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i'm a 19 year old female student nurse an recently got engaged. i live in Australia, and have been throught alot when i comes to relationships. i have been the cheater and the cheated, so i have views and experiences on both sides. i have pretty much been in a relationship since i was about 10 years old. i am compassionate and willing to help anyone!

Do you think she's cheating on me??

Q.   I am 15 and in love with my 17 year old girlfriend we have been dating for 8 months. She has been acting really suspicious never wanted to talk to me on the phone, yelling at me for worrying about her, she never calls me anymore,and when people tell ...

A.   4 January 2008: hey, sorry to break the news to you, but this girl is either cheating on you or doesn't love you anymore or both. i suggest that you sit down with her and have a serious talk, dont accuse her of anything or she wont talk to you. if this doesn't ... (read in full...)

Scared about Sex for the first time. Can you help?

Q.   hi me and my boyfriend have decided we want to have sex, but i have never been fingered or used a tampon before so i'm scared it will hurt alot i tried to use a tampon the other day but i'm not sure what hole to insert in so can someone please t...

A.   4 January 2008: first of all your much to young to be having sex, however i'm sure u will any way. so what i want to know is, why are you jumping right to having sex when you havent even been to the other bases yet? and if you dont even know how to find your vagina ... (read in full...)

He's married, we have a baby together, he's not stringing me along is he?

Q.   I have a 2 month old daughter, I love my childs father with all my heart and I want us to be a family. However, he is married. His wife called me the day after I had my child, and told me that they were still together and he was living under her ...

A.   4 January 2008: I'm sorry but this guy is definatly lying to you. he is stringing you along. i think that your heading for heart break. he is being secretive and does not sound trust worthy. its hard as this situation is complicated by a child, however it sounds ... (read in full...)

Having sex is painful for me. Can anyone tell me why?

Q.   Hi guys, i first had sex when i was 13 (totally stupid i know!) As usual with ur 1st time it was very very painful. However i have slept with two guys since (Im 19 now) and each time it has been excrutiating!! I have usually bled for about a...

A.   21 July 2007: hey. i think i can explain this to you. i am a student nurse, and this isn't uncommon. Chrissy nearly has it right. When some people are brought they are told sex is a bad thing, like only for adults and it should only be to make babies. You migh... (read in full...)

My bf wants me to be more 'sexually adventurous' this a good thing or what?

Q.   My boyfriend of 10 months wants me to be more sexual with him, is that bad? he wants me to do a lot more sexual positions as well as go down on him a lot more than I do. I dont want to disappoint him so Last night we did it in the middle of the ...

A.   21 July 2007: i think that him wanting to be more sexual is good! this means he loves you and wants to do these things with you. i would be more worried if he didn't want to. but if your not comfortable doing this stuff, you should talk to him bout it. good luck, ... (read in full...)

Our families hate each other and now that we are engaged-his mother has freaked out. What should we do?

Q.   Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs and we are crazy about eachother. The only problem is our families- they dont like eachother, and dont want me and my boyfriend to be together. Recently, we have decided to get engaged, but when...

A.   21 July 2007: you should ring him! you have every right to know what is going on! he should do the right thing and contact you, and let you know what is happening. you have just got engaged! you should be happy and planing the party, not have to worry about his ... (read in full...)

I am finding out that some of my boyfriend's friends are cheating on their girlfriends, how do I know my boyfriend isn't doing it too?

Q.   I am finding out that some of my boyfriend's friends are cheating on their girlfriends. How do I know if my boyfriend will be just like them? Are there signs to look for? I have never thought of him doing this to me but with some of his frien...

A.   21 July 2007: some signs to look for are if he is giving you silly reasons why he cant see you, or changes in his behaiour with things like that. you should talk to him bout his friends cheating, and see what his response, that'l be a big indicator. but above ... (read in full...)

His friends told lies and now he's broken up with me!

Q.   What do you do when your long term boyfriend breaks it off, (for stupid reasons of course) and doesn't want to talk to you, based on something his "friends" said. When in reality they aren't his friends, and want to have a threesome with you. Very ...

