped at mine on thursday and we both fell asleep but then when i woke up he was in me, ive never had sex before and i didnt feel him on me but he was actually ...

A.   5 July 2008: I'm sorry to say you are no longer a virgin and have been raped like the other aunts and uncles said. Get some tests done just to be on the same side and take the morning after pill. He did what I believe is called Somnophilia - sex with a sle... (read in full...)

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