My boyfriend gets messages from sex sites, but denies being a member, says they are random. Is he lying??
Q. My boyfriend gets these instant messages from sex sites, stating "hey I liked your profile, if you want to see my webcam pics you can contact me at...." He says they are just random junk mail that everyone gets. I've got a yahoo account and I ...
A. 20 December 2007: Probably just spam.
My mother gets them, and I've been getting them for a while too.
And although I might look at porn, I highly doubt my mother does.... (read in full...)
I want to trust him when he says he is not a porn addict but should I?
Q. We went from normal to sex rarely only when I initiate it. I questioned everything but yesterday I opened his computer and found tons of porn saved. He claims he's been saving that for years. It's all categorized by year, name, subject matter: ...
A. 19 December 2007: The guy definatley likes porn, alot, but I don't know if he's an addict.
Almost all guys look at porn, many of whom on a daily basis, but I've only met 2 guys who've ever been that porn crazed.
You rely on it though if you're an addict, and i... (read in full...)
I'm only attracted to older men - does that make me weird?
Q. i only seem to be attracted to men. im 14 and should be looking at boys my own age but instead im only intersted in men at least over 25..is that really freaky? all the lads in my year are great as mates but theyre just so immature! its doing my ...
A. 18 December 2007: 14 year old guys can be immature that's for sure, but not to the point you want to start bunking with 30 year odls. You could just have a fetish, which is fine, but if that's the case, wait until you're 18 before you try any relationships, w... (read in full...)
Is it normal that a man can ejaculate without his penis being hard?
Q. Is it normal that a man can ejaculate without his penis being hard? My b/f lately has been having problems getting and keeping it up, and so we did it doggy style the last few nights, and it wasn't even up, it was still limp, so it was hard to get ...
A. 18 December 2007: You're not supposed to be able to ejaculate when you're flacid, and he should be able to hold longer than 10 seconds, so he should definatley get it checked out, some viagra should help.... (read in full...)
I'm 17, and totally depressed. Please help me!
Q. Alright I dont really know what to do anymore. Im only 17 and I am totally depressed about a ton of thing to its not just one thing. There is school, ive got like 9 credits as a junior pretty much im goin to fail in life. I cant look for god cause I ...
A. 17 December 2007: I'm in pretty much the same boat man.
I'm 17, don't have enough credits or high enough grades for any secondary education, I don't believe in God, and usually whenever I like a girl she loses interest within a week.
I was bummed out about... (read in full...)
I've been with my wife for 16 years now, but I have never seen her naked! Is there anything we can do so that she can feel comfortable being naked in front of me??
Q. i've been with my wife for 16 years now and we've been married for just over 7. Just when we were ounger she was very nervous and felt very insercure about being naked in front of me. Shes recently admitted that she still feels the same and gets all ...
A. 17 December 2007: I'd suggest constantly reminding her and treating her like she beautiful, she's just self conscience is all.
If you've been together for 16 years though I'm assuming you've probably told her how good looking she is countless times by now though e... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past torments me, especially the visual side. She didn't know for ex. she was giving me a sex show (organised) by the time she dated my friend. Please help.
Q. ok here it goes, i've been with my wife for 13 years and we have a 7 year old son. when i met her it was with my buddy who met her the day before i did and he was ALREADY engaged to another girl. To make a long story short we all were friends and ...
A. 17 December 2007: Yeah I can see where you're coming from, if I had a wife who'd been treated like that I'd have a hard time forgetting about it too.
My best advice would be to check out theropy.... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past torments me, especially the visual side. She didn't know for ex. she was giving me a sex show (organised) by the time she dated my friend. Please help.
Q. ok here it goes, i've been with my wife for 13 years and we have a 7 year old son. when i met her it was with my buddy who met her the day before i did and he was ALREADY engaged to another girl. To make a long story short we all were friends and ...
A. 17 December 2007: Well you can't really hold it against her than you saw her having sex with your ex-buddy when she wasn't even aware of it at the time, but I can definatley see how that would mess with you. As for the guy's that slept with her, the odds are you... (read in full...)
She only likes me as a friend. How can I get her?
Q. I really like this girl but she says that she only likes me as a friend and she and has a boyfriend and i can't really stop thinking about her, can you give me some advice,thanks....
A. 17 December 2007: She says she only likes you as a friend? So I'm guessing you probably already told her you like her or made a move on her right?
If not I'd say try telling her you like her, but if she doesn't bite the bait she probably never will.
I've be... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous? He had noticed I was disturbed by him approaching my friend. Should I leave him?
Q. Dear cupid, Lately, I feel very emotional and show anger and aggressive manner towards the one I love, my boyfriend. We been dating for 1 year and 5 months, those 6 months was the best time of my life because he was the first guy I actually had s...