A.   21 July 2007: it's pretty hard to get his attention when he doesn't want to talk to you. and this lie the friends told him must be a doozy if he just broke it off like that. so if he wont talk to you, try talking to his friends and ask them why they did it. if ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is moving away. Should we break up now or later?

Q.   my boyfriend of 8 years will be moving away to Africa for good before the end of the year. He thinks we should end our relationship now cause it will be easier for him but i want us be together until he leaves. Any advice?...

A.   20 July 2007: can i please ask why is he moving and your not? you have been together for 8 years and you just want to throw your relationship away because his moving? whats holding you back? and why is he moving in the first place? please email me if you want to ... (read in full...)

I catch her looking at me and it sends shivers down my spine her gaze is so intense... do you think she fancies me?

Q.   Has this ever happened to you: I recently met at work this girl who is sooo like me, personality wise, sense of humour that I GET, and we clicked like that from the first day, and had such a laugh together and at the moment we're at the stage of ...

A.   20 July 2007: well you are either developing a very good friendship or relationship. and if thats what you want, go with it! i think it would be a good idea if the two of you talked about how you are feeling and see how she is feeling. i think this might be a ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend and so does my family but I think I have some lingering feelings for my ex

Q.   I am 19 years old, and a month ago i got engaged to my boyfriend of two years. I do love him heaps, but i think i still like my ex boyfrind of 3 years. My family hate my ex, but love my current boyfriend. I dont think i want anything to happen with ...

A.   20 July 2007: igby, you are so right. he was my first love, and we both lost our virginity to each other. i guess something would be wrong if i wasn't still thinking bout him, right?... (read in full...)

I like both him and his brother and they are ok with that

Q.   I'm dating this guy and I like him, yet I like his half brother who lives with him. They both are pretty close and like me. Him and his brother have talked about it and their fine with it. The guy im dating is accualy telling his brother to make a ...

A.   20 July 2007: if either of these guys really liked or loved you they wouldn't be willing to share you. so if you are in this relationship looking for a long term thing, then you are in the wrong place. both are probably just in it for a root. if your in it for a ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and I'm scared to have sex with my 17 year old boyfriend; he wants me to get pregnant!

Q.   i am a 14 year old girl and i am going out with a seventeen year old boy and i am stuck in a situation because he wants to have sex with me but im scared because i do not no what to do when having sex!!and he said that he wants to get me pregnant ...

A.   20 July 2007: is your boyfriend a complete moron? let me get this right, a 17 year old boy wants to get his 14 year old girlfriend pregnant? this boy is so totally wrong for you. he is bad news!!! most boys dont want to have sex because of the fear of getting ... (read in full...)

I am 13 and I want to lose my virginity

Q.   i am a 13 year old girl and want 2 loose my virginity but the thing is i do not no how to have sex and plus im scared if i bleed whilst having sex!!is there any chances that i will bleed?and my mates say that you cant walk after wards is that ...

A.   20 July 2007: you are still basically a baby. and from your question you clearly have no idea what having sex involves, or the consequences no only physically but emotionally. if you dont lose your virginity to someone you love, you will probably regret i... (read in full...)

How can I ensure my rectum is empty before attempting anal sex?

Q.   how do i make sure that before i have anal intercourse there wont be any "surprises" in the rectal cavity before my partner enters and how can i prevent that from happening before we start........

A.   20 July 2007: dont stick a hose up your ass, thats so dangerous! you can buy stuff at the chemist for consipation. also pear juice is good!... (read in full...)

Should I just not speak to him from now on, am I getting myself into a hopeless realtionship?

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I hope you will respond to it, ok here goes. I'm speaking to a guy on phone who I haven't really met in person. I started speaking to him on facebook, he added me as a friend because he knew my sister and her friends. He's ...

A.   20 July 2007: Can you trust your sister? if you can you need to talk to her about this guy! you need to know as much about him as you can, including if he has a g/f, before you go any further. i think you are just heading to heart break hell if you keep tal... (read in full...)