A. 17 December 2007: Either he just thinks she's a friend and istoo stupid to realize it looks like he's trying to get with her, or he's trying to make you jealous.
Or maybe he was just having a friendly conversation with her, you thought he was hitting on her or w... (read in full...)
Any advice on topics for conversation?
Q. K so I'm looking for a bit of advice here, I like a girl who I know likes me back, but we can never keep a good conversation going. We hooked up once at a party (we were both drinking, so we don't really know each other) but ever since we've been...
A. 17 December 2007: Well I do try to bring up topics and music and movies, how her weekend was, etc.
She just gives short answers though and doesn't really carry it through ith a conversation so I'm having a pretty hard time communicating with this girl.... (read in full...)
Can virgins pass on STD's?
Q. Okay so I'm going to ask the same question that I asked last time about 3-4 weeks ago becuase I really don't think I gave enough detail and no one really gave me an answer I was looking for. So, my question was can a virgin pass on STD's? Becaus...
A. 17 December 2007: Herpes can carry that way, but I don't know of any others.
If your boyfriend uses protection you guys should be fine.
You've both gone down on each other, if you didn't see any sores you're probably good to go.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriends dad has just died. I don't know how to comfort him without crying. Please help!
Q. My boyfriends dad just died and i am about to cry and i don't know how to act or what to say no one close to me ever died what should i do?...
A. 17 December 2007: Just open up to him, let him know you'll be there no matter what.
There isn't much to say about that kind of thing really, just make sure you're there for him.
That's gotta be tough, I can't imagine losing my dad at this early an age.
Sorry... (read in full...)
I'm in public school. A boy flirts with me showing vulgarity and indecent language. What to do?
Q. I really need help. I'm only 13 and I'm still in public school. This guy's been kind of bugging and flirting with me. one time he talked so dirty i was like '' help '' lol he was like '' i want your n*pples '' and he put out his two fingers and ...
A. 14 December 2007: put the fool in his place, in front of other girls none less. it'll teach him a lesson, that kid is never getting a date ever at the rate he's going.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to enjoy receiving anal-play during sex?
Q. Is it normal for a man to enjoy having his anus played with during sex? When my husband and I are having sex, he likes for me to put my finger in (just the tip) or around is anus. This gives him ultimate pleasure. I haven't questioned him about ...
A. 11 December 2007: it's not really a standard thing us guys like... but i'm sure more guys like it then are willing to admit to it.... (read in full...)
I think I have low self-esteem. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. i simply asked my freinds if you could what would you change about your self (looks wise) i said i would change a lot of things. my freinds say i was saying that to get compliments on my looks which i honestly wasnt i was asking that to see how they...
A. 11 December 2007: nah you've just got low confidence, which can work in your favor at times to be honest. guys get intimidated by girls who act all conceited, so when they meet a pretty girl who isn't overloaded with confidence they have an easier time approaching... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of manboobs?
Q. dear readers how can i get rid of my man boobs, as i have tried everything from weight lifting, toning and press-ups but nothing seems to happen. Is their any other way to get rid of them as i can not afford to go to surgery as i am not rich...
A. 11 December 2007: You could try cardio workouts, it'll cut down on the fat that makes up the man boobs.
I had man boobs, but I got rid of them after doing pushups daily for about a month.
They are by a far the hardest part of you to lose weight from in my opini... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to remove the foreskin to have babies?
Q. I just wanted to know that if it necessary to remove foreskin of the penis while having babies ....
A. 11 December 2007: there's nothing wrong withleaving it there, but personally i wish i was circumsized.
it adds to size slightly and it easier to clean.... (read in full...)
Is it really ok to put my hands down my pants and not worry about germs??
Q. Okay. When i masturbate, and try new things, my penis area - testicles and bum - usually touch things around the house, like a carpet or wall or chair. i keep thinkng i need to clean these areas up and remove bacteria. but none of my friends do. not ...
A. 11 December 2007: i could care less about germs.
i still don't jack it in bed, who wants cold sticky fluids rubbing against them and their sheets all night?
and i wash my hands after i masturbate too, i mean what if you eat a meal afterwards? i don't want to tast... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid here???
Q. I'm wondering if I have some cause for concern here... I hooked up with a girl a couple times, I like her, I'm pretty sure she likes me too. Well anyhow, I was on the phone with her today, and she told me she was waiting for her ex-bf to come ho...
A. 10 December 2007: Well it feels to me as if she wants him as a boyfriend and me a friend fuck buddy. In which case I'm just going to quit before I get too far ahead.... (read in full...)
I talked to a boy from a fake account created for other purposes - and we fell in love, but he didn't know I was a boy! How can I make this right?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 17 year old male and I have done a terrible thing, something that I deeply regret and am ashamed of. About a year ago, a friend was having problems with her boyfriend and wanted to find out if he was cheating on her. So to c...
A. 9 December 2007: Well, I think it's safe to say he's not going to bite the bait and you'd be best to move on and forget about it.
As far as you being straight, I think you've confused the definition man, sounds to me like you're gay, and the sooner you admit to... (read in full...)
He says he's an atheist and therefore won't buy me a Christmas present. Should I stay with him?
Q. my boyfriend refuses to buy me a christmas present because he says he is an atheist and doesnt celebrate christmas. i have already bought him something (very nice that he has been wanting) but last night he told me he wouldnt buy christmas gifts at...
A. 9 December 2007: you're boyfriend is just being cheap.
if he'll accept the gift you got him but refuses to give you anything or help you then it's got nothing to do with him being an athiest, it's got to do with him being lazy and inconsiderate.
I hate to enc... (read in full...)
What to do to make anal sex not painful - except for relaxation and lube? Your suggestions please?
Q. I feel anal sex kind of painful although: I use lots of lubricant,and I em very relaxed! What's wrong? Are some women never able togo through this? It is kind of painful especially in the beginning of the anal act. Any suggestions apart from lube ...
A. 9 December 2007: The only thing I can think of would be conditioning, which would mean you'd just basically have to get used to anal.... (read in full...)
He can't keep a job, he stays up all nights watching porn and he is avoiding talking about our problems. What can I do to improve this situation?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years is a solitary, friendless, introverted person who has barely worked in the 2 years we have been together. He is teaching himself programming at home with the aim of getting a job he wants, although I am concerned about the ...
A. 9 December 2007: Well you say he's solitary and friendless, and he obviously doesn't like going to work, or trying to go out and get work... He sounds pretty avoidant.
Avoidants have a hard time expressing feelings too, that could be why he doesn't like to discu... (read in full...)
I try to help my family but I feel I'm on the verge of loosing my mind. How do I cope with being the good daughter and keep my sanity?
Q. I'm 24 years old and I am still living at home with my parents, which is crazy in itself. My sister has been anorexic for 4 years now and for the first 3 years, I stayed living at home thinking I may possibly be able to reach out to my sister. I...
A. 9 December 2007: I seriously think if you don't sperate yourself from your family soon you're going to have a mental breakdown.
That's way too much for any one person to have to deal with.
Maybe you could move in with your boyfriend or something?
Or... (read in full...)
I don't want to be known for grass.
Q. My ex finished with me for someone else a month ago and has hurt me so much. I cant describe how it feels but my whole life has turned upside down. I love him so much and cant stop myself. The thing is, in the last few months of our relationship he ...
A. 9 December 2007: Also, obviously it was OK and you just ignored it when you were with him, you're convincing yourself there's fault in it so you can justify hurting him. I'm not trying to patronize you, I just think seeking revenge on your ex-boyfriend is ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my ex saying I'm bi-polar??
Q. My ex is crazy! When we were together he posted a video of us on youtube. Now, one of his comments said I am his ex fiance and I had some emotional and mental problems. Yeah right! I broke up with him because he was emotionally abusive and he just ...
A. 9 December 2007: You broke up with him, if he tells people "Hhe was crazy man, she had mental issues, I couldn't deal with that." It makes it sound better than "I was a shitty boyfriend so she dumped me." It's as simple as that, he's trying to make himself look bet... (read in full...)
When I eat I sometimes get sick.
Q. I am 16 i have been getting really stressed at home with my parents,they are blamin me for things i havent done and i have been kicked out twice now.my mum is refusing to feed me because i am not in work at the moment i am in an collague course.and ...
A. 8 December 2007: Sounds like an ulcer.
You get them from being stressed out, I had one before, and you get sick whenever you eat if you have one.
You also can't drink alcohol with an ulcer or you get ridiculously sick.
If I were you I'd try saving up some m... (read in full...)
Why don't boy ( like teenage boys) like girls with gingerish hair ...
Q. Why don't boy ( like teenage boys) like girls with gingerish hair ... im not ginger ( i have brown hair ) but my mate is and i feel bad for her.. i fink i colours lovly and so is she. please help. ...
A. 8 December 2007: Alot of people are turned off by gingers, I'm a ginger, but I've still gotten a good number of dates and hook ups.
Some people like gingers more than others, it's all just personal opinion.... (read in full...)
I found sexually explicit messages on my young brother's phone. Do I tell my parents, or talk to him firstly?
Q. I recently found some sexually explicit messages on my younger brothers phone not only from him by a number of girls some even younger than him. I am really worried about his emotional and physical state as he has been really agressive lately. Is ...
A. 8 December 2007: Ahh... How young is he? That'd be my first question.
Is he a teen yet? If so I say you should leave it alone, but if he's just a child then yeah you should talk to him and maybe your parents about it.... (read in full...)
I'm a member of the clergy and I'm gay. How can I find a gay relationship and be cautious, at the same time?