I really fancy my boyfriend's brother!

Q.   I have been friends with my boyfriend's brother for years. We hooked up right after me and boyfriend started dating but all we did was kiss. And for years I have had a crush on my boyfriend's brother. A couple of weeks ago I went out to dinner w...

A.   20 July 2007: you poor thing! i personaly believe that you can love two people at once. i think you should stick with your b/f. his brother doesn't seem like a decent person if he is doing this to his own brother. imagin what he might do to you if you start ... (read in full...)

She has called and today she messaged me talking about a cute guy she met but that I shouldn't be jealous...

Q.   My girlfriend is on a trip all summer. She used to call me every day. It's been more than a week since she has called and today she messaged me talking about a cute guy she met but that I shouldn't be jealous. I said I was jelous and she said "you ...

A.   19 July 2007: there are three possibilities here. 1, your g/f could be just telling you this to make you jealous, and to make you show her that you really love her, and getting attention out of you. 2, she could have meet this guy and be hooking up with him. Or ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend and so does my family but I think I have some lingering feelings for my ex

Q.   I am 19 years old, and a month ago i got engaged to my boyfriend of two years. I do love him heaps, but i think i still like my ex boyfrind of 3 years. My family hate my ex, but love my current boyfriend. I dont think i want anything to happen with ...

A.   19 July 2007: Thanx heaps for helping me! I want to stay with my fiance, i know i can work things out. but the thing is my ex is my baseball coach, so it's a bit hard to steer clear of him, the harder thing is that my fiance and ex are good mates cos they play ... (read in full...)

He's phoned his ex asking for phone sex; this is the third time he's cheated, what should I do?

Q.   heya remember i said my bf was complimenting other girls well now i've just found out that he's been texting his ex girlfriend asking her for phone sex !!!!! i really love him but this is the 3rd time he's cheated on me with her what should i do ??? ...

A.   19 July 2007: SWEETY! You do not need this losser in your life! You are still so young, i promise you will find somebody else that will treat you much better! Trust me, the same thing happened to me! He obviously doesn't love you, and he doesn't deserve your ... (read in full...)

I'm thinking about having anal intercourse only my problem is that it has happened to me before a while back and it wasn't such a good experience...

Q.   I'm thinking about having anal intercourse only my problem is that it has happened to me before a while back and it wasn't such a good experience at least not one that I was expecting or consenting to.... I watch porn and it turns me on to see the ...

A.   19 July 2007: you mentioned that you like watching porn, why dont you watch porn while you try to have anal sex? this might relax you and remind you of pleasant experiences? give it a ago! it always works for me!... (read in full...)

He cheated on me and I'm having a hard time building the trust back up, as he's always away on business

Q.   My boyfriend and I have just moved in together. We have a very loving relationship, however in may of this year I discovered that he had an affair with someone. This crushed me beyond belief, I know that he regrets doing it...but I am still having a ...

A.   19 July 2007: you have to make the decision if you really do want to continue your relationship with him. if you choose yes, than you need to trust him and forget the past, otherwise it wont work. you should'nt choose yes if you dont think you can ever trust him ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is 9 years younger than me and I'm embarassed about my aging body

Q.   I've recently started seeing a guy 9 years younger than me, we get along well except that he is perhaps trying to move the relationship on at a quicker pace than I want. I'm 45 and he is 36. He thinks it's great, is always complimentary towards ...

A.   19 July 2007: No, your not being stupid! you are being a human being! dont be embarrased about your body! if he doesn't like your body or you for you, than he's not worth it! being 45, you should love you and your body, and not settle for any one who doesn't! he ... (read in full...)

If a guy masturbates in the bath and then a girl goes in after him, can she get pregnant?

Q.   can a 10 girl old girl get pregnant if the guy masturbated in the shower then got out and she went in the shower to take a bath?...

A.   19 July 2007: it's alrite, i am a student nurse, and i can assure u she wont get pregnant! the sperm would have died as they weren't in a warm moist place! stress less!... (read in full...)

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