Q. i am a mmember of the clergy..must be very discreet..not a pedophile but gay..want to have gay relationships with guys of legal age..but must be very very careful..i got burned once when a guy used me to get hush money..i only saw him once..it was ...
A. 5 December 2007: I think you should leave the clergy, you could still pray to god and live your life the way you want.
Besides, if God and the rest of the clergy don't respect you because you're gay, then they arn't the forgiving and loving people they claim to... (read in full...)
Do people say 'I love you' and not mean it??
Q. Is it possible for someone to really not be in love and just use the word? I've had many relationships and last year, well 3 months ago i was in love. We had an 8 month relationship he ended it abruptly and im still in love with him. I see him ...
A. 4 December 2007: Alot of guys bust out the L word and don't mean it at all.
Often because the girl will say it first, and the guy will do so to avoid hurting her feelings or causing a problem with the relationship - though that doesn't mean he doesn't dislike ... (read in full...)
My partner with whom I've been living for 15 yrs has asked me to leave his house (but I will not.) Does he truly love the other woman? What to do?
Q. I have been with my partner for 15 years and have lived with him for all this time. My partner has had several affairs over the last 12 years, these have always happened at time when we have been under severe pressure from other areas whether it...
A. 4 December 2007: Leave that guy, then nominate him for worst boyfriend of the decade.
Any guy who cheats, hits you, or emotionally abuses you isn't worth keeping around, any guy who does all three isn't worth contacting let alone loving.... (read in full...)
Stupid me!!!! I was played like a fiddle!
Q. stupid me.. I was scammed by an escort.. he performed the service, stole my cell phone.. called and threatened to expose me as being gay to my wife.. I met him.. got the phone.. gave him cash for it.. then he called again.. more threats.. he had my ...
A. 3 December 2007: Never happened to me but I wouldn't trust an escort, sucks that happened man. The guy was a con artist and a half.... (read in full...)
Is giving him a second chance the right thing to do??
Q. ok... I'm goin out with this guy but my friend doesn't like him. I have gone out with him before but he cheated on me. All im doing is givin him a second chance. Am i doing the right thing by going out with him?????? ...
A. 1 December 2007: He's a cheater and your friends don't like him, the guy doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend in my opinion, your friends probably see that and that's probably why they dont like him.
If I were you I'd dump him, I wouldn't give a cheater ... (read in full...)
Why wont he get the tatoo of his ex's name removed??
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my partner for almost three years now. We are about to buy our first house together. However, he still has his ex partner's name tattooed on his arm. I know they did not split up amicably and wonder why he doesn't ...
A. 1 December 2007: That's really not a big deal. I wouldn't get it removed from my arm either, it doesn't mean he has any feelings for her still, it still holds some memory though. If I were you I'd just drop it, if you actually care about him it'd be flat out ... (read in full...)
We are of different nationalities and our parents do not allow us to date. How to handle this?
Q. I've been in a relationship with an Asian girl for about five months now and I have two problems in one (*gasp*). First is that her parents don't want her to go out with anyone until she's 18 (she's 14 and I'm 15) and the fact that she's Asian...
A. 30 November 2007: Tell your parents to get with the times.
Tell her to tell her parents the same, not dating until 18? That's a bit ridiculous and unrealistic.
As far as not dating people of different nationalities, that's just predjudice.
Who cares what ... (read in full...)
I'm 21, she's 17... Is this too much of a difference?
Q. im 21 and thinking of asking a girl out thats 17. is that too young? opinions please....
A. 30 November 2007: Some people will call you a pervert, but some people are just dicks so who cares?
17 isn't that young, she's one year off from being a legal adult, I say go for it man.... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him... ? Because *I'm* not that much of a freak!
Q. im popular and so is this boy that likes me. but he likes to do freaky things with his girlfriends. i would kiss him and dub him but i might not do the things his other girlfriends have. should i go out with him and stay shy? dont go out with him? ...
A. 30 November 2007: Well how freaky is this kid?
Does he expect sex from you and you arn't ready? Or is he into S&M (which I doubt is the case ocnsidering his age)... If you like him go out with him, if he expects you to do things sexually that you don't want to, tell... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as destiny? For everyone?
Q. hi guys..............is there such thing as destiny??? Is there someone for everyone out there???...
A. 30 November 2007: I don't believe in soulmates.
Just think, there are give or take 6.5 billion people in the world, the odds of you finding 1 perfect person is pretty low.
No matter who you end up with there is probably someone in the world who is better for y... (read in full...)
Did I offend him?
Q. Lately I've been baking a lot and I take some of the cookies and stuff to church. I gave some of the cookies to this guy and later he came over while I was talking to my friend to say thanks. I wasn't really paying attention and I quickly brushe...
A. 30 November 2007: He took it wrong obviously, he probably thinks you dislike him, and it sounds like he likes you.... (read in full...)
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